please help me work this out

[nab105]

I dont know what to do its awful my ex boyfriend hasnt replied to any of my messages. I cant understand how he can go from loving me to hating me so much. I never cheated on him and thought alot of him. Im 23 and he is 30 he wanted to move in with meand everything. we had a row and the next thing I knew I was dumped.

 

I am absolutely devastated I love him so much. He broke up with me just over a month ago and I waited two weeks and then I texted him. I havent heard anything from him. hes never ignored me before I just dont know what to do. even if he sent me a text message to tell me to get lost at least I would know where I stand but just ignoring me its so horrible. if it was the other way around I wouldnt just ignore him., because Im not like that. I have just qualified as a nurse he was always saying how proud he was of me I just dont understand. I have an interview I sent him a friendly text telling him I have a interview but he never replied to wish me luck.

 

I sent him alittle gift I dont have much money at the moment because Ive been a student nurse. I didnt send the gift to win him back I sent it because I wanted to say Im sorry. he has never had a girlfriend before I met him when he was 28 he said he liked me from the beginning and that when we first met he thought that I wouldnt want to see him again. he said i was too nice looking to be with him. I told him he was being silly and that I loved him very much.

 

I never believed he would walk away from our relationship.I really believed he loved me. this has hit me really hard I just want him back please help me I just cry all the time just wishing he was here to give me one of his hugs. what can I do to win him back

 

please help me

[YellowLioness]

Hon, this will sound like a slap in the face, but I gotta tell you that I think he's moved on.

 

I think that your best bet is just to cry alot, eat some Ben and Jerry's, write in your diary, get really angry at him, then find another boyfriend when you're ready.

 

He hasn't recriprocated any of your messages. He hasn't said anything about the gift, so my guess is that he is already over you, and doesn't want to get back together or to be friendly.

 

You shouldn't try to get a hold of him any more. If he wants to speak to you, he'll contact you. Likely, it will make him more uncomfortable to speak to you if you force the issue too much.

 

I know you are hurting, just do whatever you have to do to move on.

[Tracy]

Ditto.

 

You have made several attempts to get in touch with him. You've made your case, he must know how you feel. That's all you can do. The ball is in his court. Preoccupy yourself with other things. Get him off your mind. If he contacts you, great, go from there. Don't hold your breath though. And, don't try to contact him anymore.

[sugarnspice]

There really isn't much you can do to win someone back. You've done what you can...now it's up to him. I'm in sort of the same situation as you, only my ex has answered my calls...I can't yet decide if that's making it harder or easier for me. Anyway, it will take a while to get over him...but in the meantime, take your mind off of it...even though it may seem almost impossible at times. If he comes back, great! If he doesn't, then he doesn't deserve the awesome, beautiful woman that you are and you will find someone that does and that actually appreciates what he has. Good luck with everything.

[9Lives]

Was there any red flags? Something had to be going on somewhere. Elaborate please

[Heartagram]

I am in the SAME EXACT SITUATION AS YOU. Except the gift I got him I haven't given him yet, because of his behavior (he picks up the phone when I call but is snippy and whatnot...he's acting bipolar, hot one minute and cold the next). I am going to wait until he's calmer. I see him occasionally because of business.

 

Our age differences are nearly the same as well ( I'm 22 and he's 29). We didn't have a ROW persay but we did have an episode. So...I really feel you my friend. The only hope I can offer is that feelings are not ever totally shut off or buried. If you guys never get back together again, you will at least always be someone he thinks of before being with anyone else. That's definitely going to be the case in my book.

 

Praying helps.

[backspn]

Not all guys are like them. Keep your head up girls....there are great guys out there. I can tell you that there are alot right here in the forums. You 2 just met a couple of jerks. Dont worry bout them....ever heard of karma?