wisernow Posted March 18, 2013 Share Posted March 18, 2013 Well since yall think I'm a homewrecking troll I'll just put it out there: do you think I can get him to have sex with me? Sure, Get him drunk again and he'll sleep with you . Of course I wonder why he didn't when he had the opportunity. Perhaps turn the lights off next time. Either way do keep us updated on your progress. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sybil562 Posted March 18, 2013 Author Share Posted March 18, 2013 Lmao, I'm not a bunny boiler or ugly. And I don't want him drunk. I will keep you updated!! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 18, 2013 Share Posted March 18, 2013 Well since yall think I'm a homewrecking troll I'll just put it out there: do you think I can get him to have sex with me? I don't think that about you, though I do wonder why you'd lower your standards and intentionally chase a MM and try to make him have sex with you. Just because people at work figure you two are already having sex, doesn't mean you need to go ahead and do it. Anyway, I'm not encouraging you to 'go for it.' I hope you find someone else who is available and single for unattached and fun sex, not some married guy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
georgia girl Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Do you really want to know what I think? I think you're infatuated with him; not just into having sex with him and I think you're lying to yourself. Additionally, I don't think you want to think of the potential damage you're doing to someone else's life (his, his wife's, their families) because you see this as a "victimless" act. It's not. I'm not saying you need to change course - because I don't think you will - but acknowledge that you are knowingly and willingly harming someone. The final thing? I think you recognize that this has potential for great harm to you, but you're minimizing it and looking at it as either a) I just wanna fool around and I'm outta here soon; or b) it's the start of a new relationship and all people have baggage and his is just a little more significant legally. I think you're an adult. I think you've been chasing him at least as much as he's been chasing you (or more... he obviously knew his attentions would be well-received and he's not out on a website asking posters for advice on how to bang you) and I think you are perhaps a bit self-centered or weak-willed. Doing what you are pursuing is ill-advised. It's hurtful to others. It's potentially damaging to your career. And it's an incredibly risky relationship with a very low successs rate, based solely on the numbers of posters here and the fact that statistically, in the US over 75% of all marriages survive an initial infidelity. It's your life and your gamble. You seem hell-bent on it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
neveragain34 Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Well since yall think I'm a homewrecking troll I'll just put it out there: do you think I can get him to have sex with me? Yes, he will eventually sleep with you if he already came close. I'm 95% certain. Are you really that desperate and horny to even consider this? Will it make you feel good about yourself knowing your were so attractive and irresistible enough to cause a man to break his wedding vows? Well you aren't; men are horny creatures by nature and will sleep with anyone that throws themselves at them enough times. You are nothing special, nor an exception. Many of us sound like hypocrites telling you to stay away from this man, including myself, but at least I went into my A not knowing he was married. As for the others, they learned from their mistakes and have seen the damage that can be done even if you just think its "casual sex" and she'll never know. She will eventually find out. Good luck getting laid; hope he's worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Hi I am very confused and am seeking advice.... Last night I hooked up with my married coworker. A bunch of us went out for early St. Patty's day celebrating and we all drank too much. This coworker and me have always had a 'chemistry' and I would flirt back with him but he always said he would never cheat so I never paid attention. Well last night.... One thing led to another and we ended up back at my apt. We did not have sex but we did fool around. He kept apologizing to me bc he couldn't sleep with me bc he was married . I don't understand??? I am confused bc on the one hand I am glad we didn't have sex but on the other I wish we did I am a horrible person I know. Hypothetically if I keep perusing him would he have sex with me? I sound so awful! I just don't know what to do. I know what I SHOULD do, it's only a matter of listening ........ Please help!! Thank you Why do you want sex from him so badly? If you had sex and then after that he told you he would never do it again and then followed through and also stopped speaking to you, would the sex have been worth it? Or do you want to have sex and hope he wants more sex and you'll keep having sex and then subsequently a relationship? Maybe the rejection is what is painful? You seem upset that he stopped himself, do you feel like that is a reflection on you? Will you feel attractive/seductive/desirable if he does sleep with you? What do you mean by not knowing what to do? There isn't much to do. Unless you feel like you HAVE to sleep with him so want to continue trying. Otherwise, all you can do is respect what he says and chalk what happened up to a mistake and move forward. I am afraid that you may be caught up in believing that if you can get a man clearly conflicted about an A to sleep with you, that it will be some type of validation and you may want more and more of it, but in the end, you may not get that but he will sleep with you once or multiple times then tell you the same as he always has: he's married. And then leave you by yourself to pick up the pieces. