LadyGrey Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 If I were inclined to report, which I'm not, your post would have been one of them in that thread. It was insensitive at that point in time. You don't get it.......and that's fine. The disclosure was not the topic of the thread. The community guidelines state that members should respond to the issues raised in the opening post. IIRC, that was all that those members were doing - respecting the community guidelines. So I'm confused as to why an apology was being sought, or expected. If someone starts a thread, and members respond on topic, ignoring any off-topic meanders (whether good, bad or indifferent), how is it reasonable for the OP to demand that they not follow the thread topic, but instead focus on something entirely different? Were any of those posts disrespectful in terms of the opening post / topic of the thread? If so, report them. Were any personally antagonistic to the OP specifically pertaining to the "confession"? If so, report them. But to be disgruntled because some members went back to discussing the original topic of the thread, as they are instructed to do by the community guidelines, is a little disingenuous, IMO. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 For sure. But you still weren't there. Not were you. We have something in common 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Decorative Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Not were you. We have something in common So we have about the same level of knowledge of what happened. You ( and I) have no idea what consequences he actually had. We agree. Whew. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
kristismiles Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 What I'd like is for the affair person to at least acknowledge that what they did is wrong. To have some understanding that no it was not ok to **** a married person. Link to post Share on other sites
LFH Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 What I'd like is for the affair person to at least acknowledge that what they did is wrong. To have some understanding that no it was not ok to **** a married person. The affair partner who had an affair with your husband? Or all of us? Link to post Share on other sites
underwater2010 Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 I feel that the thread has lost the original intention. As a fAP do you feel you should apologise to all the BS everywhere on the LS site ? No. It's, it not their damned business what I happened with the xMM. No...I personally do not expect any OW/MOW/MOM/OM to apologize for my FWH's behavior or that of his MAP. It is not your place. Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 So we have about the same level of knowledge of what happened. You ( and I) have no idea what consequences he actually had. We agree. Whew. Do you know him? His family, friends, colleagues? I had no idea. Sorry a thousand times. I thought you were just having a dig. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LadyGrey Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Since when is on topic but insensitive in time posting against LS guidelines? This is silly. Last time I will comment on this. This thread was borne from something that was said in my thread that was misunderstood. The insensitive timing issue was in THAT thread. Since coco choose to respond here to me about that, I responded. Simple. Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 What I'd like is for the affair person to at least acknowledge that what they did is wrong. To have some understanding that no it was not ok to **** a married person. In general or in your specific situation? If in general, why does it matter to you? I would like the world to stop eating meat, I don't think that is going to happen. Link to post Share on other sites
LFH Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 If a MP is so well known by their AP, the AP would NEVER be blindsided by them as so many are. You're right, knowing someone must mean that they can never be blindsided by the affair. Right? So then are you saying that the wife/husband should have known about the affair? Or does know? Or are you saying that they don't know their spouse? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Since I consider it wrong to eat meat and cruel I would love for you to apologize but more importantly stop but I think your comment was tongue in cheek. Link to post Share on other sites
LFH Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Since I consider it wrong to eat meat and cruel I would love for you to apologize but more importantly stop but I think your comment was tongue in cheek. Well, I will apologize to you for my post making you feel bad, but I can't apologize for the fact that I love meat and that it would actually be unhealthy for me to switch to a veggie diet right now. And yes, my post was meant tongue in cheek. Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 If a MP is so well known by their AP, the AP would NEVER be blindsided by them as so many are. Is it a stretch to consider the MP is better known by the AP than by a stranger on an Internet forum? Might take some serious thought, that one.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Decorative Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Do you know him? His family, friends, colleagues? I had no idea. Sorry a thousand times. I thought you were just having a dig. Not a dig. Just pointing out the facts- which is that you don't know. And neither do I. I'm going to stop now. You seem to be missing the point. And that's okay. Link to post Share on other sites
LFH Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 I'm saying when it comes to cheaters, they lie lie lie. So then why not just say that? Because I think my point stands very clearly next to yours does it not? Link to post Share on other sites
