whichwayisup Posted March 25, 2013 Share Posted March 25, 2013 don't jump to conclusions... you sound like someone beeing cheated on.... i just said, as I stated earlier in this thread: " how are you doing"? nothing more nothing less... What heart would i pour out... i don't know what I feel about him.. i just know that i can't walk away from this without him telling me ( one way or the other) that i don't mean that much ot him... This thread is not about me at all. I am only going on what you've shared on here. How am I jumping to conclusions? You say this man is your soulmate/twin soul. Are you now talking on caring and ONLY platonic level? Before it seemed like you were referring to it all with romance and love, like you'd be willing to D your H and start over again with this online guy. I guess I'm trying to understand why after three months this all matters? One would think that silence IS your answer. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mrs.Dee Posted March 25, 2013 Author Share Posted March 25, 2013 Is your husband ok with you contacting him? probably not, but i have actually been telling him about him anyhow... this is probably just one sided... right ......and in like 6 months from now i will say " i should have known better"... Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted March 25, 2013 Share Posted March 25, 2013 probably not, but i have actually been telling him about him anyhow... this is probably just one sided... right ......and in like 6 months from now i will say " i should have known better"... How can you do this to your husband? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 25, 2013 Share Posted March 25, 2013 probably not, but i have actually been telling him about him anyhow... this is probably just one sided... right ......and in like 6 months from now i will say " i should have known better"... Miss Dee, why wait 6 months? Say it NOW! You do know better. And, as for your H, you telling him about this (obviously you're leaving out crucial info) and the fact he knows you, he could be suspicious about your behaviour and moods. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lillyfree Posted March 25, 2013 Share Posted March 25, 2013 don't jump to conclusions... you sound like someone beeing cheated on.... i just said, as I stated earlier in this thread: " how are you doing"? nothing more nothing less... What heart would i pour out... i don't know what I feel about him.. i just know that i can't walk away from this without him telling me ( one way or the other) that i don't mean that much ot him... i can tell you now. you DON'T mean much to him at all. but he's not important in this story: let's get back to you... you need to work out what 'this' actually is. you either don't know what you want or you're lying to yourself, or both. from my own experience, i'll tell you what i think it is: you're clinging to some fantasy that there is a special connection between you and him, that he is 'special'. he isn't. he isn't your 'twin flame', soulmate, or anything of the sort. you feel connected to the person you're imagining him to be, not real him. what i think is going on at his end? he's looking for an affair. when you wouldn't go further and have it turn physical, he lost interest. he's got someone else lined up by now, maybe even a few of them. one of those will be willing to start an affair with him. what you need to do is give up the fantasy and look at what's going on in your real life that made you want to look for an escape. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mrs.Dee Posted March 25, 2013 Author Share Posted March 25, 2013 i can tell you now. you DON'T mean much to him at all. but he's not important in this story: let's get back to you... you need to work out what 'this' actually is. you either don't know what you want or you're lying to yourself, or both. I really don't know. Maybe he can make it clearer for me. from my own experience, i'll tell you what i think it is: you're clinging to some fantasy that there is a special connection between you and him, that he is 'special'. he isn't. he isn't your 'twin flame', soulmate, or anything of the sort. you feel connected to the person you're imagining him to be, not real him. First of all... how do we really know who the person we are with, is? Answer is probably: we never really do. There have been stories about people that has been married for years and years, yet still they didn't know who the other was in the end. I think it all depends on the people involved and how deceitful or not so deceitful they are and our skills and wish to see the person we are with as him or her really is. so the question is really not if i feel connected to the person i imagine him to be, but is he the person i imagine him to be. Yes, I also question ( as in yes or no or maybe so:D) whether we have or do not have something special, but I think the best way to answer that is really just to see what he thinks about the matter. And this far its more on the he has already moved on side. what i think is going on at his end? he's looking for an affair. when you wouldn't go further and have it turn physical, he lost interest. he's got someone else lined up by now, maybe even a few of them. one of those will be willing to start an affair with him. yes that was also what I was thinking ... and it might be right... but I am not sure in my heart yet, but I will probably be from how he acts Link to post Share on other sites
Lillyfree Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 I really don't know. Maybe he can make it clearer for me. i don't understand why you would leave it up to him to clear it up. what do you want out of this, and why... should come from you. Yes, I also question ( as in yes or no or maybe so:D) whether we have or do not have something special, but I think the best way to answer that is really just to see what he thinks about the matter. And this far its more on the he has already moved on side. yes that was also what I was thinking ... and it might be right... but I am not sure in my heart yet, but I will probably be from how he acts sure, the best way to find something out is to ask. however... 3 months is a VERY long time, especially where online only Rs are concerned. what i don't get is why do you seem to leave it up to some online guy to determine what you want to do with your life? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mrs.Dee Posted March 26, 2013 Author Share Posted March 26, 2013 i don't understand why you would leave it up to him to clear it up. what do you want out of this, and why... should come from you. Because he is a part of it.. he plays a big role in clearing up "what this is". sure, the best way to find something out is to ask. however... 3 months is a VERY long time, especially where online only Rs are concerned. I don't really thinks so in this situation. I would agree that more than 1 weeks would have been long if contact was stopped just like that, but when it is after a fight there can be a number of reasons why he hasn't contacted me back. BUT it can of course also mean he has forgotten all about me and time will show. what i don't get is why do you seem to leave it up to some online guy to determine what you want to do with your life? How am I leaving it up to him what to do with my life? But because he is a big part of this, he also will limit or expand what possibilities are out there. Link to post Share on other sites
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