maddog62 Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 Sorry for the long post here, but I really need advise. I am a 50 year old guy that until 3 years ago was married to my wife for 23 years. Raised 2 healthy happy daughters and have numerous grandchildren. That is the backstory. Three years ago I fell for a younger 28 year old woman. I divorced and started a relationship with this new woman. We both love sex, and have had a great sex life. Now the problem. I met this woman at a strip club, and she was working as a prostitute. Has only been doing it a short time to support her daughter of 4. All was well for 6 months, and i found out she had cheated on me with an old client. (she would keep names and numbers of her best johns). She promised never to do it again, explaining she needed the money because I was not giving her enough. I accepted her back, and had her move in with me, partially to keep track of her. Again all was well for about 6 months. You guessed it, cheated again, this time with the same client about 6 times before I caught her. Same excuse, she had this guy convinced she needed a new car and he gave her money to buy one in exchange for sex. Wow, I took her back one more time. About 2 months ago, fast forward about a year and a half, she had been working for about 6 months a steady good job, we were acting as a family, considering marriage. I had finally managed to trust her again. She started to go out dancing and walking, etc. with a group of women from her job. I had met all of them, and with exception to 2 of them, they were all nice respectable women. 2 months ago, she dropped the rest and went out with the 2 that basically date men for sex, sometimes for money. I told her to stop which she said she did. Last Friday we supposed to go out dancing and she called me about 8 and said she was tired and had to work at 7am. and wanted to stay at her house and sleep. I found out the next day through friends that she had gone out with the 2 skanks and picked up 2 college boys, danced all night, went to their hotel and had sex. There, again sorry for the long post. WHAT DO I DO? YES, I love her and know she has a good side to her but this cheating is physically killing me now. I ended up at my doctors office Monday with chest pains and high blood pressure. She says she will never do it again. Oh, one more thing. She wants me to open a joint checking account with her and put her name on the deed to my house. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
CarboniteCammy Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 There is kind of alot going on here at one time... Are you looking for advice on keeping your relationship together? Do you want to end the relationship you're in? You may want to also get tested for STDs. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 Sorry for the long post here, but I really need advise. I am a 50 year old guy that until 3 years ago was married to my wife for 23 years. Raised 2 healthy happy daughters and have numerous grandchildren. That is the backstory. Three years ago I fell for a younger 28 year old woman. I divorced and started a relationship with this new woman. We both love sex, and have had a great sex life. Now the problem. I met this woman at a strip club, and she was working as a prostitute. Has only been doing it a short time to support her daughter of 4. All was well for 6 months, and i found out she had cheated on me with an old client. (she would keep names and numbers of her best johns). She promised never to do it again, explaining she needed the money because I was not giving her enough. I accepted her back, and had her move in with me, partially to keep track of her. Again all was well for about 6 months. You guessed it, cheated again, this time with the same client about 6 times before I caught her. Same excuse, she had this guy convinced she needed a new car and he gave her money to buy one in exchange for sex. Wow, I took her back one more time. About 2 months ago, fast forward about a year and a half, she had been working for about 6 months a steady good job, we were acting as a family, considering marriage. I had finally managed to trust her again. She started to go out dancing and walking, etc. with a group of women from her job. I had met all of them, and with exception to 2 of them, they were all nice respectable women. 2 months ago, she dropped the rest and went out with the 2 that basically date men for sex, sometimes for money. I told her to stop which she said she did. Last Friday we supposed to go out dancing and she called me about 8 and said she was tired and had to work at 7am. and wanted to stay at her house and sleep. I found out the next day through friends that she had gone out with the 2 skanks and picked up 2 college boys, danced all night, went to their hotel and had sex. There, again sorry for the long post. WHAT DO I DO? YES, I love her and know she has a good side to her but this cheating is physically killing me now. I ended up at my doctors office Monday with chest pains and high blood pressure. She says she will never do it again. Oh, one more thing. She wants me to open a joint checking account with her and put her name on the deed to my house. Thanks What do you do? Re read your post. Read it again. She gets paid to cheat. You are never gonna make her stop. Don't give her one penny - get rid of her ASAP! Link to post Share on other sites
