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.. He's my son! All this time, waiting, worrying, losing sleep, missing out, the anxiety, it's all lead to this! I know now, without a doubt. I feel peace now.

 

I can't believe it (though I can). It's like hearing the news of my ex's pregnancy all over again. The same emotions are there, anyway. Kinda like deja vu, only more real this time.

 

Thank you all for your support up to this point. I've been a wealth of emotions, alot of which would go back and forth, and there's definitely been anger and confusion thrown in to the mix, which has made this all very tough. But the truth is out. I can start towards a new life now. I'm a father. I really need to get my butt in gear now, it's not just a dream!

 

So many things going through my mind... I just want to see my son, that's all I want right now. As it stands now, I'll be seeing him on Friday. I can't wait. I just hope things are okay with my ex and her family when I get there, but even if they weren't okay, nothing is going to stop me from bonding with my son and giving him all the love I have to give!

 

Thanks again to all. :)

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Congratulations!

 

What a rollercoaster this has been for you- I'm so glad there was a happy outcome.

 

Fingers crossed your ex steps up (and grows up) regarding co- parenting.

 

Enjoy Friday!

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whichwayisup

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Congratulations daddy!

 

I do hope she allows you to be involved and that her family backs off. Put the past in the past and focus on the now and the future, living life, enjoying your newborn son and being a wonderful father. The rest (relationship/friendship with her) will fall into place eventually.

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Congrats...I would make sure you still see an attorney for your custody rights and it enforced by the courts! Don't trust that crazy ex.

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Waaaay to go Poppa FACE!!! The boy got lucky to have you.

 

This confirmation is the key to opening your heart to LOVE.

 

Great update. Thanks!

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Spent a chunk of change picking up some baby stuff, most of which my ex asked me to get. Got some diapers, some bottles (she asked me for storage bottles, all I could find are feeding bottles that have caps for storing, I dunno, hopefully that works) and some other oddball things. I'm charging the battery for my video camera so I'll be bringing that too, I hear the boy is alot more alert and active than when I saw him. Not a surprise, considering I haven't seen him since he was born.

 

And it turns out my ex is going to give the boy my last name, after all. I was very surprised at her willingness, but I want to just believe that she's not blowing smoke up my *** so with that being said, I'm pretty happy about it. She said it will probably be a hassle but she will take care of it.

 

Aside from one negative comment she made right after I told her I had the results (which she later informed me was only a joke), she's been really friendly. We've only spoken in text, so you never really know, but it seems very positive to me. I can play this game. It's so much easier if we work together, and we can be a team even if we are not together. So for now, I'm pleased and optimistic about the future relationship with the mother of my son. I know we're not always going to see eye to eye on things, it's just bound to happen in anybody's life, but as long as we are always making steps forward, working together, that right there would be a success.

 

I could probably write on and on but a little goes a long way. Wanted to update things have been good so far and it feels really strange to be writing that on here for a change, but I'm not complaining. Thanks everyone.

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whichwayisup

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Do let her know that you intend to be there no matter what and this is a fresh start, to leave what happened IN the past. No more talking about the paternity test.

 

It's a good sign though that your son will have your last name. Respect each other as mom and dad, and as friends. If you two at some point want to make a go of a relationship for the sake of your baby together, go for it but take it slow.

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Do let her know that you intend to be there no matter what and this is a fresh start, to leave what happened IN the past. No more talking about the paternity test.

 

It's a good sign though that your son will have your last name. Respect each other as mom and dad, and as friends. If you two at some point want to make a go of a relationship for the sake of your baby together, go for it but take it slow.

 

Definitely. As far as I'm concerned, it's done. I want to move forward. The paternity test is history. Now, the focus is our son. If my ex, and anyone in her family, can move forward and not make any more of a fuss about it, so can I.

 

I think without this paternity crap, and the drama that surrounded it, there's a good chance me and my ex can become friends. It will take time but I think it's at least possible. Respect is important. Meet me halfway, that's all I need.

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