roy2004 Posted September 9, 2004 Share Posted September 9, 2004 what do you do when you love someone who saids, they love you but don't want you to touch them in bed or show you no effection? yet we are married. Link to post Share on other sites
lioness Posted September 9, 2004 Share Posted September 9, 2004 Try to find out the real reason why your spouse no longer wants physical affection. There is definitely an underlying reason for it - find it before it ends your marriage. If you don't do something about it now, it will just continue to grow into a larger problem. I know, it's hard to feel so lonely when you have someone right next to you but you are being shut out. Hang in there. Link to post Share on other sites
Paradise Posted September 9, 2004 Share Posted September 9, 2004 How long has this been going on? Link to post Share on other sites
MarriageBed Posted September 10, 2004 Share Posted September 10, 2004 Love is patient, kind, and most importantly it never fails (or ends). So, don't give up! Whatever you do, keep loving your wife and showing her love in the way that she understands it. Find a good time to sit down and talk to your wife about your questions and concerns. I am often amazed at how difficult it is for a husband and wife to sit down and talk about sex. Sex is a very important part of marriage. Sit down and find out what is going on in your spouse's head. Why is she not interested? Before you can solve the problem, you have to identify what the problem is. It may take a couple of evenings talking with your spouse to get down to the true root cause of the problem. She may be uncomfortable talking about it, so the progress might be slow. If you get more information about the problem, post back here and let us know. Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted September 10, 2004 Share Posted September 10, 2004 Roy2004, the symptoms of some conditions include a hypersensitivity to certain kinds of physical contact. If talking with your wife doesn't yield results you might consider consulting with an M.D. or a psychiatrist. If the first doctor you go to doesn't give you answers don't give up see some more doctors or get a referral to a specialist or two. Link to post Share on other sites
snilljente Posted September 10, 2004 Share Posted September 10, 2004 My ex husband did this to me...as the years went on (we were married for about 9 1/2)....his sexual desire dwindled and dwindled..I was always trying to initiate...and it got the point where the last year we lived together, we did not have sex once...I would lie in bed and cry myself to sleep with him snoring next to me..I TRIED AND TRIED to find out what was going on...he wouldn't tell me and refused to go to counseling...finally, my depression became so great that I had to end it, even though I loved him dearly..I just couldn't stand to have a man in the same house who was a constant reminder of that level of rejection....If she is willing, talk....I wasn't so lucky. Link to post Share on other sites
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