Elfie Posted March 18, 2013 Share Posted March 18, 2013 I went into the affair knowing he was married. The fact that he was not leaving his family was well covered territory and I was just fine with that. . I just wanted to add - this sentence I personally can't include in my previous post. I wasn't fine with it at all, as I had heard lots of gossip from others, that he was neglected, put down, under the thumb, prior to me talking to him, so I built up the idea before the A that he was in need of love, just the same as I was at that particular time. If anything, he denied he was all of those things, and over time it became clear the marriage was "cosy" as he put it. Maybe he was happy to let me believe until I was fully drawn in, I don't know, but he did also use the line "it's not good but it's not that bad either". He also told me that he loved me "but not enough to leave". And I stayed........... Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 It's been a month with NC, yet I have this same argument with myself every day... man, I really miss him...maybe I'll send him an email just to check in...what if he doesn't reply or what if he does?...I definitely don't want things going back to the way they were before! He's married & I won't do make that mistake again...so, errrr, I guess there's not much point in sending a message after all I guess...but man, I really miss him (over & over & over) It's exhausting! I tell myself he is ONLY one person!! HOW can I let one person effect my life like this? I know it's over! It needs to stay over! Why can't I just get over it? Anyone else find themselves doing things like this? Hi WAI, Yes, I still feel this way sometimes. It's completely normal whether its after the breakup of an A or any other kind of R. You'll go through spells but it gets easier over time. Link to post Share on other sites
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