electricvanilla Posted March 29, 2013 Share Posted March 29, 2013 So, I just got back from a 1.5 hour drive to see my boyfriend and discovered him with a girl in his bed. I though it would be nice to surprise him and also to discuss I just found out I am pregnant. We have been together for 5 years and recently started planning our move to Europe this fall. I feel nothing but anger and betrayal. I found out this has been going on for a month or so...even so, he has been making future plans with me and acting like everything was great this entire time!!! GRRR I am just so aggravated. When I arrived he tried to make it seem that she was a friend....that he happened to just be ironing her clothes w/ no shirt on with condoms all over the bed. With all that he STILL insisted they were just hanging out and that I should spend the night to hang out with him tomorrow when he returns from work. When I confronted her she said she "didn't know" we were still together and that he told her we broke up back in December. She is a temp traveling nurse at his job and leaving in a few weeks. I don't think he ever planned on telling me. I am so mad I never noticed it before. As I look back, everything makes more sense and I feel so stupid. Even his good friend knew and when I spent 4 days visiting a week ago, there was no indication made. After all this...even smashing a few cups and liquor bottles and getting all my stuff....he just sat there. He said nothing...His only response was that it was 'hormones'. 30 minutes later he texts me saying I left behind this watch (I got him a year ago). 10 minutes after that he calls then texts saying he can't believe I stole his car keys. (I put them in his mailbox). Five years and that's all he has to freaking say?!!! Now, I am freaking pregnant from the loser. I don't even want to tell him because I don't want him to think it's a ploy to get him back. I don't know what to do?:( Link to post Share on other sites
LonelyInsomniac Posted March 29, 2013 Share Posted March 29, 2013 Sorry he put you through this. Your ex is the last thing you need to worry about at this point. While I personally find it more unethical to bring a child into this world without the ability to fend for it than to not, your first priority should be deciding what to do with the pregnancy. He's already made it clear that he's not a responsible, reliable, or trustworthy person. It hurts, and it's going to hurt for some time. You don't owe him anything after what he's done. If you'd feel dishonest or uncomfortable withholding this information - then for your sake, tell him. I wouldn't recommend looking for any response or feedback from someone as two-faced as this guy, though: I'd recommend e-mail, text, or hell, even snail mail opposed to opening a dialogue with him. Link to post Share on other sites
fixing Posted March 29, 2013 Share Posted March 29, 2013 so sorry to read this. He is a disgusting cheating mofo. Dont tell him about the pregnancy. And go no contact forever. Make him pay for this foul cheating. NEVER give him another chance, he is scum. It upto you regarding the pregnancy... But, NC, and again im sorry for your pain right now Link to post Share on other sites
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