Author Koekie Posted March 23, 2013 Author Share Posted March 23, 2013 Koekie, it may be that you are married to an insensitive self-centred guy. If so you have some sympathy from me. I won't repeat myself incessantly to say that - there it is. Now, a lot of us guys have experienced being on the receiving side of a bit too much need for all kinds of support, have experienced a spouse who are (to quote LegendaryMan, "a habitual complaining machine." Put it another way, if the emotional needs just can't be reasonably met, and the crying/nagging/ faultfinding/ neurosis just goes on and on - well, we tune out. Not saying that's what's happening with you. Your husband may just be a jerk. But your opening post was a self-awarded claim to "just what I want, just the way I want it" endless emotional support. Sounds wearing. Good luck with the husband. I would offer some practical suggestions, advice. But I've got the point, you simply don't want that. You poor thing. There there. Sounds dreadful. Have a sugar lump. What precisely is your problem here? What do you want? I simply stated what I feel a lot of women need, other women are free to post as well and I was hoping some guys might come across this and things might be more clear. I would love go alllllll thready on men's needs, but well I have b**bs. I started this thread mostly for women to post what they do need to be happy because some guys do seem a bit mystified. The point is that women need to talk about a problem with someone who gives a hoot. We dont usually want a solution, we feel better just getting it all out. Instead of some curious, mmmm....what about this or that questions from men, theres defensive argumentative bitchiness. What the heck for? Its my opinion from talking to a lot of my women friends as to why they are divorcing as well as in reflection of the thread about so many women filing for divorce because they feel neglected. Who the hell said anything about "just what I want, just the way I want it"?? When a man listens empathetically the first time, most women move on from the problem fairly quickly. I have no idea where your reply in regards to me not wanting advise comes from, since there was no question to begin with?? Link to post Share on other sites
Sparty97 Posted March 23, 2013 Share Posted March 23, 2013 "We dont usually want a solution, we feel better just getting it all out. " Buy a tape recorder. Link to post Share on other sites
Negative Nancy Posted March 23, 2013 Share Posted March 23, 2013 It's got nothing to do with an ego boost. It's about only being a set of ears...Sorry, I have more to offer. I have to say, this is a hilarious point and I can see how it probably would be the equivalent to women's complaint of "I'm more than a set of t'n'a" Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 23, 2013 Share Posted March 23, 2013 In which case TaraMaiden, I would like to connect you with someone who is free of other distractions and can focus on your emotional needs: already-my-30s-have-no-career-how-will-i-meet-girl-marriage Huh, get real... the guy's a Troll-lol.... I pay no attention to his constant pity-me rants. In fact, he/you might be the sock-puppet.... Link to post Share on other sites
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