azmiranda Posted September 12, 2004 Share Posted September 12, 2004 I have been reading the posts tonight and to all the women who think their men are cheating I say that there is nothing better than our womens intuition. If the radar is buzzing then he probably is. Part two is please don't blame the other woman. Sometimes she doesn't even know he is married. This happened to me. I met the man of my dreams (so I thought) this past February. We clicked immediately, never fought but as the relationship went on, I never got to go to his house. He told me it was because of his 14 year old son, that he hadn't "gotten over" the divorce yet. Well, my radar clicked into high gear and if it looks like crap and smells like crap it usually is and sure enough the #$% of a #$%^@ was married. I felt awful. I never in a million years would have even met him the first night had I known he was married. So just be sure you blame the one who knew from the get go and that is the cheating spouse be it a man or a woman.... they KNOW the vows that they said before God. Thanks for reading my post. Link to post Share on other sites
Karlise13 Posted September 12, 2004 Share Posted September 12, 2004 and it's true. There are some married men out there who have no qualms lying to women about their marital status. Case in point: my friend C was dating a guy for about five months. He told her he was divorced. She smelled a rat when she noted that he never invited her to his house and he NEVER stayed the night when he came over. He always had to leave and head home because of 'work' or some other excuse. She managed to get him to admit he was still married, although his line was "we are technically still married and live in the same house but we go our own ways. We'll get LEGALLY divorced when the kids are older. For now, we have an understanding," YEAH RIGHT! "Well, if your wife is so understanding how come you can't ever stay overnight?" she asked him. He was stumped by that one. She ditched his ass. Link to post Share on other sites
MassiveAtom Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 maybe being home in the morning was part of the "understanding." On the other hand, it could've been handled correctly, by not lying and saying he was divorced. In either case, placing blame is really counterproductive. In nearly EVERY case, both partners in the relationship helped create the environment in which infidelity thrives. It's far more helpful to forgive than to blame. If I had a choice, I would forgive myself, instead of blaming myself. Just feels better. mA Link to post Share on other sites
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