buzzie2 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 What does the average male between age 25 and 35 really think of girls who don't put out right away and have strong morals? Also if she rarely drinks, never does drugs or party. Does this turn the average male off? I find that most guys in this age bracket are still in the party scene, and don't want to waste time on a girl if she won't put out or party.
Keenly Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Well how long are we talking before the "put out" 6-12 months is not a big deal, but if you are literally NEVER going to put out, most guys will look elsewhere. Drinking and partying is hit or miss, but are you going to force your "morals" onto him as well? Or is he free to do as he pleases? That makes a pretty big difference. There is just not enough information there to base a yes or no on.
ltjg45 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Sounds like my kind of woman. I'm 26, I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't know what a modern-age bar even looks like, and I don't approach women looking for sex ASAP. I would have no issues dating her. Now the big issue is getting her attention and keeping it.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 What does the average male between age 25 and 35 really think of girls who don't put out right away and have strong morals? Also if she rarely drinks, never does drugs or party. Does this turn the average male off? I find that most guys in this age bracket are still in the party scene, and don't want to waste time on a girl if she won't put out or party. It depends. If the girl is pretty and she doesn't put out right away, then she's girlfriend material.
iKING Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 You're going to get pretty one-sided results on a romantic website. But I love it.
Uncle Indy Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Sounds like my kind of woman. I'm 26, I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't know what a modern-age bar even looks like, and I don't approach women looking for sex ASAP. I would have no issues dating her. Now the big issue is getting her attention and keeping it. Mine as well and I'm under 25.
ThaWholigan Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I think of them highly, as I do most people in general whether they party and drink or not. Waiting for sex is not a problem, neither is a lifestyle such as that as even though I like the occasional party and the odd drink/joint, its not a regular theme of my life. Saying that, I don't think of them as automatically better or superior to other girls - they have a way of dealing with life that is specific and works for them. I admire the strength to stick to it. 8
SJC2008 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 What does the average male between age 25 and 35 really think of girls who don't put out right away and have strong morals? Also if she rarely drinks, never does drugs or party. Does this turn the average male off? I find that most guys in this age bracket are still in the party scene, and don't want to waste time on a girl if she won't put out or party. What do I think? I think men and women like you are rare. I'd date you in a heartbeat. Not all men want a woman who gives it up fast! 1
Necris Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 What does the average male between age 25 and 35 really think of girls who don't put out right away and have strong morals? Also if she rarely drinks, never does drugs or party. Does this turn the average male off? I find that most guys in this age bracket are still in the party scene, and don't want to waste time on a girl if she won't put out or party. Sounds like a turn on to me rather than turn off, very desirable traits I must say myself. As for your question honestly if a guy wants a promiscuous partying drug addict for a girlfriend and you're not that way, why would you want to be with a guy like that anyway? Instead you should want to go after guys who are more like yourself.
trevzilla Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 My ex wife and I waited months and she still cheated on me, so I can't really say I'd feel any more secure about a woman with "strong" morals. Maybe some women just have a high sex drive (would be a real plus to me as so do I), but are loyal at the same time. I have a very high sex drive and never cheated on my ex as I'm loyal to a fault. My ex had a very low labido.
