sunshine6 Posted March 25, 2013 Share Posted March 25, 2013 NC was broken and I'm kicking myself... He seems to either totally have a wall up with me, or was just lying about everything the past few years. Please help: WTF does this even mean? "I want to take what I can get, even if it's just looking at you" ??? So he's content with us not talking, as long as I'm in his presence. What a bunch of junk. How I can keep this from driving me crazy? I was in such a good place a couple of weeks ago... I know he's full of CRAP, so how can I use that to just not CARE anymore? Link to post Share on other sites
Mycatsnuggles Posted March 25, 2013 Share Posted March 25, 2013 "well I can't take looking at you" LMAO Link to post Share on other sites
Patrice Posted March 25, 2013 Share Posted March 25, 2013 The best revenge is to ignore and work on making yourself better, he's fishing - they always do, needs his ego stroked etc. - Link to post Share on other sites
Silver_Lining Posted March 25, 2013 Share Posted March 25, 2013 NC was broken and I'm kicking myself... He seems to either totally have a wall up with me, or was just lying about everything the past few years. Please help: WTF does this even mean? "I want to take what I can get, even if it's just looking at you" ??? So he's content with us not talking, as long as I'm in his presence. What a bunch of junk. How I can keep this from driving me crazy? I was in such a good place a couple of weeks ago... I know he's full of CRAP, so how can I use that to just not CARE anymore? Just a thought on the matter not knowing the history, relation, terms of NC... tough call! My guess is that he may have deep feelings for you yet meaning a restraint to water down the NC through glances if that is all you can share together, a hope if you will, a connection to share... a holding on, unsure of your commitment, feelings and resolve during NC.. Lots and lots of inner head games go on as many well know during times of NC. Just saying his text, words may have come across badly because he just does not know how to communicate what he feels! Just a guess! Only you knowing him and your situation can truly try to read it for what it is.. or just ask! Link to post Share on other sites
spice4life Posted March 25, 2013 Share Posted March 25, 2013 What does "in his presense" mean?! I would be furious too and would tell him to stuff it because he can't take from you anymore! Link to post Share on other sites
Silver_Lining Posted March 25, 2013 Share Posted March 25, 2013 What does "in his presense" mean?! I would be furious too and would tell him to stuff it because he can't take from you anymore! It looks like "in his presense" is her interpretation in part of his message, not his. She seems to ask a question or seeking validation to her own thoughts on the matter without stating it in so many words. Link to post Share on other sites
spice4life Posted March 25, 2013 Share Posted March 25, 2013 It looks like "in his presense" is her interpretation in part of his message, not his. She seems to ask a question or seeking validation to her own thoughts on the matter without stating it in so many words. What he said in his message is still creepy though. I don't get where you think he is not communicating his feelings. He is basically saying that his situation won't change and if she has to go then he will get what he needs by looking at her when he can. He didn't need to share that and it's a slap in her face to be honest. He opened her wounds again. That's selfish if you ask me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Poppy fields Posted March 25, 2013 Share Posted March 25, 2013 Who knows what he meant. Does he want you to give him a framed portrait as a parting gift? Go NC again and work hard to maintain it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lillyfree Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 Please help: WTF does this even mean? "I want to take what I can get, even if it's just looking at you" ??? what i got was 'i will take as much as i can get, or as little as is available'. just another line from the affair manual for drama queens. Link to post Share on other sites
stevie_23 Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 what i got was 'i will take as much as i can get, or as little as is available'. just another line from the affair manual for drama queens. Yeah, I interpreted it as such too. My ex-MM, very early on in our affair, once said if I ever decided not to continue with him (if it got too hard, if I wanted to go back to a normal life, if I fell out of love with him, etc), he would always still love me, but would do it from a distance. Link to post Share on other sites
Lillyfree Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 oh, that wasn't just an interpretation, it was word for word what OM said to me. same bullsh*t different packaging in any case. Link to post Share on other sites
stevie_23 Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 oh, that wasn't just an interpretation, it was word for word what OM said to me. same bullsh*t different packaging in any case. Did you view it as romantic at the time? Lol I did. I still do. But it’s also lame and twisted too. Link to post Share on other sites
Lillyfree Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 did i see it as romantic? no. because 'as much as he could get' at that time could have been everything. his behaviour though was telling me other things - that he didn't want as much as he could get... so it hurt more than anything else. i just said nothing in reply Link to post Share on other sites
stevie_23 Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 Hmm. I guess my situation was slightly different since he said that at the beginning and it was said out of infatuation and starry eyed love. Now at the end, he's taking nothing from me and giving nothing to me. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 NC was broken and I'm kicking myself... He seems to either totally have a wall up with me, or was just lying about everything the past few years. Please help: WTF does this even mean? "I want to take what I can get, even if it's just looking at you" ??? So he's content with us not talking, as long as I'm in his presence. What a bunch of junk. How I can keep this from driving me crazy? I was in such a good place a couple of weeks ago... I know he's full of CRAP, so how can I use that to just not CARE anymore? have you ever been around someone because you just feel good around them, liek you are meant to be around them, when they arent around you you miss them being there? somehow the puzzle fits better , the corners arent so rough to handle when you know they are there....happens rarely......but it can happen.....another fact with this is.....sometimes some people dont let others know they feel this intensely because it is scary to some......or people regard it as stupid and a load of junk.....not saying you do ....well yeah i am......but it can happen......dont know if it is real in the point of your guy....i think it may be regarded as limerence (sic) or having tendencies towards ..........deb Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunshine6 Posted March 26, 2013 Author Share Posted March 26, 2013 What he said in his message is still creepy though. I don't get where you think he is not communicating his feelings. He is basically saying that his situation won't change and if she has to go then he will get what he needs by looking at her when he can. He didn't need to share that and it's a slap in her face to be honest. He opened her wounds again. That's selfish if you ask me. This is exactly how I feel about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunshine6 Posted March 26, 2013 Author Share Posted March 26, 2013 did i see it as romantic? no. because 'as much as he could get' at that time could have been everything. his behaviour though was telling me other things - that he didn't want as much as he could get... so it hurt more than anything else. i just said nothing in reply This is exactly the situation. At the time, he coukd have had more...not neccessarily sex, but more. I'm oveer that now, but this is exactly why its a slap in the face. He's okay with only taking and giving the bare minimum. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
skylarblue Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 NC was broken and I'm kicking myself... He seems to either totally have a wall up with me, or was just lying about everything the past few years. Please help: WTF does this even mean? "I want to take what I can get, even if it's just looking at you" ??? So he's content with us not talking, as long as I'm in his presence. What a bunch of junk. How I can keep this from driving me crazy? I was in such a good place a couple of weeks ago... I know he's full of CRAP, so how can I use that to just not CARE anymore Just that. By knowing that he's full of crap and reminding yourself of all the crappy things he's done and is continuing to do. How was life when you were in that good place? The one that he and his selfishness came through and wrecked? The one that you're having trouble getting back to just because he wanted to tell you he'll look at your picture? Use his drive-by (shooting: in figurative term) to fuel your fire, as further confirmation that yeah he is a jerk, and to motivate you to get back to where you want to be and beyond. He said what he had/wanted to and got right back on with life while you're stuck from a few sentences from him. No! Don't allow that. Tell him (the thought of him) FU with two birdies up. REALLY see it as a slap in the face and why you chose to be over it (and even if you're not fully, fake it 'til it's true). Link to post Share on other sites
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