I don't know what to think of my LD boyfriend...

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I've been in an exclusive relationship with my boyfriend for about 5 months, but we've been friends for over a year. He lives 3 hours away, both of us are about to turn 18, but neither of us can drive long-distance. He has made it clear that we will split before college, because the distance will be too much (far enough that it would require a plane flight and he thinks the relationship would be "unsatisfying"). Since we became "official," we have met up on 3 different occasions. Whenever we're together, it's absolutely perfect. But when separated, we argue all the time, and the arguments are usually started by me. I get upset by many comments he makes, such as him saying that he has "no expectations" for our relationship except exclusivity. But he even goes on to say that exclusivity is "irrational" in a relationship where we plan on breaking up before college, and so he would understand if I want to get rid of the exclusivity. However, he would rather not. He says that having fun is his main priority, and when I asked him if he cared about me, he said, "I care... about fun." Later on he tried to backtrack and say that he did indeed care about me, but care is "relative." We had a rough period before we became exclusive, and he said he got over me in 1-2 days because that was the "rational" thing to do. He values our relationship as equivalent to "4 of his closest friendships" (like, all 4 combined).

 

Basically, I feel like he makes some really weird comments. He says that even if we don't meet up again until June, he wants to continue the exclusive relationship. This seems strange coming from a guy whose main priority is having fun (and we certainly don't have fun when we argue). He has also expressed a desire to have sex, which I made clear I'm not giving him. So why is he staying in this relationship? I'm so confused.

Edited March 16, 2013 by Cafe au lait