Quilly Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 I wasn't sure where to post this, but since I'm separated (and possibly this is contributing to the issue) I thought this might be the right place. I don't know if it's the trend towards tighter shirts or if I've just developed this troublesome problem, but my estranged husband won't stop harassing me about my nipples showing (not that you can actually SEE them, just that they're there.... the old "headlights are on" deal). He says its embarrassing to him and that I should be embarrassed about it too... wanting to know how I can walk around in public in like that. I've never worn padded bras and have never paid much attention to what my nipples are doing throughout the day, so I'm not sure if this has always been a problem or not. So... is it okay or unacceptable? Is this just because we're separated that he's making an issue of it? Do I need to go shopping or tell him to take a flying leap? Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 I love perky nips. I think they're sexy. And if a gal likes showing them off, oh boy, that confidence and self-assurance is a magnet. As far as I'm concerned, you have breasts, and they stick out. End of story. Same with nipples. It's your goddamn body, anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Matilda Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 To me it's not a big deal. I don't like padded bras, although I do wear them in certain situations where I definitely don't want "headlights". But on a daily basis, I could care less. But, if it was something that really bothered my husband, I would probably try to accomodate him, as it's a fairly small issue. I don't think I'd choose that hill to die on. But since he's your ex, his opinion doesn't count! Link to post Share on other sites
Queen B Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 I'd try pointing out to him whenever his nipples are showing....and maybe he'll get the hint that you don't appreciate him trying to criticise or control how you look or what you wear. If youre okay with how you look, why the heck would you change for anyone muchless your "estranged husband". I just think he's miserable and trying to bring the world down with him. Cheers! Queen B Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 I think to have your nips showing off is completely tacky. Being cold is another story, you can't exactly help that. How would you feel if you could see your husband's DONG in everything he wore (showing head definition, etc)? Wouldn't like it much, eh? Sexy is different than appropriate. Sexy nipple showing off is not appropriate in an office setting. As it would be inappropriate also in other settings too, like church. 'Sexy' should be left in the privacy of your own home, between you and your man. It's not to be flaunted to every other man alive. But like I said, if you're cold and your nips happen to be perkyish, that's another story. Put on a sweater if you have to! Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 All this talk of perky nipples is giving me wood. Maybe I should take a walk around the office... Link to post Share on other sites
Queen B Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 tikibrandy....While maybe different situations call for different apparel, saying that "sexy" is only for the home and not to be flaunted impies that being sexy is something that a person should be ashamed of. Tsk tsk tsk. Why are we so incensed by other people's bodies? Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 Tiki, I think you are a very loyal person, and I think your post on the topic is a reflection of that. Now, I ask the question: What if your SO *WANTED* you to show off your nips? Link to post Share on other sites
Matilda Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 I don't intentionally try to show my nipples off, it just happens that they occasionally do show. I'm certainly not going around stimulating them to make them show. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 Queen B... I feel that in a marriage, the only person you should be attempting to turn on is your mate. Comprehend? Tsk tsk tsk? PM me if you need further information, don't rob a thread and make it about questions you have. For clarification purposes: Her post was edited in the time that I was replying. Now she's seperated. To the original poster: I don't think you need to be worried about anything your ex is saying. If he's your ex, you owe him next to nothing. He's probably just jealous and should've brought it up while you guys were together. He had his chance and lost it, eh? Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 Originally posted by Papillon Tiki, I think you are a very loyal person, and I think your post on the topic is a reflection of that. Now, I ask the question: What if your SO *WANTED* you to show off your nips? Oh, I'd SOOOOO show them for him. But he'd never ask me to flaunt them for another man. Link to post Share on other sites
Lil Honey Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 I agree with Tiki. There is a time and place for everything. LH Link to post Share on other sites
brandx Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 This entire post is fairly hilarious. Not to make fun of your question Quilly, but for some reason it is rather amusing. I agree that there is a time and place for everything, but I imagine it cannot always be helped. I for one really don't know as my nipples are not that sensitive I guess; I suppose I should send them to sensitivity training. Although, I am also from the Great Lakes area, and it has not been cold enough for a couple of months now unless you have been leaning on the AC unit at home. I wouldn't sweat it. This would seem to be a fairly minor point in the overall range of marriage issues. Then again, each person defines minor by their own perspective. Wow, that reply of mine was fairly useless. Sorry, usually I can come up with more than that -- it is one of those days. Take Care Brand X Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 Nipples showing seems to be a trend. Just check out these news stories... Seduction: Two With a Bullet at http://www.newyorkmetro.com/nymetro/shopping/beauty/features/4931/ Another Perk of Being Female? http://www.washingtonpost.com/ac2/wp-dyn?pagename=article&contentId=A79849-2001May25¬Found=true Link to post Share on other sites
Author Quilly Posted September 8, 2004 Author Share Posted September 8, 2004 Yes, Brand X, it definitely is a minor issue in the scheme of things.... but it's sure nice to have something to laugh about once in awhile! Thanks to everyone for your replies... it seems "there is a time and place for everything" is a major theme here and I do agree. Thankfully I rarely wear snug t-shirts to funerals or job interviews so I think I'll be okay. Hopefully I won't offend too many when the cold weather hits and I'll make a mental note to stop leaning on the A/C when the H is scheduled to show up. Thanks! It's been entertaining! Link to post Share on other sites
Tracy Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 I don't like to wear padded bras, especially with the short-sleeved tight tshirts. They make me look like I'm trying to overpower everyone with my jugs So, I wear unpadded. I'm a little sensative and occasionally the headlights come on. No biggie. If I know I'm going to a meeting and there's the chance that I may give everyone a show, I put on a sweater. I also don't think the really tight really small tees are appropriate at work. It's all about when and where. If I'm going out, it's no bra and a tighty whitey just kiddin Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 Originally posted by Queen B tikibrandy....While maybe different situations call for different apparel, saying that "sexy" is only for the home and not to be flaunted impies that being sexy is something that a person should be ashamed of. Tsk tsk tsk. Why are we so incensed by other people's bodies? HOORAY!! A NORMAL PERSON!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted September 9, 2004 Share Posted September 9, 2004 I suppose I should send them to sensitivity training :lmao: It's not about deliberately being sexy. To me padded, shove-em and mold-em bras are worse for that. The things go pointy at certain times. Big whoop. People need to get over it. As somebody said, it's not like we're heading to the bathroom to rub 'em and get them all perked up. Link to post Share on other sites
einahpets Posted September 9, 2004 Share Posted September 9, 2004 i'm not one for showing off my nips either, but if they are there who cares. we all got 'em. actually hard nips are all the rage, so i've heard. they sell hard rubber nipples that you put in your br a so you will always have hard nip. apparently girls who have hard nips get more attension than girls who don't (as my magazine says) - duh! Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted September 9, 2004 Share Posted September 9, 2004 LOL I think your ex is just mad because he thinks it's sexy, and he knows other guys think it's sexy! My ex got mad anytime anyone looked at my boobs, regardless if it was "nippley" or not. He insisted that I just loved the attention, but truth be told, I didn't notice it most of the time it was HIM who had the issue not me. Link to post Share on other sites
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