singme2sleep Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 So last night I had a very vivid sex dream about my ex. Is wasn't so much dirty, as it was passionate. I just wanted him close to me every second. I don't think there's any hidden meaning, simply I desire what I longer have. Anyone else have dreams like this? And if so, what did you feel when you woke up? For me it's a lot of saddddd!
Amelie1980 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I had loads of dreams like that....very upsetting. Was your break up a bad timing one? Mine was too. 1
drpepper1886 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I did once after about 2 months NC. Now 6 months on the last dream I had we were kissing; I stopped and said to her "you don't love me anymore" and she just replied "no."
Bito Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 This is very common. My ex and I had very passionate sex and I dream of this frequently. I don't miss being in a relationship with her as it caused me way to much stress. That said I miss just being with her. Its ok to have these dreams just remember why he is your ex.
Author singme2sleep Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 I had loads of dreams like that....very upsetting. Was your break up a bad timing one? Mine was too. Yepp! Are you as devastated as I am?
Amelie1980 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Yepp! Are you as devastated as I am? ohyeah and still trying to decide what to say to him 1
Author singme2sleep Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 ohyeah and still trying to decide what to say to him How long since your BU? Have you had any contact since?
Amelie1980 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 How long since your BU? Have you had any contact since? It wasn't a clean bu..... Officially about 2 months. he sent me a super nice email & I don't know what to say.
Amelie1980 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Back story...... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/361887-break http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/363831-breadcrumbs-going-mad http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/367469-lovely-email-ex 1
Author singme2sleep Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 Back story...... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/361887-break http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/363831-breadcrumbs-going-mad http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/367469-lovely-email-ex I read your posts, that's a rough situation. When you first read the email, what was your reaction? I think you just need to speak from the heart. That's what I would do...
OwlSoul Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 M. Those dreams always leave you hurt if you're seeing them right after the break up. I think they're just representing what your inner 'I' feels. For instance, I've seen dreams about us being together and spending good time right after the BU. Started seeing dreams about him dating someone else when I suspected him seeing s-ne else. Recently, I've seen one when me, my ex and his ex-gf were lying on the same bed making out. After a while he chose me and neglected his ex-gf. lol. They might mean something what your inner 'I' knows and tries to communicate. Or might mean nothing, in case it's just what you're thinking about.
Amelie1980 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 (edited) I read your posts, that's a rough situation. When you first read the email, what was your reaction? I think you just need to speak from the heart. That's what I would do... It was absolute hell. I am still not over it. We had a nice weekend at his house and I left my necklace there by accident. We had a weekend away the next weekend and he gave me the necklace back and revealled he had been carrying my necklace in his pocket to keep me with him all the time. The weekend away was amazing we were so close. 3 days after we got back he shut down and barely spoke to me. When I read the email I had an anxiety attack ....couldn't deal. it was over two months ago. Edited March 22, 2013 by Amelie1980
Author singme2sleep Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 It was absolute hell. I am still not over it. We had a nice weekend at his house and I left my necklace there by accident. We had a weekend away the next weekend and he gave me the necklace back and revealled he had been carrying my necklace in his pocket to keep me with him all the time. The weekend away was amazing we were so close. 3 days after we got back he shut down and barely spoke to me. When I read the email I had an anxiety attack ....couldn't deal. it was over two months ago. I know how you feel, it's been over two months for me and I'm still a mess. Everyone keeps telling time will heal blah blah blah. I just miss him like crazy. The fact that he reached out to you in email is a good sign. What do you want to say? I wish my ex would contact me, idk if he is trying to keep his distance so he can focus on sorting his life out...or if he simply doesn't miss me.
thefooloftheyear Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I know how you feel, it's been over two months for me and I'm still a mess. Everyone keeps telling time will heal blah blah blah. I just miss him like crazy. The fact that he reached out to you in email is a good sign. What do you want to say? I wish my ex would contact me, idk if he is trying to keep his distance so he can focus on sorting his life out...or if he simply doesn't miss me. Just consider yourself fortunate that you didnt dream of him tearing it up with some other hottie... THAT would hurt! Hang in there, kid. TFOY
Amelie1980 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 I know how you feel, it's been over two months for me and I'm still a mess. Everyone keeps telling time will heal blah blah blah. I just miss him like crazy. The fact that he reached out to you in email is a good sign. What do you want to say? I wish my ex would contact me, idk if he is trying to keep his distance so he can focus on sorting his life out...or if he simply doesn't miss me. I made a.mistake in my last post....3 days after.we. got back from.holiday he was in hospital and was never the same when he got out. I see you can't use private messaging yet? I would happily send you his.email to.read but I don't know how I can get it to you.