KungFuJoe Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I don't think any differently of them than I do women who party, drink and sleep around (assuming it's all consensual sex). My first gf was the poster child for "innocent and moral". She said she didn't even "date". You were either her bf right off the bat or forget it. She had sex with one guy before (I think she was 18 or 19) and that guy was her first love and they were together for YEARS before they slept together and then they only did it like 4 times. I met her when she was 22 and I was the second guy she ever slept with. Long story short, she ended up cheating on me, I cheated on her, we sorta got back together but she was sleeping with another guy at the same time, then she decided to end things with me and just be with the other guy but she was still having sex with me on the side...this went on for nearly two years. The worst thing about it...she LIKED it. The sex was never hotter between us than when she was sleeping with the other guy AND me and neither of us knew about it. As soon as I found out, I told the other guy and then and ONLY then did she feel bad. Not because what she was doing was wrong...but because we found out. She also stole her best friend's car and cheated some guy out of a grand because she didn't want to pay for the damages SHE caused when she fell asleep behind the wheel, driving with no insurance, and caused an accident. Yeah...REAL morals there. Word of advice...how a woman treats her sex life is IN NO WAY SHAPE OR FORM indicative of their moral fiber. NONE. 5
AverageCat Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 (edited) Truth is all guys want is: A LADY IN THE STREET BUT A FREAK IN THE BED. Meaning. You need to have strong values and not do silly things, but you should be willing to let go when you're with them. That's what I think makes guys want to "catch" the so called "good girls" with an edge. Having that feeling of being the only one to show her the world and the noly one she can follow in risky business. A good example of this is: I find it a turn on if a girl gets drunk / does drugs often. But I find it a turn on if a good girl wants to get drunk or smoke up for one of her first times with me. EDIT: All guys need is that feeling of MASCULINITY. That's why they choose the "cute" "petite" girls who they can protect. That's why they fall for the "shy passionate" girls who they can show the world to. Ideally if you're rigid in general but not rigid with him, you'll be golden. Edited March 26, 2013 by AverageCat 3
iKING Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Truth is all guys want is: A LADY IN THE STREET BUT A FREAK IN THE BED. I second this opinion. Seriously though, having morals is never a bad thing, and neither is letting some morals go. As long as It's not excessive in either regard that's fine. Once a month drinking/smoking fine, having sex with your boyfriend after a fair amount of time fine, but absolute puritans can get to be difficult to deal with sometimes. As for absolute hedonists, It's the same. Avoiding extremes is advised. 3
KungFuJoe Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I think the problem some people have is they equate sexual behavior to morality. They are NOT related, as much as people want to say they are. A woman could sleep with 100 guys...but if all 100 were consensual and no one got hurt, there is no loss of morality, so to speak. But if she were to sleep with one guy, who just happened to be married with kids...well...who is the "lesser" person here? 3
TheGuard13 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 What does the average male between age 25 and 35 really think of girls who don't put out right away and have strong morals? Also if she rarely drinks, never does drugs or party. Does this turn the average male off? I find that most guys in this age bracket are still in the party scene, and don't want to waste time on a girl if she won't put out or party. It depends. If you mean "They don't put out on the first date", most men understand that. If you mean "It's going to be months", most men aren't okay with that. Most guys will think this is either a sign of insecurity, prudishness or frigidity, and most guys I know will consider this type of woman boring compared to more exciting and open women, and will look elsewhere, or maintain other options. Yeah. It tends to be a bit of a turn off. Certainly not a "turn on", at least sexually speaking.
ascendotum Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 These were the type of women a number of players I knew ended up marrying. Not being promiscuous does not mean waiting months to get sex, but she will be more guarded about when it feels right (with a person who is prepared to be in a relationship).
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 This is mostly a positive thing...many men in general see women who have slept with less men as being a perk or ideal. Less promiscuous the better, there is a double standard even if consensual, maybe not represented well on this board but definitely in the "real world". The guys that women will sleep with when partying and "having fun" aren't necessarily the same girls they're looking to bring home to momma, many men don't have much of a standard for sex, since that's it's all in the name of having a good time...many men don't often regard those women necessarily as "high quality" or even equal or even respect, however some do not care. Some will say they don't care, however most do, most men don't want to know or hear about that "past" and try to imagine that their GF did that sort of a thing. This also however depends on how conservative the guy is, at the end of the day I believe like attracts like, however even if men end up in relationship or married to the women they might not have seen themselves with...they definitely had an "ideal" they were shooting for. So for the "players" who settle down with the conservative girl...that was "ideal", they simply reverted to someone they saw more positive/moral relationship qualities in even if their own previous behaviors were "immoral" and seek different values in the women to bear children than someone who was more promiscuous and wild...after all, it's likely they may not have respected the women they were with. If you are a very young, and therefore haven't had much experience in life or romance, I have seen them lead to cheating by men/women who were otherwise "moral" at least they fit the mold or standard from the outside, but their curiosity got the best of them down the road or they had some relationship/marital problems. That's why personally think people should have serious relationships when too young and should mostly enjoy their lives and independence until their mid 20's...everything before that can be very experimental and chaotic when growing up, there's a lot of variables and things to be determined...not just morally speaking, but personality, compatibility, etc.. Keep in mind however, if you are religious or waiting till marriage, or even for months...many men may not be willing to wait that long, however most of them likely not interested in a relationship anyhow, just can't resist not getting laid (unless they're getting it somewhere else). If a guy really wants to be with you in the long-term, he'll put in the effort but you may have to help him get there with communication and give him some reasons and understanding to your choice...and he HAS to respect that. However realistically if you do run in to a player looking to settle down, he's going to push it to get in your pants at some point and will probably be much sooner than you intended/expected...assuming he is good with women. If it's just your every day average nice/good guy looking for a relationship, then he'll wait if interested.
