Hi women/men/wives/gfs - Would you know what this behavior from a man means?

[sunshine001]

Looking for mature answers from wifeys hence posting my thread here. My boyfriend with whom I have a complicated relationship at the moment has hung up on me almost 7 to 9 times so far. I find it so childish. He is 35 and I am 29 for once thought he will act mature! Have mentioned this to him in the past without nagging or anything at all. What's surprising is that he has done this repeatedly without us even fighting or arguing. It is just a normal conversation.

 

Last week went at a restaurant for dinner and were having a good time and conversation. I was myself, happy and cheerful and all of a sudden he got sad. Asked him what happened he says 'nothing I am just tired'. I noticed the more cheerful and myself I was the more sad he kept getting hence it was hard to believe the reason for his sadness was being tired since he was quite happy and cheerful just 15 mins prior to that. Also I wouldn't want to do the guessing game work. This is what have disliked in our relationship and have felt that the more happy and myself I was or am the more sad or upset he has gotten/gets. Find it to be a ridiculous now that I think back! After dinner he said we will talk on the phone later in the night which we did. Suddenly during our 5 minute conversation he says 'Have a goodnight' and hangs up on my face. Totally out of the blue! I call him the next day and tell him how rude it was and that I don't appreciate it and would like him to stop and apologize for doing it. He says 'Not right now. Let's meet for a movie on Saturday'. Saturday which is today. Haven't spoken to him for a week and no longer wish to. Seriously tired of these games or maybe he is just a quiet geeky programmer that I don't understand not sure. Thought someone might know what this means.

 

Now suddenly this morning he sends me an email saying this:

 

"I wanted to know if you are still ok for having diner and watching movie tonight.

For some reason, I cannot reach you on the phone.

 

Also I have 2 mails for you.

 

See you soon"

 

I don't understand how he does not realize that I am upset for what he did and no longer putting up with it. Does your man do that? Or has done that? What does this behavior indicate? I have never dealt with anything like this. Not going to respond to his email or even talk or contact him anymore. Would like to know what this behavior means as it is quite confusing and complicated have never dealt with anything like this ever.

[TigerCub]

I'm not sure what it means - he seems like a passive aggressive rude guy**.

 

Just wanted to point out that how you deal today will set an example of how he gets to treat you.

 

If you go out with him that kinda says what he did (being a downer, being rude, hanging up on you, being dismissive when you told him it was rude and demanded an apology - that you never got) - all that stuff is stuff that you would be accepting if you go out with him now (in his opinion) - I'm guessing, but I think it's true.

 

we teach people how to treat us and if you go out with him just like that after all that happened what do you think he would have learned about you?

 

I don't know why he acts like he does, but I really do know your reaction to it and what you will put up with will say a lot about you.

 

**I'm not saying he's rude for being down - just for how he dealt with it all after that.

[Janesays]

My fiance has never done anything like that and he is the geeky type too. Then again, I wouldn't tolerate that.

 

The first time someone hangs up on me is the last time we speak. That indicates a total lack of respect and poor manners. Deal breakers to even be my friend, let alone the one who shares my bed.

[Poppy fields]

It means he is immature, and any relationship you have with him will be frustrating at best. Life is too short for this BS.

[carhill]

What does this behavior indicate?

 

When you mention 'quiet geeky programmer' and such apparently disconnected behavior dynamics the first thought which came to my mind was some form of autism.

[diipii]

You don't deserve these childish head games.

He seems to have image/self perception/confidence issues that are fundamental and destructive.

Move on. You are not making the situation better for either of you by staying.