My husband decided he wants a 1950's housewife, I cant be that.

[sweetjasmine]

It sounds like OP is already in medical school. If she's in the US, then it's not exactly possible for her to hit the pause button on that career and pick it up again later. I've never heard of anyone leaving medical school and successfully returning. It would require applying for readmission under the same criteria as first time applicants, and there are expiration dates on the required prerequisite courses. Neither they nor the standardized tests can be older than X years (usually 5).

 

If OP graduates from school but doesn't try to match for a residency and takes a break instead, her career will probably still be over. The people who don't match right away but try again the following year have a hard enough time getting a spot as it is. Every year you don't get in, your chances of ever getting a residency spot drop, as you become a less and less competitive applicant. If she were to wait several years after graduation to try to match, she'd probably be unable to get her foot in the door, ever, which means she will never be a practicing doctor.

[stillafool]

I just love how someone starts a thread and people try to help, but 5 pages later the OP never comes back or answers any questions.

[Quiet Storm]

You don't have to lose anything to gain. That's just nonsensical. My kids NEVER had a baby sitter or day care. They were always with me, dad or a grandmother. If you have support you don't need to lose anything.

 

Your comment is insulting to any mother that didn't sit home with her children all day. It's patently incorrect.

 

Not to mention when my husband died, we would have been screwed had I not done what I did. Don't apply your life to the rest of the world.

 

The key sentence in this post is "If you have support you don't need to lose anything."

 

Not everyone is fortunate enough to have a supportive husband, or a mother that is available or willing to help.

[Quiet Storm]

I have a supportive husband, but that didn't stop me from feeling like I was losing important time with my kids.

 

Regardless of whether the kids were at day care, with my husband, or with my mother...when I was at work, they were not with me.

 

They are older now and turned out to be happy, well adjusted kids. Even with day care and pumped milk.

 

However, I still feel like I robbed them. And I know I robbed myself. I can't get those moments back.

[William]

I just love how someone starts a thread and people try to help, but 5 pages later the OP never comes back or answers any questions.

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