Wife taking a break, i'm lost

[Darth Vader]

Well, she came over today and we were able to have a nice talk. I was able to say my piece and admit to what I feel I had done wrong and wanted to improve upon. She, however, does not think that she has any issues. She feels she communicated all these issues clearly to me over the years and I did not listen. I disagree that it was clear, but did not argue to avoid any fighting. She holds alot of her feelings in and when she was upset she wants to be alone until they get bottled up and she's fine again. Either that or she would drink. Then she blamed me for all the drinking. I had always wanted to talk and figure out what was wrong. But pressing that would just make her upset.

 

Looking into her eyes while talking to her, she was not the same person she was even a month ago. She holds alot of resentment toward me. And just like her father, she will hold a grudge and be stubborn about it. She says growing up she never saw herself getting married and never wanted kids. She wants to take care of herself. I feel even if I had addressed these issues, we may still have come to this place. We did not come to a formal decision but I don't really have much hope. She will not see a counselor and thinks they are full of it. I'm assuming we are separated and headed for D. It is up to her to file.

 

I will continue to better myself and work on the issues that I admit to. Unfortunately, she will realize that her issues will follow her to the next relationship. One good thing is that we both can remain civil with each other and hopefully keep the process as drama free as possible.

 

 

She has resentment? All the more for her to rewrite your marital history!

 

Chances are, she's screwing her OM, just file for Divorce and STOP being her backup plan! She wants to remain civil all the while she has sex with her OM! Do you realize if she becomes pregnant with OM's baby, she can come back and try to pawn it off on you, and say "it was all a mistake" or some other BS. Shoot! She may return, reconcile and have sex with you while preggers with OM's baby to hide the fact they banged each other! This happens all the time!

 

Why wait for her and be her back up plan? Aren't you worth more than that? I think you are!