Nyla Posted March 31, 2013 Share Posted March 31, 2013 I notice that it's 'lightskin' black women that black men wanted. I had no idea they were preferring brown. By the way, what do you consider to be 'brown'? Nia Long? When I say "brown" I mean "lightskin". Invest the thousands you would spend on plastic surgery to move to a more accepting area or find a therapist. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MissJoness Posted March 31, 2013 Author Share Posted March 31, 2013 When I say "brown" I mean "lightskin". Invest the thousands you would spend on plastic surgery to move to a more accepting area or find a therapist. brown is not lightskin though. who do you consider 'brown'? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MissJoness Posted March 31, 2013 Author Share Posted March 31, 2013 Awwww, come on girls, revel in your natural appearances, sod Kelly Rowland, she only made one good track (that Freemasons remix of 'Work'), she doesn't really DO anything of substance, she's 100% mediocre as an 'artist', why even aspire to that??? People are beautiful whatever their racial lineage is. Please reconsider all the plastic surgery shizzle, it's so sad and demeaning, one should not have to transform themselves purely because the media says so, the media is one damned massive parasite. All you'd basically be doing was slicing bits of your birth-given face off, just meat off a bone for a cause that is sooooooooooo vapid and ridiculous, more wasted money pumped into the passive-aggressive 'beauty' industry, they make so many suckers out of people, all over the world. Sorry, lasses, I'll climb down from my pulpit, was getting a tad carried away there.... It's just been engrained in my head that slimmer facial features(high nose bridge, european head shape) are considered more attractive that it's hard for me to accept my own. Just the type of validation and approval that women get who have those features makes me incredibly insecure and I envy them so much. The East African horners are always referred to as the most beautiful women in Africa and what type of features do they have? Keen nose, lightskin, soft hair. Rappers are always talking about them in songs about how beautiful they are, and online many people talk about how beautiful they are. Even Oprah Winfrey . I'm obsessed with attaining those features. I'd be much happier and more content with myself if I looked like that. Link to post Share on other sites
123321 Posted March 31, 2013 Share Posted March 31, 2013 Why thanks ... if only Californian men felt that way, I wouldn't be on this site lol Well I'm in LA but I'm sure there are younger better men than me in line to date a girl as pretty as that. Link to post Share on other sites
hppr Posted March 31, 2013 Share Posted March 31, 2013 You and MissJones are just meeting the wrong men. As a black woman, the self hate on this thread makes me very sad. I stopped seeking validation from black men who only wanted "brown" black women. Best choice I ever made. Why seek approval from ignorant people? They're just whining because the (I'm guessing hot, tall) black guys that they want always seem to go for other girls that's all. It's not exactly a unique situation. Really, it's either 1) date the men who are attracted to you as you are now or 2) change yourself until those hot, tall black dudes want you. Personally I think they should go with number 1 but that's just my 2 cents. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MissJoness Posted March 31, 2013 Author Share Posted March 31, 2013 They're just whining because the (I'm guessing hot, tall) black guys that they want always seem to go for other girls that's all. It's not exactly a unique situation. Really, it's either 1) date the men who are attracted to you as you are now or 2) change yourself until those hot, tall black dudes want you. Personally I think they should go with number 1 but that's just my 2 cents. Why should I date men that I'm not attracted to? It wouldn't be fair to them if there is no attraction on my behalf. Addtionally, I am not even interested in black men period. Not even the 'hot and tall' ones. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MissJoness Posted March 31, 2013 Author Share Posted March 31, 2013 I want to change how I look because women with slim european facial features get positive feedback and more acceptance from people in general (male or female). The perks are getting the type of guys I want but compliments and validation from both sexes Link to post Share on other sites
Cali408 Posted April 1, 2013 Share Posted April 1, 2013 Absolutely not. No darker than a paper bag. Link to post Share on other sites
hppr Posted April 1, 2013 Share Posted April 1, 2013 Absolutely not. No darker than a paper bag. When I was in the military and the brothers would be joking about a 'paper bag test' I always thought it meant she was so ugly you had to put a paper bag over her head to bang her. Link to post Share on other sites
Nyla Posted April 1, 2013 Share Posted April 1, 2013 brown is not lightskin though. who do you consider 'brown'? It is another term for "lightskin". Link to post Share on other sites
ScreamingTrees Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 I think Rihanna's ugly. I've seen plenty of attractive darker women than her. Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 I don't understand why the OP either blatantly ignores those who say they find dark skin beautiful... OP there are white men here saying they love dark skin. There are dark-skinned women here telling of their success with men. People don't go out of their way to come on a thread and say things just to be PC. If none of us believed this stuff we'd just stay off the thread... By the way - GORGEOUS Image - TinyPic - Free Image Hosting, Photo Sharing & Video Hosting 1 Link to post Share on other sites