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Sybil, One of your personalities should start practicing the "walk of shame" after the goal is accomplished." You Will Most Likely Get Caught. People w/large egos normally can't help but get busted because they 'want' others to know their "accomplishments" ... all while saying they didn't intend for anyone to find out. It's good to read your level of self-confidence. It's sad that you will use it in the attempt to make a MM Betray his W, his children, his entire family. Even if I had that much power in shaking my thang', I would NEVER use my "golden lasso" to "win" sex w/a man who is already making love to another woman. You know, his W?.?. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sybil562 Posted March 20, 2013 Author Share Posted March 20, 2013 Ok I honestly appreciate all your posts. Some are definitely nicer than others but I see what you're saying. I guess I just have to be honest with myself and just admit it: I want him because he's said no and has said no since the beginning (i have never begged him for sex, fyi). It's like if you keep denying a person, keep telling them no, it makes you want them more because of that denial. I k ow that's a horrible justification but I'm being honest. I truly am not looking for a 'relationship' with him. Like I've said I just want to enjoy him and have fun. I know that there are plenty of single guys to have fun with but he unfortunately is the one that has caught my eye. Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Or he's just the one that said, "No". Even if he Did pull a Clinton about it... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Ok I honestly appreciate all your posts. Some are definitely nicer than others but I see what you're saying. I guess I just have to be honest with myself and just admit it: I want him because he's said no and has said no since the beginning (i have never begged him for sex, fyi). It's like if you keep denying a person, keep telling them no, it makes you want them more because of that denial. I k ow that's a horrible justification but I'm being honest. I truly am not looking for a 'relationship' with him. Like I've said I just want to enjoy him and have fun. I know that there are plenty of single guys to have fun with but he unfortunately is the one that has caught my eye. Nothing is wrong with being honest. I used to have a thing for men who were off limits myself. It was like knowing I shouldn't would send me into over drive with wanting to get them to flirt with me, show that they wanted me etc. It was quite a mess. I was very coy about it though and I never tried to seduce anyone for real or got into any "almost" situations. I was way more mild, where I'd just try to see if I could get this MM or professor or whomever to flirt with me and exhibit some level of "wanting me", and then I'd stop there. I think it speak a lot to your own thing frankly and is not really a healthy way of behaving, as the stakes can be high. Then you have to ask why do you feel so inclined to engage in destructive behavior? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
wisernow Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Ok I honestly appreciate all your posts. Some are definitely nicer than others but I see what you're saying. I guess I just have to be honest with myself and just admit it: I want him because he's said no and has said no since the beginning (i have never begged him for sex, fyi). It's like if you keep denying a person, keep telling them no, it makes you want them more because of that denial. I k ow that's a horrible justification but I'm being honest. I truly am not looking for a 'relationship' with him. Like I've said I just want to enjoy him and have fun. I know that there are plenty of single guys to have fun with but he unfortunately is the one that has caught my eye. Well, I'd like to have sex with George Clooney, but that ain't happening either. Please, leave this man alone. He sounds like an honest, committed, MM who very well could have slipped up and done the deed with you. It didn't happen, no thanks to you. Wanting something (or in this case, someone) just because someone told you no, is the behavior of a child. You do sound very young and a bit immature based on what you've shared here, but I truly hope you'll just press on, have your fun with hot, eligible men. If it turns you on so much to have them tell you no, then perhaps these hot, eligible men will do some role play with you. At least no one will get hurt and you can get off. Just don't be that girl. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Well, I'd like to have sex with George Clooney, but that ain't happening either. Please, leave this man alone. He sounds like an honest, committed, MM who very well could have slipped up and done the deed with you. It didn't happen, no thanks to you. Wanting something (or in this case, someone) just because someone told you no, is the behavior of a child. You do sound very young and a bit immature based on what you've shared here, but I truly hope you'll just press on, have your fun with hot, eligible men. If it turns you on so much to have them tell you no, then perhaps these hot, eligible men will do some role play with you. At least no one will get hurt and you can get off. Just don't be that girl. She sounds like she wants to be OW, so let her be. We are forgetting she came here to get advice of how to be the OW and the advice she is getting is not what she expected. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sybil562 Posted March 20, 2013 Author Share Posted March 20, 2013 See I don't get why you think he's an 'honest' 'committed' man? He's been flirting with me for the past year. Sexually explicit convo, pictures, inviting me to join him on his business trips, etc. I've said no. But we finally hooked up. I did not force him to do anything and he at no point to expressed remorse over it. Why am I the 'evil' one when he's been pursuing the whole time? Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 See I don't get why you think he's an 'honest' 'committed' man? He's been flirting with me for the past year. Sexually explicit convo, pictures, inviting me to join him on his business trips, etc. I've said no. But we finally hooked up. I did not force him to do anything and he at no point to expressed remorse over it. Why am I the 'evil' one when he's been pursuing the whole time? I personally don't think he is honest, nor you evil, although you did post saying you were a bad person for wanting this. I just think you should wonder why you MUST bed this cheater and if once you do, will it really be worth it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lillyfree Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 i don't see that anyone called you evil in this thread. be the better person and walk away from him? how's that as an option. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
