How do I listen to people?

[Regist]

Hello!

 

I have two "simple" questions just to keep it short:

 

How do I listen to people and really take in and react naturally to what they say, and really care about what they are saying, without thinking about keeping eyecontact and other stuff that should come naturally?

 

And how do I just react/say what's on my mind when I respond?

 

I seem to overthink things constantly, as people are talking to me I think, and that gets in the way of listening. Any good books/programs/tips that have helped you out?

[FitChick]

Focus on them and not yourself. Don't be so self-centered.