AwptiK Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 This is more of a log than something requesting advice... Texted my ex this morning after almost a week of NC. A few texts in, I told her I still believed in "us". Actually turned into a good conversation.. She said she was really out of it this morning from being extremely tired though. Shouldn't have texted...I know, but that went a lot better than I thought it would. Cheers everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 What was her response to the 'believe in us' comment, then.....? Link to post Share on other sites
Author AwptiK Posted March 26, 2013 Author Share Posted March 26, 2013 (edited) Ah, excuse my lack of clarity. She replied with a smile. She's never been good at expressing herself, but that's what she'd do to any sweet comment during the relationship too. First time I've seen a smile in two weeks... The rest of the conversation was about her being out of it, but the mood was substantially better. A smile was quite contrary to my similar text after the breakup two weeks back about missing her, that only got a "I'm sorry but I really do need to focus on myself right now." (Bu was for school) I intended to wait another two weeks to talk/gauge interest on her bday, but I had the urge to text today. Probably going to wait until then to do more. Edited March 26, 2013 by AwptiK Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 A decent education, respectable upbringing and good manners prevent me from telling you exactly what I really think. So I shall merely put it in the mildest way I can, using courteous terminology, and merely point out to you that one week's No Contact is absolutely ridiculous, and that you are setting yourself up for a humdinger of a fall. No Contact should last - at the VERY LEAST - 6 months. No Less. Your breaking contact is probably the most stupid and idiotic foolhardy thing you could do. You sir - have just hurled yourself, single-handedly onto the brink of the Friend-Zone. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 A decent education, respectable upbringing and good manners prevent me from telling you exactly what I really think. So I shall merely put it in the mildest way I can, using courteous terminology, and merely point out to you that one week's No Contact is absolutely ridiculous, and that you are setting yourself up for a humdinger of a fall. No Contact should last - at the VERY LEAST - 6 months. No Less. Your breaking contact is probably the most stupid and idiotic foolhardy thing you could do. You sir - have just hurled yourself, single-handedly onto the brink of the Friend-Zone. Tara, I don't know who you are, but you give the ABSOLUTE BEST ADVICE I HAVE EVER HEARD! No Contact is the ONLY answer!!! I'm in DAILY pain (eight year relationship- nearly a year post BU now, and probably four months NC) Yep, she's CLEARLY moved on, and does not think of me- That being said, I have learned SO MUCH from this board! And Tara is THE MASTER! Take her advice!!! STAY NO CONTACT!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
geegirl Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 She replied with a smile. She's never been good at expressing herself, but that's what she'd do to any sweet comment during the relationship too. First time I've seen a smile in two weeks... The rest of the conversation was about her being out of it, but the mood was substantially better. A smile was quite contrary to my similar text after the breakup two weeks back about missing her, that only got a "I'm sorry but I really do need to focus on myself right now." (Bu was for school) I intended to wait another two weeks to talk/gauge interest on her bday, but I had the urge to text today. Probably going to wait until then to do more. A smile. She was just being polite because she had nothing to say in response to your thought. It's not contrary to her response about focusing on herself. Both responses are pretty much along the lines of her feeling awkward and not knowing what to say to you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Minneloa Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 Ah, excuse my lack of clarity. She replied with a smile. She's never been good at expressing herself, but that's what she'd do to any sweet comment during the relationship too. First time I've seen a smile in two weeks... The rest of the conversation was about her being out of it, but the mood was substantially better. A smile was quite contrary to my similar text after the breakup two weeks back about missing her, that only got a "I'm sorry but I really do need to focus on myself right now." (Bu was for school) I intended to wait another two weeks to talk/gauge interest on her bday, but I had the urge to text today. Probably going to wait until then to do more. You do realize that this approach isn't No Contact, right? Of course, it's your decision, but if you want to reap the benefits of NC, you have to go hard-core. I get the feeling that you are marking time and waiting for a reconciliation rather than accepting and grieving your loss. Is that a fair assessment? Link to post Share on other sites
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