Karlise13 Posted September 11, 2004 Posted September 11, 2004 It's always been that way, my whole life. During my teens and twenties, I always had a solid group of men 'friends' (some were former boyfriends, some were men who wanted to date me, some were honest-to-goodness real friends) and a few female ones. I always found men easier to talk to, easier to buddy up with and just plain easier to figure out. Women seemed so complicated, so much more complex and dammit....just less trustworthy overall. I hated feeling that way, but I just did. I think in High School and college I experienced some awful back-stabbing by female friends and lost faith. Over the years, I've let go of many male friends, simply because as they got married off I think the wives were not comfortable having their guys 'hang out' with a single, female buddy. I totally understand that. I have some female friends now....I think I can count them on one hand. I mean people I feel comfortable calling up just to chat, those kinds of friends. I have plenty of acquaintances which I don't count. Do any other women find this to be the case? I think I am often lonely for female friends, wish I had more of them, but still find it hard to reach out to women. I still find it easier to talk to men. I make efforts to meet women at social events, etc., but it's a real effort.
mighty bop Posted September 14, 2004 Posted September 14, 2004 Are you attracted to females sexually? Chris
Maria46 Posted September 14, 2004 Posted September 14, 2004 I too, have more male than female friends. I have had the same experiences with back stabbing women in my past. When I was in high school, a friend of mine and I went out with these two guys on a double date. I had seen the guy I was with for several weeks and he wanted to have sex with me. I told him no and that sort of ended our evening. My friend and I went to my house as she was staying over that night. After I had fallen asleep, she drove to this guys house and had sex with him. Then she came back and told me about it. How is that for a good friend? I have had other women friends that I have confided in and they have told someone else what I had told them. I have given up on having close female friends. I don't trust any of them. My male best friend has never betrayed me in any way. Another reason I have more male friends than female friends is because of the jobs I have done in my life. Back in the mid 70's, women were not given the opportunity to drive forklifts, drive truck and other jobs usually held by men. I demanded to be trained in these jobs and did a great job. The men respected my work ethic and we all got along great (after the first month of so). The relationship that I have been in for the past year and a half started as a great friendship. It was a great beginning for us to know each other so well before we decided to take that next step.
Author Karlise13 Posted September 14, 2004 Author Posted September 14, 2004 I am not attracted to women sexually. I just like having friends of the same sex.
Papillon Posted September 14, 2004 Posted September 14, 2004 I've always easily made friends with gals, and not so easily with guys. I think it's normal, we tend to find others of the opposite sex more interesting, and of course there's the sexual aspect that tends to smooth things along, too.
addie Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 almost all of my friends are guys too. i love my guy gang! they are so great to hang out with and i have a much better time with them than i do when i go out with female friends. it is great being one of the guys, especially if they know you are really just a genuine friend and not looking to hook up. they know when i am down and usually can put me in better spirits quicker than any of my female friends. before one of my friends got married, his wife-to-be asked me if i was going to the bachelor party. when i told her no, i don't think that is my thing, she was disappointed. she was counting on me to be there to babysit the boys. don't let marriage keep you from your guy friends. if you aren't doing anything wrong, it shouldn't matter.
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