Would you date me OR what kind of girls would date me?

[quietGuy13]

Basically this is me, male in my 30s

1. Not articulate not a good speaker. Shy, boring and so on

2. No fancy high college degrees

3. Plenty of hobbies

4. no career and no job. but i'm looking and i will end up doing some entry level thing such as filing and faxing and general office support work.

 

5. I have no interest in getting degrees and going to colleges.

 

6. Good heart great mind.

 

That's it. That's as easy as it gets.

Would you educated ladies date me? or if not, who would date me?

[HoneyBadgerDontCare]

Are you outgoing? Good-looking? Tall? Charming?

[SilverInkheart99]

Basically this is me, male in my 30s

1. Not articulate not a good speaker. Shy, boring and so on

2. No fancy high college degrees

3. Plenty of hobbies

4. no career and no job. but i'm looking and i will end up doing some entry level thing such as filing and faxing and general office support work.

 

5. I have no interest in getting degrees and going to colleges.

 

6. Good heart great mind.

 

That's it. That's as easy as it gets.

Would you educated ladies date me? or if not, who would date me?

First ask yourself who you are interested in? If you have a type... Whatever she is into, you would need to be the type she is looking for.

 

I personally only date guys who are as ambitious as I am in their careers.

 

I do not speak for everyone though.

[FitChick]

Date a woman just like you.

[quietGuy13]

First ask yourself who you are interested in? If you have a type... Whatever she is into, you would need to be the type she is looking for.

 

I personally only date guys who are as ambitious as I am in their careers.

 

I do not speak for everyone though.

 

I kinda knew this. Most women want guys with careers

[Eclypse]

The first point is the most important. Why would anyone, anywhere, ever want to date someone who was boring? There is your answer.

[Kamille]

Basically this is me, male in my 30s

1. Not articulate not a good speaker. Shy, boring and so on

 

Surely there are things that you find interesting? What do you like to do?

 

 

3. Plenty of hobbies

 

Which are?

 

 

 

 

 

 

That's it. That's as easy as it gets.

Would you educated ladies date me? or if not, who would date me?

 

I likely wouldn't date you, but not for the reasons that you think. You see, dating someone who is insecure about what he has to offer is hard work. It's not easy at all. I should know, I tried it. Twice. Both times, the guys ended up resenting the fact that I love my job. I've never had that issue with men who liked their job or who were passionate about something (anything!) in their lives.

[Alma Mobley]

I have asked you this before..... What kind of woman are you looking for and what can you offer her?

[the_entertainer1]

I wouldn't date you - no offence. The thing is, you don't seem to think very highly of yourself. You describe yourself, but put your worst traits or qualities first. I'm not sure if I'm indicative of the general female population, but I like men who are confident in themselves and are positive. You can still be confident, even if you're a quiet sort of person. I'd prefer my partner to have a college degree, but it's not essential. I just think that I'd rather date someone with ambition and drive, not someone who just waits for things to happen to them.

[allenpo123]

Sorry, no. It seems like you have no passion for life, nor do you have the urge or will to change that. I like to keep myself motivated, and work/career is a very huge part of my life, so you not having a career is a no-no for me.

 

But that's just me. There are girls who enjoy a quite and tranquil life, they don't need to conquer anything to make them feel good, they are just content in what they already have. Maybe look for these types of girls, they probably would be more interested in you.

 

Good luck

[steveT95]

Just learn to talk and make a women laugh. That is all you need to catch someones eye. Then be willing to do interesting things with her and make yourself sound interesting even if you're not.

 

I hate these 'am i datable' posts. There is someone out there who will date you, there is someone out there for everyone! You just have to look in the right places.

[hppr]

A picture might help so we can figure out what we're working with. Also +1 on figuring out how to make girls laugh.

[grkBoy]

Basically this is me, male in my 30s

1. Not articulate not a good speaker. Shy, boring and so on

2. No fancy high college degrees

3. Plenty of hobbies

4. no career and no job. but i'm looking and i will end up doing some entry level thing such as filing and faxing and general office support work.

 

5. I have no interest in getting degrees and going to colleges.

 

6. Good heart great mind.

 

That's it. That's as easy as it gets.

Would you educated ladies date me? or if not, who would date me?

 

Fix the bolded part first. Many women won't mess with some guy who is unemployed...especially if he's in his 30s.

 

I'll also add that while you're not interested in seeking a degree, you should think long-term. Life gets hard in dating if you're 35 and stocking shelves part-time in big box store. Think about where you want to be at age 50.

[loversquarrel]

I am just depressed after reading that.

[clumsiest]

quietguy, just because you're quiet, doesn't make you boring.

 

can you speak passionately about your interests?

are you expressive in any which way?

 

just wondering, lots of quiet people write or draw instead, as their main form of communication

(I am really quiet too, and pretty introverted - but those are my strong points).

 

I don't see why anyone wouldn't date you, but maybe first you should want to date yourself for a while. Look at your own value, you know?

[IT Geek]

If you look good you can usually get a date with no problem regardless of the rest.

 

OTOH, if you're ugly and have a good career, house, etc, you usually can't get a date because women want the hot guys regardless.

