what should i do next

[deep]

i had sex with my boyfreinds cusins and we are going to get married one day also we have a child together and me and his ex-girlfriend are associates as well and i know what i did was wrong but yet i feel no shame and want to prosue a secret love triangle until i can get him out of my system sexually i know part of why i have no guilt is because for the past 3 years out of 5 years my boyfriend to has cheated even though i know two rights do not make a wrong at the same time revenge is all so sweet just to know and keep to myself until i die is good enough for me but yet i stil find myself inlove with my boyfriend and in lust with his cusin no matter what storm maycome i will never give my boyfriend up and by the way the cusin suduced me first and sevral times before that but this time i decided to go for it but the problem is his cusin is feeling so damn guilty that he don't want it to happen agin and said he won't let it happen agin and lets pretent nothing ever happen but i can't i want to keep on until he is out of my system i do not want to obsess over this what should i do NOW

[Nic]

this situation is flashing disaster and trash like a big neon sign.

 

what kind of a family is this? how can your cousin even consider making moves on his cousins girlfriend, let alone have sex with her? and how can you even consider your boyfriends cousin to get revenge? this little scenario is severly lacking loyalty, respect and maturity.

 

the fact that your boyfriend has cheated on you for 3 out of 5 years speaks volumes about the kind of person he is. your feelings are obviously not a priority here, you've stayed with him through all this crap, and now you're lowering yourself to his standards and an innocent child is caught in the middle of it.

 

you say you are so inlove with him, but i fail to see how you can be so inlove with a cheat and want to bonk somebody else yourself. i think you're confusing lust and habit here with real love. that is real love by a long shot.

 

you already are obsessing over this, because you want revenge so badly and all you can think about is having sex with this cousin to satisfy your urges for lust and revenge.

 

you have a child to consider here. you are supposedly an adult, so you must act like one, not like some 13 year old holding a grudge and hell bent on revenge. what if in the future, all this comes out in the open and your child finds out? how will they feel? you may not feel any shame, but your precious child certainly will. and they will be embarrassed knowing what went on with mum and dad and how everyone looks at mum now. all this will do is create a huge rift in the family which your child will definitely feel and have to live with, which is very unfair and very wrong. you may not think this involves your child, but it does because your child is there.

 

things will be a lot easier and a lot sweeter for all concerned in the long run if you two part. you cannot stay together for the sake of your child, because what is happening is only heading one way - downhill. your child will still have his/her mum and dad, but wouldn't be a lot fairer on your child if mum and dad get along? you're child will only end up messed up in the long run if you don't get a grip on things quick smart.

 

the best revenge to get on your boyfriend, if you feel you must, is to leave him and get on with your life without him. and get his cousin out of your system by getting him out of your life too and moving onto someone who will treat you properly (as long as you treat them properly too).

 

revenge may be sweet, but what goes around comes around. you should think yourself better than that and think of your child first.

 

get out of this god awful trashy situation before you all end up humiliating each other in front of the world on the jerry springer show, or before something worse happens.

 

be responsible, be smart, and be grown up.

i had sex with my boyfreinds cusins and we are going to get married one day also we have a child together and me and his ex-girlfriend are associates as well and i know what i did was wrong but yet i feel no shame and want to prosue a secret love triangle until i can get him out of my system sexually i know part of why i have no guilt is because for the past 3 years out of 5 years my boyfriend to has cheated even though i know two rights do not make a wrong at the same time revenge is all so sweet just to know and keep to myself until i die is good enough for me but yet i stil find myself inlove with my boyfriend and in lust with his cusin no matter what storm maycome i will never give my boyfriend up and by the way the cusin suduced me first and sevral times before that but this time i decided to go for it but the problem is his cusin is feeling so damn guilty that he don't want it to happen agin and said he won't let it happen agin and lets pretent nothing ever happen but i can't i want to keep on until he is out of my system i do not want to obsess over this what should i do NOW

[Paulie]

Stay the hell away from the cousin, if you love your boyfriend. If you can't keep your hands off the cousin, then be with him instead. The whole situation seems like trash to me, anyway. How special can your relationship with either man be?

 

Forget either guy, forget the damn revenge.

 

Oh...and maybe decide what you want out of a relationship at all...'cause I hope this ain't it!

[Deejette]

This is a situation where nobody can trust anybody and everybody is cheating. "What a tangled web we weave," as Shakespeare said.

 

This has very little to do with love and more to do with sex and just getting it on whenever and with whomever the urge occurs. The secret revenge you are getting on your cheating boyfriend isn't even revenge, because he does not know about it. So you know that you cheated on him and he doesn't, and he is going on his way thinking that everything is fine. Where's the satisfaction in that?

 

The direct approach of dumping him when he cheated would have produced better results for you, because that might have hurt him. But you are only hurting yourself by getting involved with the cousin. When your boyfriend finds out, he will be able to justify himself for cheating on you instead of feeling bad about it and the whole revenge idea will backfire.

 

You're the one that knows in your heart that you can't be trusted and his cousin can't be trusted.

Stay the hell away from the cousin, if you love your boyfriend. If you can't keep your hands off the cousin, then be with him instead. The whole situation seems like trash to me, anyway. How special can your relationship with either man be? Forget either guy, forget the damn revenge.

 

Oh...and maybe decide what you want out of a relationship at all...'cause I hope this ain't it!