Ex girlfriend feels like she's been used for sex for a year, wants me to suffer

[Cogee]

Yeah, you know what I mean.

 

 

Talk to men everyday.

 

 

The OP is a psychopath who gets off on being unfair to others.

 

 

 

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What about the girl doing things that had the OP get the police involved?

[geegirl]

It's one thing if the guy promised her the stars and the moon, promised her a relationship, but with secret intent of using her for sex.

 

He was upfront with her about it being casual and that he was still hung up on an ex. The girl was stupid enough to enter into such an agreement. If you want a relationship, seek those that want the same. You don't seek it from someone telling you it's just sex and that they're hung up on an ex. Her fault. Her responsibility.

 

The moment she got emotional, he should have let her go. I don't condone that he went back the second time around. His fault. His responsibility. Bad move on his part but hardly worthy of being called a psychopath.

 

Lovelyde, you shouldn't label someone a psychopath based on your perceptions. You're not a licensed professional to be able to determine his mental health. In any case, most of your rants are somewhat incoherent so I guess it would be unwise to take your words to heart.

[lovelyde]

It's one thing if the guy promised her the stars and the moon, promised her a relationship, but with secret intent of using her for sex.

 

He was upfront with her about it being casual and that he was still hung up on an ex. The girl was stupid enough to enter into such an agreement. If you want a relationship, seek those that want the same. You don't seek it from someone telling you it's just sex and that they're hung up on an ex. Her fault. Her responsibility.

 

The moment she got emotional, he should have let her go. I don't condone that he went back the second time around. His fault. His responsibility. Bad move on his part but hardly worthy of being called a psychopath.

 

Lovelyde, you shouldn't label someone a psychopath based on your perceptions. You're not a licensed professional to be able to determine his mental health. In any case, most of your rants are somewhat incoherent so I guess it would be unwise to take your words to heart.

 

 

Many things, not all, about the medical and mental health system are a lie and ineffective. Many Americans have relied on "the system" only to become whacked psychos on meds in the streets.

 

 

Also this whole thread has a mean undertone done by the OP, for example, posting a "smiley face" icon at his ex-girlfriend's distress is a big indicator that is his a psychopath that gets off on being unfair to others.

 

 

Also we have no proof whatsoever that the police are involved. It is an internet message board and he may be lying or trolling here to give misinformation.

 

 

As for you missy, you should start being more compassionate to people instead of being all "primp and proper" thinking that "the system" backs up your unjust actions towards others unfair situation.

 

 

Jacka*ses and b*tches who love to manipulate other people's thinking to something twisted are bad and not healthy for people as a whole.

 

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[Cogee]

Also we have no proof whatsoever that the police are involved. It is an internet message board and he may be lying or trolling here to give misinformation.

 

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He could be lying about the entire thing. In fact, every single post on this message board could be a lie, so why do you choose to discredit that part of his story?

[geegirl]

As for you missy, you should start being more compassionate to people instead of being all "primp and proper" thinking that "the system" backs up your unjust actions towards others unfair situation.

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I don't know what "the system" you are talking about. This is Loveshack. It's not a conspiracy. It's not a court of law. It's people just giving advice to others. Try not to get too worked up about it.

 

And you don't have to tell me how to present myself, especially to you as I don't really care for your righteousness. I carry myself well on my own.

 

OP, I apologize for derailing the thread. I'm glad you got the restraining order and hopefully you can put this behind you.

[lovelyde]

You can tell by the OP's actions and words that he's just out to deceive and be mean. It is what it is.

 

 

 

 

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[Seismic]

By op I assume you mean original poster, but I'm not exactly sure because I'm operating on my phone, which would explain the smiley face to contribute to the girl's emotional distress which comes as news to me. I don't think she is reading this. I haven't told anyone about this thread. I wanted to understand better what was going on from people who do not know me so I could broaden my understanding. I don't deny I was wrong in going back to her, I'm just trying to understand her reaction. This has made my life hell. I grew with 5 brothers no sisters I didn't have a girlfriend, if you'd even call it that, til college. That was the one I was hurt over and this started right up immediately following. I did go to the courtroom and waited for the restraining order this morning. It's too much threatening to come see me and making me suffer, I understand she's upset but isn't there a line that's drawn in terms of retaliation? She's a brilliant girl she just has a hard time controlling her emotions. She's on anti depressants and I think that contributes to her volatility that I've seen.

 

Thanks all for the comments. Good to hear all the feedback.

[lovelyde]

By op I assume you mean original poster, but I'm not exactly sure because I'm operating on my phone, which would explain the smiley face to contribute to the girl's emotional distress which comes as news to me. I don't think she is reading this. I haven't told anyone about this thread. I wanted to understand better what was going on from people who do not know me so I could broaden my understanding. I don't deny I was wrong in going back to her, I'm just trying to understand her reaction. This has made my life hell. I grew with 5 brothers no sisters I didn't have a girlfriend, if you'd even call it that, til college. That was the one I was hurt over and this started right up immediately following. I did go to the courtroom and waited for the restraining order this morning. It's too much threatening to come see me and making me suffer, I understand she's upset but isn't there a line that's drawn in terms of retaliation? She's a brilliant girl she just has a hard time controlling her emotions. She's on anti depressants and I think that contributes to her volatility that I've seen.

 

Thanks all for the comments. Good to hear all the feedback.