musemaj11 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 It depends on the kind of guys you are after. Cool guys generally want cool girls and conservative guys generally want conservative girls. Also I dont think drinking and sex have anything to do with morals. 1
iKING Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Question: What do guys think of girls who are not promiscuous and have strong morals? Answer: They are like the vampires and phantoms ....they don't exist Hey, vampires exist in my mind. Seriously though, there are women who aren't promiscuous and have good morals. They're just not as common as their opposite from what I've seen.
Andy_K Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I'd prefer the girl who's a little more promiscuous but still has morals. She's probably more fun, and she's more like me. 1
Bengal Tiger Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 A big part of this would be managing expectations. Do you let guys know this when you're dating? I would be disappointed to find this out after dating for several months or establishing a long term relationship. This would not be my type of girl, but there are guys out there who share your beliefs. Find ways to meet them. Others have said church groups and socially conservative politics and other causes. Also online dating sites like Christian Mingle might be worth checking out. Good luck! Hope you find what you're looking for.
grkBoy Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 What does the average male between age 25 and 35 really think of girls who don't put out right away and have strong morals? Also if she rarely drinks, never does drugs or party. Does this turn the average male off? I find that most guys in this age bracket are still in the party scene, and don't want to waste time on a girl if she won't put out or party. Provided she's not some crazy judgemental bible-thumper, guys should marry those women. 9 times out of 10 those women are also smart and educated. Brainy chicks are hot.
lino Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 What does the average male between age 25 and 35 really think of girls who don't put out right away and have strong morals? Also if she rarely drinks, never does drugs or party. Does this turn the average male off? I find that most guys in this age bracket are still in the party scene, and don't want to waste time on a girl if she won't put out or party. A girl like that is high quality and unfortunately in the minority these days. The part in bold is great but I don't think there is anything wrong with partying unless the definition of partying is opening her legs for a different bloke every time she's at a 'party.' Also holding out on sex too long for a guy you really like who feels the same for you is a turn-off for me personally. I enjoy sex and I like that my girl does too You are correct in saying that most men in that age bracket are still heavily into partying and screwing most any girl that will put-out but unfortunately these guys are usually the most lusted after as well... The guys not into that scene are usually not considered, ignored or go completely unnoticed.
Els Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I don't think getting guys is generally going to be the problem. Getting guys who aren't drooling over the thought of a girl who holds out on sex with everyone else but puts out early for HIM... yeah, that might be a bit of a challenge. You can generally tell pretty early on, though, and that will be a great filter for personality as well. I'm curious why you feel people who wait for sex and don't drink or party have 'higher morals' than others, though. I don't put out early, drink, or party, but I don't feel I have 'higher morals' than others who do. I do prefer a guy who's like me, but that's more of a compatibility thing than a feeling of superiority. 2
Els Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I don't think the wording higher moral is indeed valid here as moral is subjective of the perception of the person who analyse it. I would call that woman a keeper or I would say she is a woman with values. I do think a woman who decide to have sex when they actually love someone have more self respect and more will power... the easy way is to go out and have as much sex as you want... for a woman (especially if she is good looking) finding someone to please you would not be difficult... if you have enough self control that is already a big plus and it say a lot about your character! I don't think there's anything wrong with this, assuming the guy holds on to the same values for himself. No bigger turnoff than a hypocrite who desires a woman with few partners but has been racking up the numbers himself. 2
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