RainDown Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Maybe I'm just strange, but when I was a BS it never crossed my mind to think OW should apologize to me. I really gave her (well, them actually) no thought or energy at all. She wasn't important to me. I can't be the only BS around who sees the OW as simply a woman my husband used to get his needs met at the time. OW wasn't going out of her way to do anything to me deliberately. She simply fell for my husband and his line of bullsh*t. An apology from her to me would do nothing to change my life. Besides, if she had said "No" he would have just kept his eyes open for another one who'd say "Yes". I don't have the time or energy to devote to every female on the planet my husband might decide to bang. HE controlled that train and he could have stopped it at any time. HE committed to me, she didn't. HE is the one who should have the sense to apologize for breaking his vows to me. Not that he ever will, azzhat that he is. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LFH Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Maybe I'm just strange, but when I was a BS it never crossed my mind to think OW should apologize to me. I really gave her (well, them actually) no thought or energy at all. She wasn't important to me. I can't be the only BS around who sees the OW as simply a woman my husband used to get his needs met at the time. OW wasn't going out of her way to do anything to me deliberately. She simply fell for my husband and his line of bullsh*t. An apology from her to me would do nothing to change my life. Besides, if she had said "No" he would have just kept his eyes open for another one who'd say "Yes". I don't have the time or energy to devote to every female on the planet my husband might decide to bang. HE controlled that train and he could have stopped it at any time. HE committed to me, she didn't. HE is the one who should have the sense to apologize for breaking his vows to me. Not that he ever will, azzhat that he is. To me, this is sane and rational thinking. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Maybe I'm just strange, but when I was a BS it never crossed my mind to think OW should apologize to me. I really gave her (well, them actually) no thought or energy at all. She wasn't important to me. I can't be the only BS around who sees the OW as simply a woman my husband used to get his needs met at the time. OW wasn't going out of her way to do anything to me deliberately. She simply fell for my husband and his line of bullsh*t. An apology from her to me would do nothing to change my life. Besides, if she had said "No" he would have just kept his eyes open for another one who'd say "Yes". I don't have the time or energy to devote to every female on the planet my husband might decide to bang. HE controlled that train and he could have stopped it at any time. HE committed to me, she didn't. HE is the one who should have the sense to apologize for breaking his vows to me. Not that he ever will, azzhat that he is. You were married to a POS, a philanderer. But, what about the guy who cheats only once in his life because the OW crawls under him? There are a few OWs her that selectively picked a married non philandering man to have sex with. Link to post Share on other sites
LFH Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 No, because according to you, your MM NEVER lies to you. Yet you don't really know that, and neither do any of the rest of us. Only he knows. Which is really the heart of the matter. The MP is really the primary one responsible for A's and they lie ALL THE TIME in order to get what they want. However, there would be no A without an AP. Think what you want. I am secure in the knowledge of my own reality. I'm simply pointing out that people love to come point out that the MM might be lying to his OW, while accepting everything that he's "now confessing" as truth. I find it ironic. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 You were married to a POS, a philanderer. But, what about the guy who cheats only once in his life because the OW crawls under him? There are a few OWs her that selectively picked a married non philandering man to have sex with. Oh yeah!! "Sorry m'lud, whilst I was watching Match of the Day the wench crawled under me and raped me against my will, nothing to do with me, I am but a VICTIM" 3 Link to post Share on other sites
LFH Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Oh yeah!! "Sorry m'lud, whilst I was watching Match of the Day the wench crawled under me and raped me against my will, nothing to do with me, I am but a VICTIM" :lmao::lmao:Pretty sure you should apologize to me now, I think I need a new keyboard. Mine is covered in lemonade. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Oh yeah!! "Sorry m'lud, whilst I was watching Match of the Day the wench crawled under me and raped me against my will, nothing to do with me, I am but a VICTIM" I know of a case where the OW spiked the man's drink with huge doses of Viagra and then seduced him as she dressed up in a dominatrix outfit. Happens all the time. :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
LFH Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 I know of a case where the OW spiked the man's drink with huge doses of Viagra and then seduced him as she dressed up in a dominatrix outfit. Happens all the time. :laugh: You obviously go to different types of parties than most of us. And if she was a dominatrix, it's probably not her style to spike his drink. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 You were married to a POS, a philanderer. But, what about the guy who cheats only once in his life because the OW crawls under him? There are a few OWs her that selectively picked a married non philandering man to have sex with. Oh the poor widdle MM, how can he protect himself from that big bad OW and her majical powers!?! Hint: if he was non philandering he wouldn't have picked up the label MM. Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 I know of a case where the OW spiked the man's drink with huge doses of Viagra and then seduced him as she dressed up in a dominatrix outfit. Happens all the time. :laugh: Ummm, that is rape. How do you know it happens all the time? What does all the time mean? And that should be reported to the police. Link to post Share on other sites
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