Should I be upset if he lied, but didn't "technically" cheat?

[balletgrl360]

While I wouldn't recommend trolling MTV regularly for advice, they do have this gem on your situation.

 

Man, I gotta Pinterest this gem.

 

 

There's a good chance this biker girl doesn't even know you exist.

 

I HIGHLY doubt she didn't know about me. There were many pictures of me and him together on Facebook. His sister posted some after our breakup, too. I'm trying hard not to go down this road concerning her involvement, in case I'm misplacing anger towards her instead of my boyfriend. (But, if she did flirt with him during our relationship and knew about me.. oh man, she is lucky she doesn't live near me, or I'd chew her out for being so disrespectful to another woman! Oh wait, she's a little girl.)

[balletgrl360]

Add in the fact he slept with her after you broke up, no I wouldnt have taken him back.

 

Does it make a difference that he didn't have his planned trip with her (and have sex) until 3 months after we broke up?

I think my main concerns right now are if he was talking to her inappropriately while we were dating, and how he could still sleep with her after making plans to see me a week later (and then sleep with me)? And I'm grossed out by her age, but that might be me misplacing anger.

[carhill]

OP, if my read is right, time for these types is discreet, and they'll hammer that home for as long as it takes, or forever. They don't see things like you do. This is known in some circles as 'compartmentalizing' actions and words. That's what prompted my 'Perry Mason' comment prior. It can be maddening having a productive sharing of feelings with such a person.

 

Using the 'still sleep with her after making plans to see me a week later', he pulled out the 'make plans' box, made those plans with you, put it away, then pulled out the 'sleep with her' box, had sex with her, then put that box away, then pulled out the 'sleep with me' box and had sex with you. The key to compartmentalization is that the boxes never touch and one only examines what is in that box. Everything is discreet from everything else.

 

Evidently, this is attractive because it is quite common in men and women seem to like or accept it. It works

[Leigh 87]

I find it bizarre that a guy who was really in love would plan to break up with a girl, and start chatting and flirting with another girl within two weeks.

 

I think if a guy is in the very deepest type of love with a girl, they would have tried a long distance relationship, or not gone. OR taken her with them, and set about organising the move for her if he could not afford to pay for her, and therefore had to help her organise her life so that she could move.

 

How soon did he move on and hook up with another person, after ending your relationship OP?

 

Personally, my own boyfriend would take a long time to get over a girl he loved... the last chick he was into, and not even in love with, took him about 5 months before he hooked up with another girl.

 

Him planning to end the relationship, and also if he managed to be intimate with another girl within 3 months after ending things with the OP, are of the most concern to me.

 

A guy who is crazily in love cannot just get with another girl right after a break up.