Is there a way to be "just friends" with a former love?

[jeff2705]

Is it possible to be "just friends" with a

former boyfreind/girlfreind or someone for which you still have intimate feelings?

 

My former girlfreind wants that, and I am pretty sure that I cannot do it. Not seeing her is better for me. If there is a way, what is it?

[Queen B]

Maybe after some time once you've had some distance and time to move on but sometimes it's more painful to be friends after a breakup. I'd let her know you need some time and space to heal.

[dyermaker]

Don't do it.

[Fiesta]

Originally posted by jeff2705

Not seeing her is better for me.

 

Then just be blunt and say you need to not see her for awhile. Did she break up with you? I've found women often say "Let's be friends" out of compassion and guilt in these situations. Listen to yourself and stay away.

[bluetuesday]

Stay well clear and move on buddy.

[meanon]

I've sometimes been able to be friends with former lovers and so have people I know, but only when there's been a substantial gap so that the intimate feelings have faded. If you try and stay friends now it will end in tears.

[simplybrill]

hmm, I dont think so. Speaking from my situation, I am doing a lot better without having any contact with my ex. Its just better that way. My life is going in a good direction, and I dont know how keeping tabs with him would really help anything. I do wish him the best and that he's happy, but at the same time, Im not trying to be friends with him, because of our past.