Sarabi Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 So...Last monday he told me I was a vile, despicable, childish individual. I was the reason black men hate black women. I was the reason they choose to marry outside the race. I will never be good enough whatever for anyone etc. :sick: "do not contact me again" Then TODAY. Happily enjoying my penultimate day at work before payday and my days off/the weekend, when I was planning on going to an 80s night and a late night cafe with a friend...I go for my break and amongst other people, I get this...from HIM(ex MM): "S....?" I didn't reply because I was practically hyperventilating expect a further tirade of abuse and instead of thinking about him I wanted to eat...then when I finished work "Anyway, I wanted you to know I don't hate you. I guess it was a case of the final straw..You may not realise how much my patience was tested. I just didn't want us to be on bad terms like this" I didn't reply. What the hell for? I didn't believe you people when some of you said he might try to initiate contact again. Nope. After those messages I thought that was a final of all finals. For the record, I can tell you I don't even know what the hell he is talking about. I don't know what straw was final. I don't know what I did to deserve that language. I don't know what he was expecting from me being as he is committed to his marriage. I just don't know...but I am really annoyed! UGH! Sorry people...just needed to get that out Just don't understand... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 He sounds like his Moron Mode is set to high? 6 Link to post Share on other sites
promises Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 So...Last monday he told me I was a vile, despicable, childish individual. I was the reason black men hate black women. I was the reason they choose to marry outside the race. I will never be good enough whatever for anyone etc. :sick: "do not contact me again" Then TODAY. Happily enjoying my penultimate day at work before payday and my days off/the weekend, when I was planning on going to an 80s night and a late night cafe with a friend...I go for my break and amongst other people, I get this...from HIM(ex MM): "S....?" I didn't reply because I was practically hyperventilating expect a further tirade of abuse and instead of thinking about him I wanted to eat...then when I finished work "Anyway, I wanted you to know I don't hate you. I guess it was a case of the final straw..You may not realise how much my patience was tested. I just didn't want us to be on bad terms like this" I didn't reply. What the hell for? I didn't believe you people when some of you said he might try to initiate contact again. Nope. After those messages I thought that was a final of all finals. For the record, I can tell you I don't even know what the hell he is talking about. I don't know what straw was final. I don't know what I did to deserve that language. I don't know what he was expecting from me being as he is committed to his marriage. I just don't know...but I am really annoyed! UGH! Sorry people...just needed to get that out Just don't understand... exactly? what the hell for? He's a piece of crap. He wants dialog and to be in control. Take it back and say nothing in return. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 Yeah. His Wanker Widget needs adjusting. With a steel-toe-cap, size 11 boot. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 What Promises said, only in ALL CAPS!! What a ________________________ and a $%*&, oh and don't forget he's a _________!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sarabi Posted March 22, 2013 Author Share Posted March 22, 2013 The man is messing up my groove-I am trying to move on and yet he is sending messages like this which are stopping the progress...please If anything it has made me more determined to get out of the house and enjoy the weekend. Seriously. I need to get out more. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sarabi Posted March 22, 2013 Author Share Posted March 22, 2013 Yeah. His Wanker Widget needs adjusting. With a steel-toe-cap, size 11 boot. Think his wife is a shoe size down from me. I will buy her a pair and send it special delivery...with instructions on how best to test the quality of the steel against his b*****ks 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 Why are you still 'receiving messages' anyway? There are 2 very good remedies to this. Look at the No Contact Guide in my signature for how to handle texts. Alternatively some phone servers provide/sell an app that will actually block texts. Alternatively, you can also simply reply immediately with: Text blocker activated. Your text message could not be delivered and was rejected. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 Your silence is golden so whatever you do, don't reply back. Change your cell number if need be. Or block him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sarabi Posted March 22, 2013 Author Share Posted March 22, 2013 Why are you still 'receiving messages' anyway? There are 2 very good remedies to this. Look at the No Contact Guide in my signature for how to handle texts. Alternatively some phone servers provide/sell an app that will actually block texts. Alternatively, you can also simply reply immediately with: Text blocker activated. Your text message could not be delivered and was rejected. I didn't change my number, I have had it since I was 16...lol. I was at work. Its very easy for me to delete or ignore a contact/number and not be tempted to go back. Trust me. Oh, I think I looked at your NC guide a couple of months ago. If I had the opportunity I would have taken the "your message could not be delivered" route...except we are not allowed to have our phones on us at work. Gross misconduct I think Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 I say push, turn counter clockwise and pull....more effective explosion that way. Yeah... whoever thought of the phrase "You need to grow some balls" was simply playing unwittingly into our hands - !! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
