Chi townD Posted March 21, 2013 Share Posted March 21, 2013 Can you really not accept her circumstances, and set your own pain and prejudices aside, long enough to write a compassionate post that will actually get some traction? I don't believe she said she's planning to, she said she's tempted. If you want to convince, first you have to connect. Apparently, you didn't read my orginal post to her. It was long and blunt, but I thought it got the point across of the circumstances she can expect from such destructive behavior. Even explained about the fog and blameshifting and the damage that she would cause. Because, yes. I have had the pain that she's about ready to inflict on her husband. But, that was many, many years ago and I think I'm well adjusted enough to post. I didn't call her a sl*t, or homewrecker, or slag...no finger pointing and no name calling. Yeah, I HAD pain and it's a pain I would rather never experience again in my life. Therefore, I wouldn't wish it on anybody. So, won't it make sense to try and put a stop to it before it gets out of hand? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted March 21, 2013 Share Posted March 21, 2013 Looks like another drive-by BS hit by those coming into this section asking questions that they know BS's aren't going to take too kindly too. Hit, pose a few ridiculous questions to the wrong crowd, and run. Link to post Share on other sites
chucksagent Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 Go see a Divorce Lawyer this afternoon. Take a nice long lunch, order your favorite meal, and decide what kind of person you want to be. A good and honest person acknowledges there is nothing left in your marriage and does the right thing by allowing their children to respect them in the future. You never tell another soul you already kissed him as it is a terrible thing (if I did it I'd be saying/knowing the same thing) OR You call a counselor after lunch. After your last bite of your favorite meal, you make a phone call to the best therapist you can afford. You tell your husband you will both be going or you are leaving him. You fight for the marriage and you NEVER talk to this kid again. I am a lawyer who makes a LOT of money on giving advice. I just gave you gold. Those are your two options. Anything else is selfish, immoral, or wrong. You're Welcome. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
man_in_the_box Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 yes as much as a drug dealer can give advise to drug addicts... A drug dealer can perfectly explain how he exploits his customers. This situation is no different. He isn't offering advice but just saying how it is. He doesn't have anything to lose in this thread - why disqualify his insight then? Link to post Share on other sites
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