smoochie Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 Not in the mood for sharing all the details but I am in so much pain today I can't stand it. I am always close to tears, depressed and he is happy with his new life. He is all over FB taking pictures with this woman. Though the pics make him look so happy and thriving, they may not be true but it hurts me. I want him to block me so I can stop looking. I don't have the desire to do it myself. I'm not even sure if he knows I'm on FB for that matter. I don't want him back but it does hurt me knowing he seemingly doesn't care about me anymore. Just venting..... Link to post Share on other sites
geegirl Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 Not in the mood for sharing all the details but I am in so much pain today I can't stand it. I am always close to tears, depressed and he is happy with his new life. He is all over FB taking pictures with this woman. Though the pics make him look so happy and thriving, they may not be true but it hurts me. I want him to block me so I can stop looking. I don't have the desire to do it myself. I'm not even sure if he knows I'm on FB for that matter. I don't want him back but it does hurt me knowing he seemingly doesn't care about me anymore. Just venting..... The only one that can help you with your healing is you. If you don't have the desire to help yourself, then no one on here can help you. First step, block him on FB. Everytime you look, you gouge the wound that you are so desperately trying to heal. One year has gone by and if you don't take those little steps to work on moving forward, a year from now you will be in the same situation. Is that something that you really want to be doing rather than visualizing a year from now, feeling that emotional freedom and the ability to experience joy again? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Navajo46 Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 Definitely block the facebook. I was in this situation until just yesterday. It was my only glimpse into her life but i would freak out if i saw the most trivial of things like her liking a place. Its just not worth it. I had blocked and unblocked a bunch of times and curiosity would get the best of me. I think i also wanted her to be able to view my facebook to see the improvements i had made and how good things are going business wise etc. its just not worth it and has most definitely been holding me back. This time i have the resolve to keep it blocked. Been almost 5 months for me and i am still hurting. I hope things get better for you, but you really do need to do those little things to help move on. Like you, i go day to day thinkin about her and feeling fine then depressed etc. We need to accept that they have new lives and are happier wihout us. Time for us to move on and do the same. Stay strong! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 You aren't alone. I'm in the same boat. Just stay NC no matter what! It WILL pass eventually Link to post Share on other sites
coralie Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 Oh no...you really have to stop looking at FB altogether or block him and make sure there's no way for you to get any tiny bit of info at all about him from FB. As long as you stay connected even in the tiniest way on there, you're not really doing NC, and that's a big part of you not being able to heal and keeping the hurt and pain fresh. If you're peeking into his new life and opening up those wounds, you can't possibly move on. I know it's really hard to just cut every single thing off, but you have to do it if you want to give yourself a chance to get past it and heal. He's the reason that you're hurting this much in the first place, right? So keeping that connection alive, however small the connection, won't make you hurt less, it'll only make you hurt more. At this point I really think it would help if you go completely NC, which means no signs of him whatsoever on FB or anywhere else. Hang in there...you will get through this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Bluerain Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 I was dumped, blinsided after almost 18 years together...and am almost 11 months NC...no contact whatsoever!!! Please listen to the wise advice from these posters...they are right in everything they say, believe me I should know! I went NC the night he left me as I said almost 11 months ago now...pain was so bad I honestly thought I would not survive...utterly broken...still am in a way, he was a massive chunk of my life and of course there are constant reminders/memories. I wish him love and happiness even though he through me under the bus for someone else.... but yes I do hope karma calls on him, just a little bit. Had I not gone NC...then I would not be in the place I am today...fact!! The torture is bad enough without going looking for snippets of information...please don't do this to yourself! I promise you it does get better...but only when you let go. Mostly I cope now, I get by...but sometimes I break down...but nowhere near as much now....I look back and can see how far I've come.....and I know it's because I completely shut him off...I disappeared and he knows nothing about me or my life, maybe he thinks of me sometimes maybe not...either way I'll just stay underground until I am ready for the day I may bump into him. Dreading the 1 year mark...but I shall make sure I'm out doing something with others. Hugs, just hang in there. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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