Trying to transition back into civilian life

[Marine0311]

So, I have posted here before about relationships, but this is my first time posting in this section. I have recently gotten out of the Marine Corps and now live back at home with my parents. I go to community college taking 21 credits and work construction 3 days a week making 100 a day.

 

I can not stand living back at home and making between 800-1200 dollars a month is nothing close enough to rent a place in my area. (Average studio/1 bedroom apartment is about 1350 a month).

 

I feel very depressed being single back home, living with my parents, not having much money, and am having troubles with ptsd/ just adapting to this new life. I feel like a loser living back at home even though I joined the marine corps at 17 and have done more things than anyone I know can say they have done.

 

I was hoping somebody could lead me in the right direction with job advice and just generally how to find happiness while beong so lonely

[january2011]

You have a job and are studying so, while it might not seem like much now, you are heading in the right direction. Save your money where you can so that you have enough for a rental deposit. If you need to move for a decent job, consider doing so and finishing your degree online.

 

I suggest getting your profile on LinkedIn, as a lot of N. American recruitment is done through that channel. Also sign up with recruitment agencies. If you still keep in contact with other veterans, I'd call around and catch up, let them know that you are looking. Even if you don't have specific experience, you've had great training in how to manage people and resources, so make sure that you highlight that in your CV. Any technical skills would probably also be a bonus. Have one generic CV that you can tailor for each job application. Spend a couple of hours or so each evening researching and applying for other jobs.

 

I understand it is tough being back home, but right now, needs must.

 

From your posting history, I can see that you recently went through a break up, so it is not surprising that you are feeling lonely. Set some personal and professional goals for yourself. Stay active. Perhaps try some meetups in your area and sign up for some volunteer work for a chance to meet new people.

 

Might also be worth googling for details of support organisations for veterans. I know some exist, but right now, the names escape me.

 

Edit: A quick Google brought up these links:

 

http://www.microsoft.com/about/corporatecitizenship/en-us/community-tools/job-skills/veterans/

 

http://www.ge.com/careers/culture/us-veterans

 

Don't know how well these fit with your skills and goals, but might be worth looking into these and other similar schemes.

Edited March 29, 2013 by january2011

[pie2]

I second January's recommendation to look for support for veterans. I imagine that they can offer a lot of guidance.

 

Don't put too much pressure on yourself to get your life completely established, right away. These things take time, and it's only to be expected that you'll have a long adjustment period.

 

Like with any decision (in regards to moving out) we all have to weigh the pros and cons to our decision. It seems like you're spending your time and money on school right now...rather than spending those days working and increasing your income. And with that decision, there will be consequences, both good and bad. So I guess it comes down to figuring out what is most important to you: finishing your education, or living independently. If you decide you really want to be on your own now, no worries...school will always be there.

 

But above all, I admire your motivation and drive. I'm sure you've accomplished a lot more than most will in a lifetime, and you'll be able to get through this challenge, too .