 

 

 

You appear to be a sociopath who likes to twist words and truth into lies.

 

 

Really you do. Because I really disagree with having to use medication to treat psychiatric problems.

 

 

Instead of solving problems through understanding and communication, society told innocent victims to take medication for it instead which doesn't cure the scorn that was deliberately set on the innocent.

 

 

Your reply sounds more like "messed up doctor" out of a fictional movie to me.

 

 

 

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[Seismic]

I'm not sure how you came to that conclusion from my response. Is that just me or anyone else feel the same way?

[geegirl]

I'm not sure how you came to that conclusion from my response. Is that just me or anyone else feel the same way?

 

Please ignore the labeling. Take the advice you need and wish to learn from and pitch what you don't.

 

Unless you speak to a professional and you get a diagnosis, don't take labels that laypeople throw around to heart.

[lovelyde]

I'm not sure how you came to that conclusion from my response. Is that just me or anyone else feel the same way?

 

 

Many other people have been conditioned or brainwashed by society to react in a certain pre-programmed way.

 

 

I don't care if I'm the majority (a.k.a. "sheep") as long as I'm right and accurate about the workings of nature.

 

 

I never saw myself as fitting in as I always believed that I'm better than the massive group of brainwashed sheep in front of me.

 

 

 

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[GorillaTheater]

You appear to be a sociopath who likes to twist words and truth into lies.

 

 

Really you do. Because I really disagree with having to use medication to treat psychiatric problems.

 

Yeah, I'm getting that impression. They might help, though.

[GorillaTheater]

Many other people have been conditioned or brainwashed by society to react in a certain pre-programmed way.

 

 

I don't care if I'm the majority (a.k.a. "sheep") as long as I'm right and accurate about the workings of nature.

 

 

I never saw myself as fitting in as I always believed that I'm better than the massive group of brainwashed sheep in front of me.

 

I've got to check out some posting history. This ought to be good.

[lovelyde]

She is a couple sandwiches short of a picnic.

 

 

 

Did you approach the woman you love yet?

 

 

Or are you a coward who still avoids her?

 

 

 

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[Seismic]

Please ignore the labeling. Take the advice you need and wish to learn from and pitch what you don't.

 

Unless you speak to a professional and you get a diagnosis, don't take labels that laypeople throw around to heart.

 

Thank you. I appreciate it.

[Seismic]

Yeah, I'm getting that impression. They might help, though.

 

 

You're getting that impression from my responses? ....I'm confused

[geegirl]

You're getting that impression from my responses? ....I'm confused

 

I think he is referring to Lovelyde.

[Seismic]

The police confirmed the order and she is still calling me. I haven't answered or responded to the texts, which are about her justifying her behavior and saying that she still loves me. I don't want to report it cause I don't want her to get in trouble but she's gotta stop I thought she would

[Cogee]

Please ignore the labeling. Take the advice you need and wish to learn from and pitch what you don't.

 

Unless you speak to a professional and you get a diagnosis, don't take labels that laypeople throw around to heart.

 

Exactly. Even the way people generally use the word psychopath is not clinically correct.

 

OP (yes, that is original poster) you received a lot of feedback and you are doing the right thing by going to the court house. The behaviour of the girl you described is not healthy so it's not surprising to me that she had professional help at one point (assuming that's where the anti-depressants were prescribed).

[GorillaTheater]

You're getting that impression from my responses? ....I'm confused

 

Now don't start that, or you'll get me confused too. It doesn't take much.

 

I was responding to Lovelyde, and gently suggesting that some meds in her case may not be a bad idea. Sorry for the threadjack.

[geegirl]

The police confirmed the order and she is still calling me. I haven't answered or responded to the texts, which are about her justifying her behavior and saying that she still loves me. I don't want to report it cause I don't want her to get in trouble but she's gotta stop I thought she would

 

Does she know she has a restraining order on her?

 

You filed for a reason. She may have to be approached by the authorities to let her know you mean business.

[Cogee]

The police confirmed the order and she is still calling me. I haven't answered or responded to the texts, which are about her justifying her behavior and saying that she still loves me. I don't want to report it cause I don't want her to get in trouble but she's gotta stop I thought she would

 

Remind her that you don't feel the same way towards her as she does towards you, and that if she doesn't stop you will have no choice but to report her behaviour to the police. That is if you even want to give her one last warning.

 

Personally I would not respond to her and just inform the police. It sucks that you have to go through this but don't let it shape your image of others that you will meet and get involved with. This girl is acting in a way that is completely abnormal.

[AlexDP]

What about the girl doing things that had the OP get the police involved?

 

If you get the police involved because a girl is a stalker, but then decide to have sex with her anyway, that is pretty damn disgusting. That is using people.

[Cogee]

If you get the police involved because a girl is a stalker, but then decide to have sex with her anyway, that is pretty damn disgusting. That is using people.

 

It is not something to be proud of that's for sure. At the same time, having someone get the police involved to make you go away and then still wanting to have sex is not good either. He had a history of not wanting something serious with her, got the police involved, and she still wanted him? Very messy situation that both are at fault in.

[AlexDP]

It is not something to be proud of that's for sure. At the same time, having someone get the police involved to make you go away and then still wanting to have sex is not good either. He had a history of not wanting something serious with her, got the police involved, and she still wanted him? Very messy situation that both are at fault in.

 

Yes, but she's mental, he's not. He's just an ass.