i'm 36 he's 22

[melody6]

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well here is my story: I'm 36 female, married 13 years, 1 child 8. I guess my real problem is that I am sexually frustrated. My husband and I haven't had sex is so long I can't even remember the last time. Things have been rough lately in our relationship. I talked to my doctor regarding my personal issues and he prescribed me Procac. Since being on this medication I feel like a new person, nothing bothers me anymore, I am a very happy person. I have lost 30lbs in the last 2 months and I feel great, (husband has not said one thing regarding my weight loss). I have not felt this good since I was in my 20's. I find myself seeking out men, I check out guys all the time, The first encounter that began all this was with my husbands employee, he is 22. We were together just a few times (no sex), oh I wanted to soooooo bad, but he backed out and I haven't spoken to him since. I have called him sooooo many times with no response at all. He has just disappeared, he no longer comes by our house as he did before, he no longer works for my husband (due to a back injury?) I know he speaks to my husband from time to time. My problem is I feel like a teenager with a crush, I can't stop thinking about him, I have stopped calling him. I even picked up another guy, who is 38 (boy what a difference) yes the 22 year old was a thrill but for conversation it sucked! This guy understands me and knows what I need and that makes me more attracted to him. My problem is that I might be seeing him again and I don't think next time I will be so reluctant to say NO! Could I be going through a mid-life crisis, is this what it feels like....Help, am I acting crazy. I don't want to leave my comforts of life, I am just looking for a little action on the side, is this so wrong and don't ask me if the tables were turned how I would feel if my husband was doing this to me, because at this moment I wish he was, it would justify why he doesn't want me anymore.

[Karlise13]

It sounds like you have been awfully depressed for some time.

 

Despite the Prozac, yes things STILL bother you. Like the fact that your husband didn't comment on your weight loss and the fact that your sex life is in the toilet.

 

Prozac, by the way, is not designed to take care of all your problems. Prozac is designed to help you better handle things as you DEAL with your emotional issues in therapy. Docs who prescribe Prozac without guiding you towards psychotherapy or some kind of emotional support are serious lacking in ethics.

But that's another topic altogether.

 

OK, so you're fed up with your marriage. Hell, I would be too after that kind of neglect.

You met someone who got your bottle rockets firing and DAMN...that must have felt good, to feel like a woman again!!! Right?

 

But the 22 year old obviously is avoiding you so let him be.

 

As for the 38 year old, well....I'm not going to get into whether or not you should be cheating or not. That's for you to decide.

 

If you like your creature comforts, figure out whether you can be divorced or seperated and still live a reasonable comfortable life.

Do you have job skills?

Can you support yourself if you need to?

Why do you feel the need to stay with your husband, who so obviously makes you feel sad and neglected?

 

You can try 'getting some on the side' but what happens if you get busted? Many people get busted and that's some pretty ugly sh**. If you would rather not take that risk, why not be free to date who you please?

 

At 38, you are still young enough to start over.

 

My mom got divorced at 54, has a new boyfriend and a whole new life now. She's doing great.