Starnette83 Posted September 9, 2004 Share Posted September 9, 2004 Ok for all those who have maybe seen me, im the girl who dated her guy for 3.5 years and whom i loved him sooooooo much, we had broken up so many times cuz he would always say stuff like "im not sure if i love u cuz i have no one to compare u 2" to "I dont love you" and from giving girls his # and finding him flirting online..anyways on July after my bday and a fun weekend he broke another promise, he had given out his # to some girl and they had been talking and he hadnt told her he had a gf, i was so hurt because i had forgaven him and gaven him so many chances in the past... Anyways i broke up with him cuz really i was HURT to that "Ive had enough" kinda hurt...so we broke up and he was totally ok with it, he actually seems as tho he never cared, as we broke up i left his place in tears, while he just had a normal look on his face, i told him to promise me not to call and he promised we had 5 weeks no contact, and it was about to hit 6 weeks when i got drunk and called him, he told me he missed me and yadda yadda and we met up the next day... When we saw eachother it felt good, i was happy to be back in his arms yet another side of me felt stupid cuz i was the one who broke the no contact... ANyways after kissing for 3 days i told him in the phone that it be better we dont kiss and act like bf and gf...he got mad cuz those 3 days had been great, but the reason i said this was cuz i was really insecure about this, cuz he has hurt me in the past and it just didnt feel right...and plus my parents wont accept him back.. Anyways its been like 2-3 weeks since we have been toghther, cuz he convinced me and i couldnt help it cuz i do care and i luv his kisses..but for some reason i feel so different now... I cant be my corney self like before, I remember that before when i was with him it came from my heart to do nice things for him, i felt good doing favors cuz i loved him and to me he was my all, but now...i dunno i just feel weird...like i really dont feel like doing nice things for him unless i get something in return... is it maybe i dont love him anymore?? or am i just afraid of getting hurt again??? I just seem to always question him and its cuz i dont trust him, i feel that he might do the same things he did again, cuz first off he hasnt even apologized, and we dont say "I love you to eachother" It would be 4 years this dec if i keep staying with him..but is it worth it, or is the fire gone for good and we just beating a dead horse? Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted September 9, 2004 Share Posted September 9, 2004 There comes a time in any relationship when you look past the passion (and the kisses) and start evaluating the more serious aspects of the relationship. It looks to me like you guys keep reaching that point, break up and then make up again, so you can experience the passion again and again. Each time the initial passion is going to be more and more shortlived, and you're going to reach that point quicker. You obviously have reached the stage where you almost immediately start looking deeper into the relationship. If you guys cannot make it stick, and keep avoiding dealing with the important stuff, then I don't think the relationship has much purpose. Link to post Share on other sites
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