96nole Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 What do you do? Try coming up with a believable story next time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Nyla Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 Why do I think this is a fake post? A prostitute that keeps hooking and you're wondering what to do? And as a kicker, you throw in that she wants to be on your checking account and your house? If this isn't a joke post, then get rid of her, now. Not soon, not after next time, NOW. There are NO other options. She is a gold digger and a semi-retired hooker. END IT. You think the post is fake because it is so bizarre. A prostitute can stop hooking and be devoted to one man, but clearly that is not what is happening in the OP's case. He needs to get rid of her unless he enjoys being taken for a ride. Nobody is worth getting physically ill over. Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 So, she is 30 , working a regular job, and hooking. Your ex must have a blast with this. I almost envy her! Link to post Share on other sites
Author maddog62 Posted March 14, 2013 Author Share Posted March 14, 2013 As messed up as it may sound, I AM NOT lying. I have left out many of the sordid details due to my own humility. I posted this as a question, a request for help on a forum that is supposed to help people through difficult situations. If you read it, you know I was with one woman, my first and only other woman, for many years. And no, she actually understands my personality and we are still good friends. However, there are certain things I cannot ask for advise on. I am insecure about letting this one go. I do not know how to get through it. I have tried 3 times now and cannot mae it through one day without wondering if she is already sleeping with another guy. It is beyond jealousy, it is not possessivness either. And yes, in some strange way if I force her to tell me the details it hurts so bad that I feel I deserve it. Maybe because I left my wife for her in the first place. And no, now she cheated for the sex, not money. Please, if anyone out there has serious advise, I would appreciate it. I need to find a way to keep my resolve and not take this woman back again as I truly fear it will kill me next time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author maddog62 Posted March 14, 2013 Author Share Posted March 14, 2013 Its not about the mistake I made in hooking up with this woman. At the time I felt there was a connection. My wife was my only other relationship with ANY woman. The reason I posted this was to get advise on how to stay away from her. You think this is fake? Then dont reply!! To make this matter even deeper, get this. I am an American, and I own property in Mexico, where I met this woman. I know live and run my business here in Mexico!! I know I really messed up what is left of my life, but I really do not need to hear it again. I need to know what others have done to stay away from ex-girlfriends, and how they got over the break up. I have zero experience in this and since she is so good at working me she always wins. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 Well OP Karma is a bi-ch! You cheated on your ex wife and now you know how it feels. Enjoy! Link to post Share on other sites
CarboniteCammy Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 You may want to do a quick search of "no contact" here on this site. It's pretty much like it sounds, you just don't contact the other person. No emails, no phone calls, you just completely split ways and move on with life. I would say that she probably won't let you go easily, as you're her meal ticket and what not. Plus, she can cheat on you and do whatever with no consequences. Fast women and all that, I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 Its not about the mistake I made in hooking up with this woman. At the time I felt there was a connection. My wife was my only other relationship with ANY woman. The reason I posted this was to get advise on how to stay away from her. You think this is fake? Then dont reply!! To make this matter even deeper, get this. I am an American, and I own property in Mexico, where I met this woman. I know live and run my business here in Mexico!! I know I really messed up what is left of my life, but I really do not need to hear it again. I need to know what others have done to stay away from ex-girlfriends, and how they got over the break up. I have zero experience in this and since she is so good at working me she always wins. Thanks What that is, isn't love. She doesn't love you the way you love her. She loves what you provide for her and uses what you feel, against you as a weapon. Your life is in shambles, your woman picker is off. You let go of a wife, a family life that was good for a woman who uses people and is a cheater. Do yourself a big favour and do counseling so you can get strong enough to walk away from her before you lose everything. There, again sorry for the long post. WHAT DO I DO? YES, I love her and know she has a good side to her but this cheating is physically killing me now. I ended up at my doctors office Monday with chest pains and high blood pressure. She says she will never do it again. Oh, one more thing. She wants me to open a joint checking account with her and put her name on the deed to my house. DO NOT open a joint account and put her name on the deed of the house. If you, she'll screw you over. Link to post Share on other sites
Cali408 Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 You should have bought a Corvette. It would have been a cheaper alternative to your mid-life crisis 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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