IfiKnewThen Posted March 28, 2013 Share Posted March 28, 2013 i would write back... "i did find a nice girl, you. i dont have to look any further. all i need is for you to give me the chance to see you again and put a plan in motion that you will trust and believe in. but you have to allow me to do that first, so it can happen. i wont hesitate this time around. i hope you can open your heart and mind up to me, so all of our dreams can come true together. it doesn't have to be a cold world. all you have to do is believe and hold my hand and walk through this life with me" i hope and pray you give us both that chance, but please let me know where i stand" something like that : ) Link to post Share on other sites
IfiKnewThen Posted March 28, 2013 Share Posted March 28, 2013 and ps...keep the friend out of it he might be blowing it for u i told you dont trust well intended friends when it comes to a woman. the dialog should ONLY be between the two of you and no information getting back tot he other. so shhhhh lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author Farough Posted March 31, 2013 Author Share Posted March 31, 2013 and ps...keep the friend out of it he might be blowing it for u i told you dont trust well intended friends when it comes to a woman. the dialog should ONLY be between the two of you and no information getting back tot he other. so shhhhh lol sure but she just told my friend,, i mean i didnt tell my friend to contact her Link to post Share on other sites
Author Farough Posted March 31, 2013 Author Share Posted March 31, 2013 i would write back... "i did find a nice girl, you. i dont have to look any further. all i need is for you to give me the chance to see you again and put a plan in motion that you will trust and believe in. but you have to allow me to do that first, so it can happen. i wont hesitate this time around. i hope you can open your heart and mind up to me, so all of our dreams can come true together. it doesn't have to be a cold world. all you have to do is believe and hold my hand and walk through this life with me" i hope and pray you give us both that chance, but please let me know where i stand" something like that : ) i told her almost same thing she replied me !! whats ur solution for distance !! i said i come there for my holiday in coming days she told me : none of her business and last night she sent me message she wanted to marry me!! i dont know what to tell her !! and she went for vacation with 2more guys !! she is in vacation with two more guys !! sending me different emails and confusing me im going to try last shot !1 i bought a ring and wrote a letter i will send to her what do you say?? whats ur opinion? she told me i didnt have plan to marry her so im trying my last shot do you think its good idea or not?? after sending this letter i will stop contact and let her decide what she wants to do hmm what do you say? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Farough Posted April 1, 2013 Author Share Posted April 1, 2013 and ps...keep the friend out of it he might be blowing it for u i told you dont trust well intended friends when it comes to a woman. the dialog should ONLY be between the two of you and no information getting back tot he other. so shhhhh lol i told her almost same thing she replied me !! whats ur solution for distance !! i said i come there for my holiday in coming days she told me : none of her business and last night she sent me message she wanted to marry me!! i dont know what to tell her !! and she went for vacation with 2more guys !! she is in vacation with two more guys !! sending me different emails and confusing me im going to try last shot !1 i bought a ring and wrote a letter i will send to her what do you say?? whats ur opinion? she told me i didnt have plan to marry her so im trying my last shot do you think its good idea or not?? after sending this letter i will stop contact and let her decide what she wants to do hmm what do you say? Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted April 1, 2013 Share Posted April 1, 2013 Hi Farough, This is what I would write her, if I were you: Hi XXX, I have been missing you a lot since you left. The distance can become a real hassle for a couple, no matter how much love is there. Do you feel strong enough to face difficulties in life? Not giving up as our first issue comes by? I feel I want to marry you, but I also need to make sure it's not a fling for you. A marriage - as I see it - must be for life. It's a very important step in anyone's life. You are the right woman for me. Am I the right man for you? If your answer is YES, please don't push me away as you've been doing these past weeks. [Here you answer to her possible questions if any. Hopefully not.] I've been planning my trip to come and see you very soon. We will have time to spend together and talk about lots of things, especially about us and our future. I love you, Your boyfriend Farough (or whatever your name is) *-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-* I guess that just reflects what I think and maybe you think different. But I'm just here to give you some different perspective. If it were my girlfriend, I wouldn't like her to go on vacation with two other guys her age. But well, maybe it was her only chance for a vacation, so maybe it can be OK. I'd be very protective with my relationship, if I'm very in love. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Farough Posted April 6, 2013 Author Share Posted April 6, 2013 after 1 and half month she sent me msg and said she is missing my city but not me !! What to reply her? help please Link to post Share on other sites
Author Farough Posted April 6, 2013 Author Share Posted April 6, 2013 i was with a girl for 4years ,, 3 and half years together and 6months we were in distance relationship as i had to move to india for a year,, 6mmonths over ,,,and 6months was remaining my gf dumped me for no reason ,, now its 1month over almost 20days i tried to beg her and emailed her many times,she just replied shut up or leave me alone or i dont love u , she blocked me from everywhere and everyone so i started no contact she sent me email today and said she is missing india but not me ! (she came to india to visit me and also she was living here for 2years long back) what does it mean? how shall i reply her??When shall i reply her? thanks in advance Link to post Share on other sites