[Eternal Sunshine]

If you look good you can usually get a date with no problem regardless of the rest.

 

OTOH, if you're ugly and have a good career, house, etc, you usually can't get a date because women want the hot guys regardless.

 

 

No, we women want hot guys with a job, house, career and all the rest.

 

jk

[soccerrprp]

I'm a guy and will be honest and say that if I were a woman, I would not date you. The chances are that we wouldn't even be in similar social settings to even meet.

 

1. Not articulate not a good speaker. Shy, boring and so on. Need to be able to have meaningful, varied conversations, discussion.

 

2. No fancy high college degrees- Not important to me if you can do #1 and life-long learner in other ways.

 

3. Plenty of hobbies- As long as you are the type that "finishes" what you do and not have multiple incomplete projects sitting around, I'm all for it.

 

4. no career and no job. but i'm looking and i will end up doing some entry level thing such as filing and faxing and general office support work.

 

Just can't afford to be with someone w/o a job. But if you do and are doing clerical work. No problem.

 

5. I have no interest in getting degrees and going to colleges.

 

An indication to me that you have no value for formal education and improving yourself intellectually. Yes, yes, the whole "you don't have to have a degree" argument comes to mind. Good luck with that and you better be incredibly talented with at least one of your hobbies.

 

6. Good heart great mind. Subjective, but this goes a long way to helping you. But some of your previous descriptions of yourself leads me to doubt that you'll do anything significant with that great heart and mind.

 

This is just me AND based on YOUR assessment of yourself (if this is you that you are describing)....and my views are not worth too much...

[IT Geek]

No, we women want hot guys with a job, house, career and all the rest.

 

jk

 

You say your kidding, but in my experience women would rather have hot "loser" guy (for lack of a better term) than an ugly successful guy.

[sillyanswer]

3. Plenty of hobbies

4. no career and no job. but i'm looking and i will end up doing some entry level thing such as filing and faxing and general office support work.

 

So what do you do with your time? (I'm sure it's not 40 hours a week "looking" for a job.)

 

Answer that in a way that sounds interesting, rather than in a negative way.

[WhoreyBull]

You don't need a "high college degree" to get a date. People date those who have similar life goals and interests.

Simply put, if you have a heartbeat and can string a sentence together someone will date you. Sometimes you don't even need that.

You put a list out there that basically says nothing and that you do nothing. If you think the way to pique someone's interest is to tell them you have "hobbies" then I don't know what to say.

 

You talk about how you don't want to get a degree, but you wonder if "educated" ladies will date you? What do you care? If you have no interest in going to school why do you care if she has? It's just a little bizarre to read something that makes me think you don't hold much value on standardized education, but then that's the only comment you make about a possible girlfriend

With your attitude now all you are going to find is a warm body, which from the list seems like enough for you. If you want someone who strives for more out of life you are going to have to be the same kind of person.

[loveydovey982]

You say your kidding, but in my experience women would rather have hot "loser" guy (for lack of a better term) than an ugly successful guy.

 

As a woman in her 30's, I would rather have a kind & sweet man. Even a guy who's 'hot' can become unattractive if he is a jerk and or a loser. If a guy doesn't have a very attractive appearance but he is sweet, honest, loyal, kind, caring, devoted, loving, confident & sincere he would automatically become attractive. Imo anyway.

 

As far as a job, you should find a field of work that makes you feel good about yourself. Something that makes you feel accomplished & worthy.

[hppr]

You say your kidding, but in my experience women would rather have hot "loser" guy (for lack of a better term) than an ugly successful guy.

 

If you have money then buy some in-style clothes, nice shoes, nice cologne, haircut, basically a whole makeover. I guarantee you that they will notice whether you are fat, thin, bald, short, tall, whatever. Going to the gym helps with your looks as well.

 

Another one is to look outside where you usually do; I never really considered dating girls who were younger than I am, or of a different race, but now I am dating a girl who is both.

 

That's what I did anyways and it seemed to work, although not in all the ways I hoped or expected.

[IT Geek]

If you have money then buy some in-style clothes, nice shoes, nice cologne, haircut, basically a whole makeover. I guarantee you that they will notice whether you are fat, thin, bald, short, tall, whatever. Going to the gym helps with your looks as well.

 

Been there, done that. $2k down the drain for naught. There are those of us who have a face only a mother can love. LOL!

[IT Geek]

As a woman in her 30's, I would rather have a kind & sweet man. Even a guy who's 'hot' can become unattractive if he is a jerk and or a loser. If a guy doesn't have a very attractive appearance but he is sweet, honest, loyal, kind, caring, devoted, loving, confident & sincere he would automatically become attractive. Imo anyway.

 

As far as a job, you should find a field of work that makes you feel good about yourself. Something that makes you feel accomplished & worthy.

 

That sounds good in theory. In reality, if a guy is physically unattractive most women will never give him the time of day to learn if he is sweet, honest, loyal, kind, caring, devoted, loving, confident & sincere.

 

As far as work, I'm not sure if you are referring to me or not, but I'm very successful in my career. That's not an issue with me.