Ryan_B Posted March 18, 2013 Share Posted March 18, 2013 Tomorrow will be a month since my partner broke up with me. She was my first girlfriend (we are both 20) and I love her so much, still. It came as a bit of a surprise, we had been on holiday the week before together and it was a beautiful week. We had a few arguments over the months, but I didn't think she'd end it. She said she just wants her friends and family around her and doesn't love me in a relationship way any more. She said she still loves me as a person though, and wanted to remain ''extremely close and special friends''. I said that'd be torture for me, and said it'd be best to go NC. I deleted her facebook, skype and phone numbers and cleared my room of all reminders of her. I said if I ever feel I can get to just being friends with her in the future then I will contact her (I'd love to be able too, but I still love her so much still). I am constantly thinking about her, all the memories we had, the holidays, days out, staying over each others, drives most days, and ust the laughs we had, and it brings a tear to my eye. This is horrible, and no matter what I do (I'm a big football-soccer to you American fans, fan and follow my team round the country, I go out with friends etc) I can't shift her from my mind. I just keep seeing her beautiful face in my mind and keep wishing I'll wake up and this has been a bad dream. Has anybody got any tips? Link to post Share on other sites
The Tallest One Posted March 18, 2013 Share Posted March 18, 2013 Stay as busy as you can. Exercise is extremely helpful, kills time, sends endorphins to the brain that makes you feel better! Stay around family and friends as much as possible. Be patient with yourself because it will take some time before you feel like your old self again! I like to google as much as I can about breakups and healing and getting advice on how to heal and move on! Also a lot of it is mental discipline, you have to make a daily effort to think of her less and less each day! Also when you think of her, at the same time try and remember something about her or something she said or did that hurt you and always keep that association because in time your brain will by default want to think of her less and less! Be strong, things will get better! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ryan_B Posted March 19, 2013 Author Share Posted March 19, 2013 This is really heartbreaking right now. I still remember the time she ended it, it was 22:55 English time (5 minutes from now!) and I'm just sitting here, where I was when she ended it (it was done on Skype), thinking of what happened this time a month ago, plus I keep looking back 5 weeks ago, when we were on holiday really happy and close, and I'm just breaking down. I can't think of anything apart from her, the memories and how upset I am. I really love her, so much, still Link to post Share on other sites
thewrongonee Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 I was like this, the emotions are really strong still for you. It will take some time to get past it. Normally a month is fine, but if the relationship was strong, it would be more. I would sit at home constantly remember my gf, the break up and what went wrong. I was cutting my self from the world and it took a while for me to understand that. What i did to get past my loneliness, was to make friends, go out and have fun. mostly of them are girls, basically to fill my emptiness. ( Gave me a huge ego boost). You will find someone else to love, do not take it so seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ryan_B Posted March 20, 2013 Author Share Posted March 20, 2013 The thing is, I'll be OK, not thinking about her/the situation for a little while, then all of a sudden I'll think about her, and that's it, she won't leave my mind for hours. Even when I'm busy (with friends, family, at work etc) I still think about her constantly. I actually met her online (don't judge, it does work!!) and I have even re-opened my account and tried to talk to new people on there, just as friends for now, and see if anything works out. But even this doesn't seem right, I feel guilty for doing it, even though I'm single now! I just keep going through the things we done, the places we went, the things we said to each other etc, and it brings me right down. She was engaged before meeting me, but she said she never felt the way she did about me with her ex, and for the first time in her life she felt she had finally made the right decision and hopes we would be together for years to come. She said I showed her more love in the 7 months we had, than her fiance did in the 5 years they had together!! But now, we are nothing, and it make my cry for ages!! I can't handle this Link to post Share on other sites
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