When you are just fed up

[SarahRose]

I am hoping I can get some good advice.

 

We are trying to sell a house. Let's say I am just sick of it. It just seems to drag on and on and the work that needs to be never seems to get done.

 

It is to the point where if it is going to get done, I am just going to have to do it myself. I have an injury which limits me in what I can do or I just would have done it myself.

 

I have hired people to do some of the work but can't afford to hire people to do the rest of it.

 

My husband was unemployed for over a year and this place just went to you know where. He wouldn't even cut the grass. He said we needed a new mower so I went out and paid $400 for a new one and he used it maybe 3 times.

 

I said in December we were putting the house up for sale and to please get the work done on it. He did nothing. He just sat and played video games and watched tv shows.

 

Now here it is almost April and the work still needs to be done and now he has a job again and says he can't do it because he is too tired from work.

 

Today I am just fed up, completely fed up.

 

I said I am putting the house up next week weather the house is done or not.

He then gives me a big list of thing I can do and at this point, I just don't want to do it. I fell I have to do everything and I am just fed up with it. I don't want to do anymore painting or cleaning up garbage or packing. I am sick. I am tired and just fed up.

 

There is no reason my husband could not do this work other than pure laziness. He is young and fit.

 

Then he will want to do something completely irrelevant to getting this house ready to sell. I said about 10 times the construction materials and garbage laying around in the yard needs to be throw away but it is still sitting there. He wanted to spend 3 hours fixing a broken lock on the shed instead.

 

There have been a couple other standoff about doing things and it did end up me doing the work by myself and usually ending up injured.

 

I am hating this house and this situation so much I could just pack a bag and leave and never come back.

[2sunny]

Maybe that would be a great idea!

[january2011]

Pay someone to do it.

 

Unless I'm misremembering, I think I've read quite a few of your threads where your husband's behaviour has been at the centre of your frustrations. And you've given him many opportunities to change.

 

He's letting the side down. You can only control your behaviour. Perhaps this will be the final straw?

[SarahRose]

Maybe that would be a great idea!

 

probably would be at this point

[SarahRose]

Pay someone to do it.

 

Unless I'm misremembering, I think I've read quite a few of your threads where your husband's behaviour has been at the centre of your frustrations. And you've given him many opportunities to change.

 

He's letting the side down. You can only control your behaviour. Perhaps this will be the final straw?

 

If I could afford it, I would pay someone.

What does letting the side down mean?

[january2011]

It means that he's not being a team player.

[SarahRose]

So he goes out there and starts breaking up board which may be asbestos and then wants to come in and sit on the bed with those clothes on and I told him no way he was roaming around the house with those clothes on.

 

He is doing the exact opposite of what I asked him to do. He then spent another hour on something irrelevant to cleaning the yard up.

 

I think he is just seeing how far he can push me at this point.

[SarahRose]

He thinks his temper tantrums is going to do something. It won't. Come first of the week, I'm calling the realtor to sell this dump and I don't give a squat what it looks like at this point. I am just done. We were going to sell it ourselves which means ME selling it.

[TigerCub]

Hey Sarah,

 

I remember some of your previous threads, it seems like nothing ever changes.

Your husband takes advantage of you. He's really not your partner at all, it's like you filled the mommy role and you've got a lippy,lazy teenager on your hands.

 

He's not changing- so perhaps you need to change things on your end.

 

I'm sorry you're so frustrated and that he's being no help at all.

[carhill]

Look at local comps in similar condition and compare those numbers to what you owe on your home. Determine your equity. Then, list the home for sale at a competitive price with some allowance to have professionally done repairs performed in escrow.

 

Myself, I have some professional 'For sale by owner' signs, like the ones real estate companies use, made, bang them into the lawn, list the house on Zillow and Craigslist and and field the phone calls, essentially the same way I get tenants for my properties. It's not rocket science. Trust me, if your property is 'destroyed', there's a buyer for it. Me..... or other investors like me.

 

Good luck.