sweet_pea Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 (edited) Geeze, I just want to smack him upside the head! What an a*********s (yes, with all of the extra s'!) Just ignore him! Edited March 22, 2013 by sweet_pea Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 Sarabi, How are You doing w/all this? I know feelings can't just be "switched" on & off like we wish. But they can morph into a different emotion & that is what I am hoping for you. Hurt & loss & heartbreak, to anger & heartbreak, to healing to indifference to HAPPINESS in the next chapter that doesn't include him* But you are here tonight and lots of us are here for You no matter what!!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
promises Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 he sounds abusive.. think about his patterns... he's abusing your emotions. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sarabi Posted March 22, 2013 Author Share Posted March 22, 2013 Sarabi, How are You doing w/all this? I know feelings can't just be "switched" on & off like we wish. But they can morph into a different emotion & that is what I am hoping for you. Hurt & loss & heartbreak, to anger & heartbreak, to healing to indifference to HAPPINESS in the next chapter that doesn't include him* But you are here tonight and lots of us are here for You no matter what!!! Hey thank you soooooooooooooo much At the moment personally, I'm just looking forward to the weekend I am currently listening to a song that was playing the first night we went out...I like the song (I am not playing it to think of him!) I still have feelings for him. They certainly can't be switched off in a hurry. At this point I definitely think he is confused and I still can't bring myself to think badly of him and to be honest I don't want to because I don't want to stoop to that level. That is someone's loved one/brother/father/son and those people know and love him for who he is. He must have something good in his heart if he can be loved by all these people and me thinking bad thoughts about him is no use. Not to mention a waste of time allowing thoughts of him(good or bad) to take up more space in my brain than they really deserve I HONESTLY and SINCERELY wish him and his wife and daughter the best. I hope they will be happy. I hope they get the life they want (they want to move abroad). I hope they have a safe journey and that their families are safe and well (they are going on holiday to visit his in laws). Like I have said before, if and when it all gets resolved for them and ends up fabulous, that he treats her right and more importantly, I personally hope SHE does not stand for any crap from him whatsoever(!) but...we all need to move on. I feel a strange sense of peace about the whole thing...and actually feel since he sent that text earlier today that I am more motivated not to contact him. I definitely need you LoveShackers for support though!!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sarabi Posted March 22, 2013 Author Share Posted March 22, 2013 Sounds like closure! That is the only things that matters right? Just kidding:cool: Right now I can honestly say that to me, the only thing that matters is deciding which shoes to wear on saturday night when I go out. Am still deciding ... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sarabi Posted March 22, 2013 Author Share Posted March 22, 2013 Sarabi, he sounds like a douche! You are very sweet and deserve much more in your life than some guy who can verbally assault you. You're so much better than him. (((Sarabi))) You are also sweet thank you so much for the lovely words and hug! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sarabi Posted March 22, 2013 Author Share Posted March 22, 2013 Sounds like closure! That is the only things that matters right? Just kidding:cool: Lol :laugh: :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
wisernow Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 Yeah. His Wanker Widget needs adjusting. With a steel-toe-cap, size 11 boot. Really, Tara? His "Wanker widget"? :lmao::lmao: (((((Sarabi))))) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sarabi Posted March 22, 2013 Author Share Posted March 22, 2013 Ok I'm back from work and there's more... "S, will you talk to me? Or would you like me to leave you alone?" I didn't reply...then when I got into the house just now: "I would like us to make up..If you will let me?" I didn't reply. I have had a horrible day at work and I just want to cry but first...I must seek solace in something sweet lol. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 I damn well hope it's Champagne Doux and best Viennese chocolate truffles...... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Washingmachine1980 Posted March 23, 2013 Share Posted March 23, 2013 This guy is crazy!!! Get your cell number changed. You will be glad you did! Besides it will funny when a total stranger starts getting his texts. You can't move on when he keeps trying to contact you like this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sarabi Posted March 23, 2013 Author Share Posted March 23, 2013 I damn well hope it's Champagne Doux and best Viennese chocolate truffles...... Interesting you say that...Coincidentally I met some friends at work earlier and they gave me some chocolate truffles to munch on 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sarabi Posted March 23, 2013 Author Share Posted March 23, 2013 This guy is crazy!!! Get your cell number changed. You will be glad you did! Besides it will funny when a total stranger starts getting his texts. You can't move on when he keeps trying to contact you like this. For the most part I really don't understand why he is still contacting me. "I would like us to make up...if you will let me?"...he should be saying that to his loving wife (at least a thousand times over). My number...I have a strange attachment to it. Have had the same one for more than ten years ...I don't want to change it just for ONE person. Blocking or investigating blocking would be the best route to go down really. And can I please be totally honest. All these texts have done is just fuel my silence towards him. Seriously. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LFH Posted March 23, 2013 Share Posted March 23, 2013 I have had a horrible day at work and I just want to cry but first...I must seek solace in something sweet lol. What did you get that was sweet? Something excellent I hope! And what shoes did you decide to wear tomorrow night? I'm a shoe fan... so I'm looking forward to finding out. Link to post Share on other sites
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