Author singme2sleep Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 I made a.mistake in my last post....3 days after.we. got back from.holiday he was in hospital and was never the same when he got out. I see you can't use private messaging yet? I would happily send you his.email to.read but I don't know how I can get it to you. It should allow me to soon, I've been on here a month.
Amelie1980 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 It should allow me to soon, I've been on here a month. Id be happy to swap stories with you. What was the last you heard from your guy. 1
Author singme2sleep Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 Id be happy to swap stories with you. What was the last you heard from your guy. Well idk if you read my other threads...but I haven't had contact with him since 2 weeks after our breakup. And that was like 7 weeks ago. We stayed friends on Facebook and he has his linked to the spotify music thing. Anyway one night I was logged in and over on my home screen in the right hand section where people's actions pop up, it said he was listening Taylor Swift "I knew you were trouble" which of course made me pause because he HATES Taylor and I love her. I was going to brush it off until the next one came up the he was listening to "We are never ever getting back together" and my first thought was that he's sending me some kind of cryptic message. Couldn't just ignore it so I grabbed my phone and texted him asking about it and mentioning that he wasn't talking to me. Like 60 seconds later he replies back that the radio app shuffles music randomly and he does hate Taylor and then says "and I haven't been talking to you because I'm working a lot and sleeping" so I reluctantly said ok and I hoped that work was going well. We left it at that and haven't talked since. At this point I'm not sure what to think. 1
Amelie1980 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Well idk if you read my other threads...but I haven't had contact with him since 2 weeks after our breakup. And that was like 7 weeks ago. We stayed friends on Facebook and he has his linked to the spotify music thing. Anyway one night I was logged in and over on my home screen in the right hand section where people's actions pop up, it said he was listening Taylor Swift "I knew you were trouble" which of course made me pause because he HATES Taylor and I love her. I was going to brush it off until the next one came up the he was listening to "We are never ever getting back together" and my first thought was that he's sending me some kind of cryptic message. Couldn't just ignore it so I grabbed my phone and texted him asking about it and mentioning that he wasn't talking to me. Like 60 seconds later he replies back that the radio app shuffles music randomly and he does hate Taylor and then says "and I haven't been talking to you because I'm working a lot and sleeping" so I reluctantly said ok and I hoped that work was going well. We left it at that and haven't talked since. At this point I'm not sure what to think. weird... I haven't replied to his email as I couldn't cope....I was too hurt but now I think I might ve ok with a response but dobnt know what to say.
Author singme2sleep Posted March 22, 2013 Author Posted March 22, 2013 weird... I haven't replied to his email as I couldn't cope....I was too hurt but now I think I might ve ok with a response but dobnt know what to say. Just tell him how you feel. For me I keep going over things he says when we were together and it's still a shock to my system that he's gone. That makes it so much harder to accept its over and move on. I think he is pushing aside his love for me because of all his problems. It isn't fair!
Amelie1980 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 Just tell him how you feel. For me I keep going over things he says when we were together and it's still a shock to my system that he's gone. That makes it so much harder to accept its over and move on. I think he is pushing aside his love for me because of all his problems. It isn't fair! It isn't fair ......:-( I'll try and start an email this weekend. 1
Author singme2sleep Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 It isn't fair ......:-( I'll try and start an email this weekend. Okay, keep me posted!
Blastoplast Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Better than dreams about killing yourself... I had one where I swallowed a bottle full of pills backstage before I was to play a concert. On the stage I got down on me knees and started vomiting all over the place, but it wasn't pills -- they were amber colored marbles that I was coughing up instead. My EX's name was Amber... and it made me realize that she was suffocating me at the end of our relationship. I've also had sexy dreams with her too, but I more often have sexy dreams about other women I want to hook up with lately, and one of them has come true so sometimes dreams do come true, however you want to take that
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