latinacorazon Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 So I'm 22, have a child who's father I divorce 2 years ago. I met an amazing guy who is vietnamese and we will be moving in together in two weeks. My son adores him, I think everybody does since he is just overall a great person. He is 28 he goes to school and has asked me to move in since we been together for a year. My son and him get along so well , here come the sad thing. For the last 3 months I been living a double life. I because a well paid escort. I don't know how longer I can hide this from him. I know I need to quit now before we get together but it's so hard for me. I make to much money in this industry ! I make over 5000 a week sometimes . God I need help, I need courage to stop what I'm doing. I have a wonderful boyfriend and son who I don't want to loose. I know I don't want to live this way, but going back to school and getting a regular job sounds so hard for me to do since I'm used to spoiling myself. Please I don't need any bad comments. I don't excuse myself for what I have done, I accept it was my biggest mistake. Nobody is perfect, I just need the strength to overcome it all and be the person I really am. A loving mother and girlfriend. I can't keep living this way. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 but going back to school and getting a regular job sounds so hard for me to do since I'm used to spoiling myself. Decide what truly is more important to you. A lavish lifestyle, one that you get to spoil yourself? Or put your child first above your own needs and live a simple, honest life, in a home that is filled with love, support and peace. Hard work is good. It makes one stronger and feel accomplished in life, makes one appreciate all that they have from blood, sweat and tears. Good luck and I hope you make the right decision. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Eggplant Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 You have divorced, and you are a mother on your own! If you can go through these things, there is nothing you cannot do. Getting a regular job is not so hard. Wow, you do make a lot of money. But the price you pay is high. Having the man for your husband and child's father will make you happier and much richer in life. I wish you luck, suerte. Link to post Share on other sites
Lillyfree Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 it's pretty easy really. imagine your child as an adult, or even a teen. now ask whether they would prefer for their mother to have been an escort, unhappy and without a stable home, but with a great income - or proud, happy woman in a relationship with a guy who loves her and her child, on a more modest income. then take action from there. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stevie_23 Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 I don't see why being an escort has to automatically mean an unstable and unhappy family and a breakdown of of this relationship... It's a job, like any other. If it pays well, all the better! However, you do seem to not want to continue working in this industry. Why is that? Because of the fear of the reaction of your boyfriend / child, etc? Family? Or because you personally don't want to do it anymore? If you really don't want to continue doing it, then good luck to you in getting out. It can be hard to leave a job that pays so well... Link to post Share on other sites
Lillyfree Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 I don't see why being an escort has to automatically mean an unstable and unhappy family and a breakdown of of this relationship... It's a job, like any other. If it pays well, all the better! i'll have to disagree with you stevie. it ISN'T a job like any other, if it was she wouldn't have to hide it from anyone. i've got nothing against anyone's choice of profession - the advice i gave was going on what OP originally posted - bolded bits especially. So I'm 22, have a child who's father I divorce 2 years ago. I met an amazing guy who is vietnamese and we will be moving in together in two weeks. My son adores him, I think everybody does since he is just overall a great person. He is 28 he goes to school and has asked me to move in since we been together for a year. My son and him get along so well , here come the sad thing. For the last 3 months I been living a double life. I because a well paid escort. I don't know how longer I can hide this from him. I know I need to quit now before we get together but it's so hard for me. I make to much money in this industry ! I make over 5000 a week sometimes . God I need help, I need courage to stop what I'm doing. I have a wonderful boyfriend and son who I don't want to loose. I know I don't want to live this way, but going back to school and getting a regular job sounds so hard for me to do since I'm used to spoiling myself. Please I don't need any bad comments. I don't excuse myself for what I have done, I accept it was my biggest mistake. Nobody is perfect, I just need the strength to overcome it all and be the person I really am. A loving mother and girlfriend. I can't keep living this way. it's pretty obvious, if you care to read what people write. there's sometimes an overkill in PC replies also. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 I don't see why being an escort has to automatically mean an unstable and unhappy family and a breakdown of of this relationship... It's a job, like any other. If it pays well, all the better! Stevie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She is a hooker. Don't be so innocent. I love your innocence. Link to post Share on other sites
