thefooloftheyear Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Good for you... The reality really isnt even what she did after the BU- even though that was hard to take. You knew what she was all about. Flirting while in a committed relationship is not only disrespectful its very immature. Holding hands? Are you kidding? That better be her 4 year old nephew or she really has deep issues. Hang in there. Im telling you that you are actually better off than some of the others that are dealing with breakups over relatively nothing. They are left twisting in the wind and worrying about what might happen down the road. For you, the deal died..End of story....Next...... TFOY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
destroyed4sho Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 my friend said this is a blatent rebound.. it's supposed to make me jealous it's supposed to make me sad.. she feels like she has 1 up on me right now.. she obviously still cares what I think if she's searching for my facebook and feeling guilty.. it's not like she has no feelings what so ever.. he said she'll come back because she'll feel terrible and get used for a quick f*ck. Does your friend have a crystal ball? Stop having hope. I did a lot for her and she won't appreciate it until she gets messed around. We all want this to happen, don't we? Does it ever? No. the second she comes back i'll tell her where to go . I'm done. Stay in reality. I made the right decision.. her doing this proved it to me. I shouldn't be upset over a girl or a friend like this.. but I obviously am, I can't look back with happy thoughts. I can't see her in a positive way at all. I really didn't want this relationship to end, I loved her so much apart from these issues but they were tearing me apart and she didn't care.. I cared a lot about her and if she threatened me with a break up because my behaviour was breaking her heart i'd stop because she meant that much to me... I obviously didn't mean that much to her. You did make the right decision. SO show some self-assurance. I obviously didn't mean that much to her. You do not know that, stop bashing yourself. She is probably reciting the same song. Link to post Share on other sites
destroyed4sho Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Okay, so we agree to disagree. You think that what the Ex is doing is the best thing since sliced pie and it's a fairybook romanance that's been written for the ages and he should rejoice in their happiness. Where I think that it was an underhanded d*ck move by both of them with the full intention of him finding out and making him eat crow. It was an unnecessary move on them to hurt him even further. so, we're at a stalemate. I'll go ahead and give the guy some support and you'll just go on calling him a wuss and reap what you sow stuff.... Oh... c'mon..lol. It is just my opinion on what is going on...I'm really convinced they did not do this out of contempt...but who knows? Stranger things have happened. It doesn't make sense tho..why the heck would his "friend" maliciously want to screw him like that? They were supposedly friends right? What is his motivation? I just don't buy it. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted March 21, 2013 Share Posted March 21, 2013 Totally agree with the above. Link to post Share on other sites
Author calgary Posted March 21, 2013 Author Share Posted March 21, 2013 ouch. I needed calming down. that didn't help at all. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 21, 2013 Share Posted March 21, 2013 Calgary, in case you haven't got it yet - YOU have to calm YOU down. Link to post Share on other sites
Author calgary Posted March 21, 2013 Author Share Posted March 21, 2013 Calgary, in case you haven't got it yet - YOU have to calm YOU down. wish I knew how, wish it was that easy. i'm supposed to go out this weekend but I just found out she's going out so now I don't want to go. i'm sick of hiding away and not speaking my mind and acting tough. I feel like if I go out she'll approach me and i'll give her a piece of my mind and it might make me feel a million times better. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted March 21, 2013 Share Posted March 21, 2013 wish I knew how, wish it was that easy. i'm supposed to go out this weekend but I just found out she's going out so now I don't want to go. i'm sick of hiding away and not speaking my mind and acting tough. I feel like if I go out she'll approach me and i'll give her a piece of my mind and it might make me feel a million times better. No one says you have to be a hermit. Go out! Just...go somewhere different. It's a big world out there, and she can't be everywhere at once. If you live in a small town, then hop a train and go to a big city for a get away weekend. If you live in the city, then go out to the country. Fresh air will do you some good. Train tickets are pretty cheap. Do your research, there's got to be something cool going on within a few hours of where you live. Music festival, broadway shows, hockey games, basketball games, club scene, fantastic restaurants, hiking trip, fishing trip, bar crawling..... I just named about ten other things you could do that are stress free of worrying about running into her. Go have a get away weekend and go have an adventure. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
fancy feast Posted March 21, 2013 Share Posted March 21, 2013 Agree with the above. And like I told you in your previous thread, be proactive and invite others to go with you. Be the guy with a diverse set of hobbies. It's way easier to get through this stuff if you're having fun along the way. Link to post Share on other sites
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