wisernow Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 See I don't get why you think he's an 'honest' 'committed' man? He's been flirting with me for the past year. Sexually explicit convo, pictures, inviting me to join him on his business trips, etc. I've said no. But we finally hooked up. I did not force him to do anything and he at no point to expressed remorse over it. Why am I the 'evil' one when he's been pursuing the whole time? I guess I missed that part. Do what you want, you will anyway. I'm out. Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 See I don't get why you think he's an 'honest' 'committed' man? He's been flirting with me for the past year. Sexually explicit convo, pictures, inviting me to join him on his business trips, etc. I've said no. But we finally hooked up. I did not force him to do anything and he at no point to expressed remorse over it. Why am I the 'evil' one when he's been pursuing the whole time? Sybil: Your story is very typical and by the book. You are coy, sexy, and like the attention. The married men picked you as a possible OW. He is doing the typical dance which includes presenting himself as a somewhat good guy that does not want to cheat. This makes you want him even more. Some philanderers do that and to be truthful is a lot of fun to play that role. I have done this myself and at the end the lady in question wants to rip your clothes off. I must say it is working like a charm and you are falling for it. And you are correct. He is cheating big time on his wife and avoiding intercourse with you does not mean he is not a cheater. It is clear you are flattered by his charm. He loves the game and will play for a while. He will build the tension and when the two of you finally have sex it will be an explosion. I predict it will be the best sex you ever had in your life and you will fall in love very deeply. I say go for it. I believe you can be an OW. Link to post Share on other sites
Artie Lang Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 (edited) so this is where all the former docool members ended up. Edited March 20, 2013 by Artie Lang 3 Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Well since yall think I'm a homewrecking troll I'll just put it out there: do you think I can get him to have sex with me? Sure. Gather the office crowd around for your show. Or just offer to blow him in the men's room. You choose to degrade yourself by being willing - just put all the trash out there for everyone to see. Too bad you don't honor yourself much - or marriage either. To me, you are the scariest type of OW... One with no conscience of who you plan to harm. A preditor for sure. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
neveragain34 Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 See I don't get why you think he's an 'honest' 'committed' man? He's been flirting with me for the past year. Sexually explicit convo, pictures, inviting me to join him on his business trips, etc. I've said no. But we finally hooked up. I did not force him to do anything and he at no point to expressed remorse over it. Why am I the 'evil' one when he's been pursuing the whole time? If he has been the one pursuing you, then how exactly has he said "no" from the beginning as you stated earlier for being the reason you want him more? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
waterwoman Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Gotta love threads like this one: Q: Should I do X? A: (from everyone) YES! OP then goes her own sweet to do what she wanted to do in first place 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 I guess I just have to be honest with myself and just admit it: I want him because he's said no and has said no since the beginning (i have never begged him for sex, fyi). It's like if you keep denying a person, keep telling them no, it makes you want them more because of that denial. I k ow that's a horrible justification but I'm being honest. I truly am not looking for a 'relationship' with him. Like I've said I just want to enjoy him and have fun. I know that there are plenty of single guys to have fun with but he unfortunately is the one that has caught my eye. Ever hear the cat and mouse game? The thrill of the chase? Anyway, you're gonna do what you're gonna do. Just own it when it blows up in your face. Good that you're honest about it, just be prepared for the fallout afterwards if you get caught. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Gotta love threads like this one: Q: Should I do X? A: (from everyone) YES! OP then goes her own sweet to do what she wanted to do in first place Yes, she will bed this guy sooner or later regardless of the advice she received. I suspect she will fall very hard and will be very hurt at the end. Too bad! I think she does not mind being the OW. She also does not know the game cheating men play. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Yes, she will bed this guy sooner or later regardless of the advice she received. I suspect she will fall very hard and will be very hurt at the end. Too bad! I think she does not mind being the OW. She also does not know the game cheating men play. I third this. She sounds very young and naive, and extraordinarily selfish..a very strong OW combination. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 so this is where all the former docool members ended up. Did Docool pay you for all the promotion you gave (and continue to give) them? Link to post Share on other sites
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