LadyGrey Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 OP, you are the one who has the power to change your life. People can support you but ultimately it comes down to you. So which is it, integrity or the money? Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 So you misrepresented yourself and got this poor guy you call your boyfriend to get in love with you... then again... you still keep having sex with other guys when you are in a relationship with him... Wow ... you are a price to get... I am sure your boyfriend will be very happy to know you make so much money... maybe he wants some shares of your business and he can work as pimp??? Olé!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:laugh: 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stevie_23 Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 Lily...wow. Ok. I didn't realise I posted too many PC responses. I honestly don't think that society's views on a line of work should be a reason to view it as a bad choice UNLESS the person in question sees it that way for their own independent reasons. And I DID mention that the OP wasn't happy and wanted to leave the industry. I DID read her initial post. I don't just respond blindly to posts. I hope I don't come across that way. I know several people in the adult sex worker industry and some of them honestly enjoy it and don't see a reason to leave. They have to keep it private from certain people (a friend has a child and cannot tell the school what she does, but her family and friends know about it), but overall they're happy. Other people in this industry have wanted to get out for years, not because of the social stigma, but because of their own loss of self respect and the feeling that their bodies were sacred before entering the industry. It can be VERY hard to get out of due to the good money you can earn and the flexible hours it can allow. Many people do leave only to return when any other job they do, they cannot stand and can't afford to live their previous lifestyle on. I just wanted to make sure the OP wasn't feeling pressured to leave the industry JUST because of society's views about it. Because I honestly don't think it's necessary if that was the ONLY reason she wanted to get out. Also, if she feared her partner would leave her if he knew what she did, I would hope this wouldn't be the case. You CAN have a healthy relationship with someone if you work in this industry, though it is difficult. I just didn't automatically assume that if he found out, he'd leave her. Link to post Share on other sites
stevie_23 Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 Stevie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She is a hooker. Don't be so innocent. I love your innocence. It's not innocence, Pierre. I've never been a "hooker" but I don't view it as a "bad" thing to do for work if it doesn't make you feel bad doing it. My opinions here come from experience of people I know in that industry, not from innocence. Link to post Share on other sites
Author latinacorazon Posted April 4, 2013 Author Share Posted April 4, 2013 i just want to thank you all for the comments even if some where not exactly what i wanted to see it was best that i did. Its been almost two weeks since i quit being an escort. I want to let you all now I haven't felt this happy in years my life is about to take on such a brand new and different direction. I am now living with my boyfriend happier than ever with my son. I'm not going to lie and say it has been easy, its always easier said then done. But i did it and I'm so proud of myself. My son deserves better, and so do I. I want to have more kids in the future and i want to let my daughter/s know that she is capable of much more than being looked at. So many beautiful people in my life i don't need luxury to be happy. I had a successful interview today at Kforce and i feel like I'm on the right path, to finish what i started as a Corporate Accountant. I know the money wont be as good but with time and dedication i know i can get there. As long as my family is living comfortable and i can go to bed with a peace of mind i know i can do it. How amazing to meet someone and just with they're love and presence, make you want to be the best you can be. I never felt that till now. I used to get upset about not doing things fast enough, but things now come to me gradually with time. Money is nothing compared to love of my family and the love i have for myself. I have never been so ashamed and to think i did this for a while. I was blinded, the money was to good. I am only 22 and having my own car been able to by every shoe every purse every thing a girl at my age could have felt so good. Bough my son everything a kid could ever want and forgot myself worth. I'm so happy i found myself before it was to late. Well, i got to go my boyfriend and son are waiting for dinner, and i better get going if i tend to surprise them! The life i see ( envision for myself ) is the life ill lead eventually. Its not always about what the world holds for or has to offer you, its what you bring to it . 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Lillyfree Posted April 4, 2013 Share Posted April 4, 2013 so glad you're happy, that post made me smile all the best to you and your family! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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