the_entertainer1 Posted March 29, 2013 Share Posted March 29, 2013 I met this guy through an online dating site and we've been on 5 dates over the last 5 weeks or so. We've had fun, I've met his friends - he's even told his mother about me! The thing is, we haven't kissed yet or had any sort of physical contact apart from hugs at the beginning and end of our dates. He said he hasn't had any relationship experience before and I don't think he's even kissed someone before. I'm kind of in the same boat - I've only kissed one guy before - so I'm being patient. I'd rather that than someone who tries to pressure me. I'm getting a bit worried that it'll turn into "just friends" instead of b/f & g/f. He's leaving for a 1-month holiday tomorrow, but says we'll Skype when he's gone. I'm not particularly confident when it comes to relationships. I'm too 'scared' to initiate a kiss with him but I can't really see him doing it - he's pretty shy. Are there any 'moves' that aren't too "out there" that I can use to signal to him that I want him to kiss me? I'm 24, he's 25 - I guess it's a bit "unusual" that neither of us have had much "experience" in our earlier years. It's not like either of us are weird or socially awkward - we've just been waiting for the right circumstances. Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 29, 2013 Share Posted March 29, 2013 When you hug when saying goodbye, make it a full body hug. Make a move to kind of press your body up to his and linger a little bit. That should turn him on 4 Link to post Share on other sites
CryForNoOne Posted March 29, 2013 Share Posted March 29, 2013 When you hug when saying goodbye, make it a full body hug. Make a move to kind of press your body up to his and linger a little bit. That should turn him on That's great advice. Anytime a woman does that or allows you to, without getting too graphic, you're going to know if he's turned on whether he wants you to know or not... Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_entertainer1 Posted March 29, 2013 Author Share Posted March 29, 2013 I agree, it's good advice. I've even tried it, but it almost seems like he doesn't want the hug to last for too long. I'm pretty sure he does like me (I guess he wouldn't have asked me out on 5 dates, introduced me to his friends, etc. if he didn't). Any other ideas, apart from me initiating a kiss myself? Link to post Share on other sites
Barnacle-Bob Posted March 29, 2013 Share Posted March 29, 2013 He's probably scared sh**less. You're going to have to lead on this one. Do what ES said, and then make it very obvious that you want to kiss him. He needs to know for sure that its safe. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Roadkill007 Posted March 29, 2013 Share Posted March 29, 2013 also, during the date when you two are walking around, you can hang off his arm. Maybe it'll make him want more enough to get over his nervousness and fears and initiate a kiss later on. Link to post Share on other sites
iKING Posted March 29, 2013 Share Posted March 29, 2013 Kiss him or lead him onto a kiss. Problem solved. Link to post Share on other sites
Bengal Tiger Posted March 29, 2013 Share Posted March 29, 2013 Oh this was me a few years ago. I went out with someone on 6 dates and never got up the courage to kiss her. She got bored and moved on. And she was so beautiful..... The poor guy is just nervous. At the end of your date, look at him and lick your lips or bite your lips. Then look at his lips and smile. When he leans in for the hug, its OK for you to initiate a kiss, or just keep giving him an intense but friendly eye contact and hold him close to you. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
TheGuard13 Posted March 29, 2013 Share Posted March 29, 2013 Just kiss him, or ask him if you can kiss him. He probably wants someone to take the lead. Link to post Share on other sites
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 29, 2013 Share Posted March 29, 2013 Flirt with him during the date. Hold on to his arm when you go down a step or something and leave it there afterwards. Look up into his face and smile as he talks or you're walking. If you're sitting beside each other, scoot in a bit as you're talking to each other. Look up into his eyes when he's talking. At the end of the date, when you're saying your goodbyes, stand fairly close to him, look up at his face and just keep the conversation going as you play with your keys or whatever. Personally, I prefer to let the guy move at his own pace. These things speed up the process when his pace isn't quite working for me. Link to post Share on other sites
charlietheginger Posted March 29, 2013 Share Posted March 29, 2013 His is shy or scared of rejection... Next time your out do something fun. Rollercoaster at a park, rock.climbing wall, swing on A swing at the park. When your all excited grab him ! AND SMACK A BIG KISS ON HIM ! Link to post Share on other sites
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