ana0pera Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 that was a very mean message she sent you, she's trying to get at you and make you feel worse than you already feel. she knows you want her and she doesn't want you, so she is telling you that she's over you. take her word for it and get over her yourself (easier said than done, i know). ignore her and also block her so that she can't continue to torment you (that is what she's doing). i am sorry that you have to go through all of this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Farough Posted April 6, 2013 Author Share Posted April 6, 2013 that was a very mean message she sent you, she's trying to get at you and make you feel worse than you already feel. she knows you want her and she doesn't want you, so she is telling you that she's over you. take her word for it and get over her yourself (easier said than done, i know). ignore her and also block her so that she can't continue to torment you (that is what she's doing). i am sorry that you have to go through all of this. i know her very well,,, she is not that kind of girl !! she told my friend she still love me !! but we cant be together ,, but she doesnt have any reason why we cant be together i dont know how come you think she is trying to hurt me more !! anyways i didnt reply Link to post Share on other sites
ana0pera Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 i know her very well,,, she is not that kind of girl !! she told my friend she still love me !! but we cant be together ,, but she doesnt have any reason why we cant be together i dont know how come you think she is trying to hurt me more !! anyways i didnt reply i am confused, she did send you an email saying "I miss India but not you!" or some derivation, and she is not a mean girl trying to hurt you? Unless I misunderstand what the email sent, I stand by what I said. She is trying to get your attention but if she loved you she wouldn't be saying mean things like that to get your attention. She would try to say neutral or positive things, not negative things, if she wants you back. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Farough Posted April 6, 2013 Author Share Posted April 6, 2013 i am confused, she did send you an email saying "I miss India but not you!" or some derivation, and she is not a mean girl trying to hurt you? Unless I misunderstand what the email sent, I stand by what I said. She is trying to get your attention but if she loved you she wouldn't be saying mean things like that to get your attention. She would try to say neutral or positive things, not negative things, if she wants you back. i think ou are right !! i was thinking because she dumped me know she doesnt want to come back !! i mean she is waiting for me to ask her again but i think u are right ! thanks alot Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 What about: I miss you and couldn't care less about your city... Have fun. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Farough Posted April 7, 2013 Author Share Posted April 7, 2013 What about: I miss you and couldn't care less about your city... Have fun. I dont know! Maybe good But i didnt reply yet i will tomorrow maybe Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 I dont know! Maybe good But i didnt reply yet i will tomorrow maybe I don't understand people playing this kind of games. You've made your bed, now lie in it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Farough Posted April 7, 2013 Author Share Posted April 7, 2013 I don't understand people playing this kind of games. You've made your bed, now lie in it. u mean its better if i ignore her totally forever?? i love her so much i dont know if i have to forget her or not Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 u mean its better if i ignore her totally forever?? No, I don't understand the ignoring at all. Or I'll wait X days before writing back... Games. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Farough Posted April 7, 2013 Author Share Posted April 7, 2013 No, I don't understand the ignoring at all. Or I'll wait X days before writing back... Games. thats what im doing not replying her for 3 days then i will reply her maybe its the best Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 thats what im doing not replying her for 3 days then i will reply her And that's what I meant that is: playing games. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Farough Posted April 7, 2013 Author Share Posted April 7, 2013 And that's what I meant that is: playing games. yea so here im starting same game Link to post Share on other sites
IfiKnewThen Posted April 13, 2013 Share Posted April 13, 2013 (edited) OMG i am so sorry i havent been online to see these posts. I think she does want you and is immature and wanting attention and playing hard to get. but now is NOT the time for no contact in my opinion. please do not break contact now. this is your window of opportunity. do NOT insult her or say anything bad to her. just keep with the plan you want to marry her but tell her you want to give her the ring in person. who wants to mail a ring out. thats dangerous if it gets lost in the mail. tell her you always wanted to get down on 1 knee and purpose. justwhoiam wrote good advise by the way. all i can say is be nice, stay in contact and maybe her guard will come down. is she asking you if you only want to move to her or visit in her city and NOT want her? i am trying to fully understand you? if so....please write to her now and tell her you dont want her city...or a visit....but that you WANT HER!!!!! good luck God bless you guys Edited April 13, 2013 by IfiKnewThen Link to post Share on other sites
IfiKnewThen Posted April 13, 2013 Share Posted April 13, 2013 ps if she says i miss your city not you then ask her why she said she would marry you the other day? tell her you BOTH can NOT afford to play games. life is short...does she love you or not and does she want to make a real go of it. if so tell her will u meet her and formally propose. Link to post Share on other sites
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