2.5 weeks after, we talked...

[castroadis]

So, after 2.5 weeks of no contact, he texted and asked if it was okay for him to call. I agreed and we had a long chat about what led to the breakup. Basically, the stress of being in a LDR and miscommunication got to us. I understood and admitted my faults, I understand where I went wrong and apologized for the mishandling of the situation. He says he wants time to focus on his career, he recently graduated and started a high pressure job (6 days a week, 12 hours). He told me he loves me, thinks of me, misses me etc. His parents got angry at him for breaking up with me, we had a special bond, they told him he was making a rash decision. Before the split I had booked a flight to see him and told him I was taking the opportunity to see some contacts that could help me advance professionally. He said he was open to see me.

 

The conversation made me understand his position and confusion.

The day after the conversation we texted, I kept it minimal and brief. Yesterday we spoke on facebook, he told me he was looking for me on messenger. I kept it light and provided support for him in his new career; He is having a hard time adjusting.

 

My question is: would this point at an eventual reconciliation?

I don't want to jump back into a relationship and his contact doesn't feel like breadcrumbs (had them before). The breakup has changed me and made me see things clearer. Any thoughts on this situation?

[Treasa]

Ok, so from reading your previous posts, he broke up with you because you were in a LDR, even though you were scheduled to move in a month. And then it was because of miscommunication. And then it had something to do with his studies. Which is it? It sounds like he's trying to find every reason to break up with you.

 

Do not go and see him. If he wants to be with you again, he needs to be very, very clear about it. He should practically on his knees asking for you back. As he's not, he doesn't want you back. Seeing him would only hurt you, and you know that.

 

Also, stop helping him. You work a lot, and I know you're trying to be nice, and hoping that if he sees how much you love him that he'll change his mind, but you're just teaching him that he can use you. He's an adult. Let him handle his own ****.

[castroadis]

Thanks for your reply Treasa.

His reasoning was that our fights, due to miscommunication would've made it very hard on him to focus on his new career (He just graduated).

[Treasa]

Those are excuses. Everyone has stress. If you've been together for such a long time, but only now the fights are bad enough to break up over, then it's time to accept that it's over.