cindyloo Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 A few weeks ago I was with a guy I liked (He's 30, I'm 24). I was wearing these cute panties but they are full-coverage butt ones... and might FEEL like "granny panties" since they cover everything. (I was wearing a skirt that night and didn't want to wear a thong or anything revealing in case i bent over.) Anyway, we ended up making out while laying down and he put his hands down my pants and he tried to feel my butt cheeks but couldn't get to any skin because my underwear was covering everything. After a few seconds of feeling he just pulled his hands back out... (bad sign?) He didn't get to see the underwear (and see that they are actually cute) he just felt that they were... kind of big? My question is- Is this a huge turn off to guys? I don't know if we will get a chance to hook up again but I really like him and don't want him to think I'm not sexy or that I don't wear sexy underwear. I just didn't that night. UGH I'm really annoyed by the situation! I had no idea we were going to hook up. I almost wish we hadn't now because I am so embarrassed.
iKING Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Not really, I like it when girls wear boy-short types of underwear given there's a reason (skirt, dress, leggings) and even the half-coverage butt shorts on normal occasion are cute. I would say don't over-think it and wear some more open panties next time you're with him if you want him to feel some skin. 1
KungFuJoe Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I can't imagine ANY normal guy who would care what kind of panties a girl was wearing...at least not to a point where it made a difference on whether or not he was going to take it further. I'm thinking maybe he felt a bit awkward? Like trying to be smooth with unfastening a bra and not finding a strap on the back. Or maybe that's as far as he wanted to take it. 2
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 You're 24, he's 30...don't worry...he doesn't care. The best commodity you have is under the panties. 5
MrCastle Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Here's an idea--next time he wants to cop a feel why not go underneath your panties? I mean it's not like you need a lock to take the panties off. To answer the question, I don't care about the panties because once we get to the point where panties are being touched, they'll be soon removed. 2
ChessPieceFace Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 The question was "do men care?" rather than "will this be a deal-breaker?" So yes, men care, thus why shops like Victoria's Secret stay in business. But as mentioned, we generally don't care THAT much. Mainly I'd just say avoid the giant granny panties. That could be a legit turnoff. 2
frustr8ed Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Maybe he thought you were wearing the "period" panties and decided to abort the mission and pull back the troops. 5
outsidethebox Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Based on your comment it's because of your reaction when he touched your panties. You were uncomfortable about it (for a different reason) and he would sense that. You can say something like "your hand feels so good" or squirm suggestively or any number of things to let him know you like what he's doing with what you're wearing. I would think based on me that some men prefer panties to thongs, and some men even prefer pantyhose, but getting your hands under them is part of the fun. Let him work for it. 1
iKING Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 (edited) I mean it's not like you need a lock to take the panties off. This isn't a chastity belt guys, they're soon to come off anyways. Who cares much what they were when they're on the floor? As you can see from the answers, men don't care much, as long as they're not completely obstructing our points of entry. It was probably just a fluke, nothing to think too much into, if you want him to grab some skin, wear something that'll give him a better feel next time. Edited March 23, 2013 by iKING 2
Archgirl Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Sounds like he's a bit too tentative - In my experience guys care a whole lot more about what's inside panties and how quickly they can get into it. So next time maybe just give him a lil help and just take 'em off before he loses courage Good luck babe 1
Amelie1980 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Enjoy.... Bridget Jones "Hello mummy" - YouTube 2
StanMusial Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 LOL. It's not a big deal. It depends on your body type probably. I dated a girl a few years ago that had the roundest little butt. Man that thing was so good. She would wear the tiniest little thongs, the kind that is basically a string with a little flower at the top. 1
Estate Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I can't imagine ANY normal guy who would care what kind of panties a girl was wearing...at least not to a point where it made a difference on whether or not he was going to take it further. I'm thinking maybe he felt a bit awkward? Like trying to be smooth with unfastening a bra and not finding a strap on the back. Or maybe that's as far as he wanted to take it. Yeah, you're right.... if there's one thing all men hate it's a sexy woman.
rocketman122 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Never had a woman wear granny panties but yes I care what panties my lady wears. they also like it that I care. im very visual. they always wear tiny thongs/gstrings or sometimes minimum cut booty shorts. I dont like panties that go high on the thighs/hips. turn off. I also buy lingerie for my ladies so yes I do very much care.
Author cindyloo Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 Here's an idea--next time he wants to cop a feel why not go underneath your panties? I mean it's not like you need a lock to take the panties off. To answer the question, I don't care about the panties because once we get to the point where panties are being touched, they'll be soon removed. Yeah I was surprised/disappointed that he didn't go underneath... but it was our first time making out and we have been friends for a little while so I think he just didn't want to make me uncomfortable. I should have said something I suppose. Oh well, I'm sure that he noticed and cared a little bit. But the other day we were texting and he said he gets really turned on thinking about that night. I guess even if the underwear was a turn off, it wasn't ENOUGH of one to make not sexually attracted to me. 2
outsidethebox Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I doubt it was a turnoff. Your reaction of being uncomfortable is probably why he stopped. He said he was turned on. Who wouldn't be? 2
Author cindyloo Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 I doubt it was a turnoff. Your reaction of being uncomfortable is probably why he stopped. He said he was turned on. Who wouldn't be? Thanks Good point, haha. 1
PogoStick Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 The more common complaint is that us guys take them off so fast we never notice if they're cute or not
Techie Artist Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Most men are visual creatures. There is something to be said for wearing sexy undergarments. I used to dim the lights, put on a pretty negligee and take my time entering the room. Sometimes I'd wear a robe, uncover sexily, and get his attention. Granny panties doesn't give me the extra sexiness I like to feel (in my own mind), so I wear what makes me feel sexy and confident. The panties themselves are inconsequential. Considering you were just petting and he was copping a feel, there was no build up to the disrobing of your body. Yeah, he probably wanted to maintain control OR he thought you were on your monthly (faulty logic, BTW fellas!). The guys' responses have been funny, especially the ones that talk about what's IN the panties. But in all seriousness, it probably wasn't the undies.
dasein Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Doesn't matter to me until a relationship ensues. It's none of my business until then and vice versa. After a relationship begins, I'd prefer sexy panties, but even then it's what she wants to wear and is comfortable for her. I don't like women I am dating to go without panties all the time though, sometimes is OK.
mesmerized Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 lol granny panties are never good but I don't think they are deal breakers
Els Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Unless you're wearing huuuuge granny panties, I can't imagine a guy complaining. Sure, it's nice to doll it up sometimes and pull out the silk/satin/lace/thong/g-string/etc, especially when you're trying to entice the dude... but I think you'd want your everyday panties to be practical and hygienic, and you'd want a bf who's okay with that. Wearing the fancy stuff on a daily basis is just begging for a UTI, unless you're one of the very lucky few women who don't get them. I second outsidethebox - I think YOU read too much into your own panties and he pulled back cause you were giving the wrong signals. 1
Revolver Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Men don't care about the vast majority of the things female stress about. But magazines,Websites,movies,books, and female friends keep putting out these myths and that's where the confusion comes from 1
ls32ssibm Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 http://media.victoriassecret.com/features/1266197839586/20130308-lp-pty-sub-panty-picks.jpg Yes please. No me gusta thongs.
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