LonelyandSad Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 (edited) please Delete Edited March 24, 2013 by LonelyandSad Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 If you have to ask that question then the answer is probably yes. Just saying... Link to post Share on other sites
Author LonelyandSad Posted March 25, 2013 Author Share Posted March 25, 2013 Lonelyandsad, I read your post before you deleted it. I'm sorry you find yourself in this painful place. Now, sorry if this sounds harsh, but your mm is a selfish ass and he only contacts you when it suits him, your needs are not important to him as he shows you all the time. Many ow end up in this position and they accept less and less to keep the mm in their life and as you know it brings you pain and probably anger at yourself for allowing it. I hope you find the strength to get out of the affair and realize that you are worth so much more than being on call for some mm to pull your strings when he decides to. What you are in........comes at a great cost to your self respect and your peace of mind. Please get out, the sooner, the better. No man is worth giving yourself away to someone who gives you so little in return. Altough i deleted my post i thank you for responding. I guess after posting it and reading back it hit me and i felt stupid at exactly how i was being treated. I didn't feel the need for responses then. I understand my worth and no what i deserve and if he doesn't want to be the man i need then i will have no option but to go my own way Link to post Share on other sites
georgia girl Posted March 25, 2013 Share Posted March 25, 2013 Lonely and sad, I didn't get to read your post and because I think you need those thoughts private, I'm glad. But, by the response I can tell that perhaps you were in an unequal relationship and that may be beating you down. Please always value yourself more than you ever value a partner. Anyone who can't be good to you is not WORTH you. That's a hard standard to set, but once it goes un-established, it can create a cycle where one partner compromises more for the relationship than the other and it sets up an imbalance which is truly soul-destroying. Here's my take on that. Sometimes good people treat each other badly. Sometimes good people treat each other well and sometimes good people get treated badly by bad people. Your job is to protect you and demand how others will treat you. Be fair and offer to treat others as you insist that they treat you and always be kind. But when someone fails to meet your standards, let them go as painful as it may be. In the long term you will save yourself pain and heartache and you will win back the most precious thing in the world to you: you. As my daddy used to say, "Any man who would let you down isn't a man. Remember that and you will pick well." Hugs. It's okay to be sad and lonely. You will heal. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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