clumsiest Posted April 3, 2013 Share Posted April 3, 2013 because she does not see it in herself. miss jones, once you start to see yourself as beautiful, once you start to really feel it within, that's when people are drawn to you like flies. i know you just want to be thought of as conventionally beautiful, and it makes me sad that society does this to women. at the end of the day it just doesn't matter what anybody else thinks. society is built to discriminate, even as all these pages of people have tried to give you compliments, there is a deep ingrained racism in the culture we live in. find beauty in yourself, and find someone that DOES think you are hot. and you will. white or black or brown or yellow. but you have to build yourself up. people are not kidding when they say confidence is attractive. even the most conventionally beautiful of women will be turned away by men if they don't have some semblance of inner confidence in themselves. i don't mean to be madame lectures, i just want you to know that you don't have to bleach your skin or spend your time thinking about if white men think you are hot and why not. you are beautiful as you are, and someone is going to see that if you let them see it. Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 I was just wondering if I am wasting my time trying to pursue white guys if I am dark with African features Historically I usually date white women, but I'm chatting with a dark skinned black woman with African features right now, and I think she's hot. Haven't met her yet, though. Not sure if you're wasting your time, or even if it's your skin tone that creates a problem for you. Link to post Share on other sites
WhoreyBull Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 I am a caucasian attracted to brown skinned guys, asians to be specific. So, I tend to look for asian guys who have a thing for white women via the power of the internets. There are lots of interracial dating websites. Not to say that Joe Average you meet on the street won't be attracted to black women, just seems like you could use the re-assurance. And just because someone on the planet is not attracted to dark skin or favors light skin doesn't take any worth or beauty away from you. Humans take rejection very hard, even from people they'd have no intention of really being with. I am not "attracted" to white guys. I know when a white guy is handsome, I can appreciate how he looks, but there isn't a physical attraction. Being attractive to society at large and physical attraction between a couple are very different things. Link to post Share on other sites
RogerWallace111 Posted April 9, 2013 Share Posted April 9, 2013 Mmm I love all types of women. Link to post Share on other sites
head/heels Posted May 7, 2013 Share Posted May 7, 2013 YES! indeed! Link to post Share on other sites
PutARingOnIt Posted May 8, 2013 Share Posted May 8, 2013 Most men don't care what complexion you are. As long as you are hot.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 8, 2013 Share Posted May 8, 2013 Idk I'm sure some do and some don't. All the white guys I have dated or hooked up with had never dated or hooked up with a black girl and the ones that did targeted lighter women. At the same time a friend of mine is dark and white guys always want to talk to her... She has better luck in that department than I do. Link to post Share on other sites
Nicoleiia Posted May 11, 2013 Share Posted May 11, 2013 I notice that lighterskinned women get better treatment in general, not just in terms of dating/relationships, but in networking and making friends. They get much more acceptance, approval and positive feedback. That is what I am aiming to achieve by lightening my skin. There is nothing anyone can say to make me want to stay darkskin. I'll continue to use my lightening treatments until I find something that will make me significantly lighter. I dont want to just be another dark black woman, but a beautiful lightskin woman that everyone admires and thinks is very pretty. I would love to be Lauren London's color or Beyonce's skin tone Yikes! I can't even get mad at you. This is the ramifications of what society and people have done to black women. This is the product of slavery, advertising in the media, the behaviors of men (especially black men), etc. This has turned into a huge nightmare for minority women. Smh! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JAKO Posted May 11, 2013 Share Posted May 11, 2013 Most men don't care what complexion you are. As long as you are hot.... pretty much this. Link to post Share on other sites
nessaaa Posted May 11, 2013 Share Posted May 11, 2013 Rihannna is not black she's mixed, she's in her own category fyi. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted May 11, 2013 Share Posted May 11, 2013 Self loathing is a poor sign. I am full black and proud of it. Some men may find me attractive, some may not. It doesn't matter - my aim was mutual attraction. As if I would waste my time thinking about someone who does not want me. Please. Realistically, I would say language/accents can present a greater barrier than skin tone. Take care, Eve x 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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