I don't know what to do, HELP ME~! Thanks.

[IcedTiger]

I've been together with my girl for 5 months now. and she is type of a girl who flirts with other males constantly. she says she loves me more than 10 times a day. we really do love each other and feel like we are the ones for each other. but when we happen to go to clubs and she drinks. She acts differently and pays no or less attention to me and pays full attention to her friends(male). obviously the male friends are going to get wrong impression if a girl comes up to you and lean over and touch you and talk to you and smile. so they end up touching her.....butts, shoulder. once i saw them kiss...i confronted my girl friend after that happened, and she said that never happened. even though i saw them kiss with my eyes. and then she admitted that it was just a smooch. yet she gets super duper jealous when i just talk to girls without touching them. or hugging them or kissing them. i've never been jealous in my life, cuz i am pretty confident about myself, but i don't think i deserve these kind of behaviour from anybody. I don't know what to do, she still talks to male friends that flirt with her on the phone. and she gets mad when i tell her not to. she says "you still talk to your "girl" friends over the phone, why can't I" but I don't flirt or touch or kiss my girl friends, we just been friends for a long time, but she doesn't understand. another problem with my girl is that she's never on time. she always comes up with excuses after being late. and that really *%#&¤?§* es me off, cuz i am kind of a guy who is always 10 minutes early never 10 minutes late. recently, while we were making love, she told me that she's sorry for all those wrong actions she'd done and she started to cry and said that she'll improve for me and she loves me a lot. Since then, things gotten lil bit better and she is treating me better. the thing is though...she just gotten out of relationship 2 months before we were dating. the previous relationship was 7 years long. lol, and she's only 20. i am 22. and she is scared lil bit i guess for commitment after being cheated on by her ex. lol plus she knows that i've been a bad boy too. but i've changed, believe or not, never cheated on her. I have been faithful, never even thought about dumping her for another girl, or cheat on her and take a risk of losing her. I always put her on first priorty but she seems to not do the same for me. I mean, i am a decent guy who's not bad looking, nice body, good career, nice ride, u know...all the things that girls want in a person. the only thing is though, that i am a bit possessive at times. and I am kind of a demanding person. she calls me "dad" sometimes because of that. hehe. she is planning on moving out within 2 months and i asked if i could move in with her, she said after living by herself for couple of months, then she'll think about it. I just don't understand why she wouldn't want me to move in with her. ughh...sometimes i wish that there was no such thing is relationship though we have good times together. our sex is great, at least twice a day everyday for last 3 months. LoL. i bet we are the couple that have most sex in my city. it's gotten really good cuz we are emotionally involved, and yeah. I bought her a ring, could be a promise or engagement ring. but haven't handed it to her yet. don't know when or how. I mean it might be too early for engagement ring? and it's proper to ask her parents for permission prior? and I haven't really gotten to know her parents yet. we talked about marriage, i brought it up couple of times and so did she. I asked if she meant it, and she said yes. she's so pretty and attractive and i just don't like the way she flirts with other guys and other guys touching her and stuff. grrr makes me so angry. my hands start to shake whenever s##@ like that goes down. and i don't think that's healthy for me. what should I do. I really love this girl and believe she loves me too. Thanks.

[Bryanp]

Hello,

 

My friend I would suggest you find someone else. It will only get worse. She apparently cannot hold her drinking and enjoys flirting with other men even when you are with you. In addition, she lies to you about kissing another guy in front of you. If she does these things when you are present, what do you think she will do when you are not present? These are major red flags. You are wasting your time and she will continue to hurt you. She clearly is immature and not ready for a relationship. She seems to be getting off playing you as the fool. Do you really need to have a piano fall on your head to wise up? Don't you think you deserve better than this?

[tanbark813]

Your girlfriend sounds exactly like one of my exes. After putting up with much of the same bs in the past that you are having to now, my advice to you is:

 

Run. Run fast. Don't look back. Ever.

 

 

In general, girls in their early 20's going through this type of phase take years to get it all out of their system. Maybe she'll grow up eventually, but I doubt it would happen anytime soon. Only you can decide if she's worth it and how much you're willing to work with her to get her to tone down her flirting.

 

But please, for the love of all that is good and pure, hold off on asking her to marry you. That's not a decision to be taken lightly. Divorcing a wife and breaking up with a girlfriend are two entirely different things.