manolo Posted September 12, 2004 Share Posted September 12, 2004 Well here is my problem. Me and my girlfriend broke up in January and since then we will still hang out and talk every once in a while. She recently moved out of state so, the week before she left we made plans to hang out and spend some time together. It was a great day. Well, a week after she moved away she call me and told me that she misses me and wants me to go see her. I said o.k. and made plans to visit her in two months. During that time period I noticed that she started to call less and started going out and making new friends more often. I think its great that she is going out and making new friends but, don't tell me one thing on the phone and go be with someone else. I guess yall wanna know how I know that she is talking to other guys. O.K. here is my secrete. Oh yeh one more thing before I tell you. We were togher for three years and had a great relationship. I fell in love with this girl and unfortunatly we had a little down fall and broke up. We never got back together because she says she was confused and doesn't know what she wanted to do with her life. Which I respected her decision. I am a little upset that she decided to move away and not invite me because I sure as hell would of left everything behind just to be with her. Well, back to my little secrete that yall women will probably hate me for but anyway. I have her cell phone code to check her messages and she doesn't know. I have never used it till recently just to protect myself. Well, a month past by and she ask me if I was still coming over to visit and spend time together. I said yes and asked her I there are any surprises that I need to know about before I go out there. She said no, there are no surprises. Like I said I know her cell phone code and I know for a fact that she has been give her phone number out to other guys. And I heard alot of guys on the voice mail. So, I asked her if she gave her phone number out to any guys or have you been talking to any guys. Once again, she said no number has been givin out but she did make some male friends. Which is good, I have no problem her having friends of the opposite gender. But, she lied to me about her giving out her number. I thought about it for a while. Should I go or not. I thought maybe she just said that just to protect my feelings from being hurt. Once again she asked me I am coming over to see her like we planned. I said yes once again but under one condition. I am not coming over if you are seeing someone else. She said that she is not seeing anyone or met anyone that interest her. O.K. so I bought the ticket the next day because I believed her and she seems like she really wants to see me. I was so happy. In three weeks I get to see my baby. I didn't even bother to check her messages because I felt confident that I am that one she wants and that she wants me to move out there with her. All of sudden during these three weeks she doesn't return my calls or my messages. She started to sound less interested so, I her once more if she wanted to come over and see her. She still said yes but, I sensed something was up. So, I checked her messages and there are more guys calling her and leaving messages. Not only that but guys with no class at all. Burping on the phone, screaming, really imature type of people. Probably met all of them at a bar or something. Well, I already bought the plane ticket and it is non-refundable so, I have to go. She did tell me that she wants to see me and that she is not interested in anyone. So, now three days before I leave see tells me that she thinks that its not a good idea that I come over. As soon as she told me that I new that it had to be another guy involved. So, I asked her why are you telling me this three days before. She told me that she is seeing someone and that its not a good idea for us to see each other. Oh, yall are going to love this one. Then, she bust up with describing the new guy like I really wanna hear that. She tells me that he is from France and that he is a model. What the HELLL!!!!!! I wish her all the evil in the world and I hope she gets played by this French model for doing this to me. I just spent $285.00 on a plane ticket and now I have to pay an extra $100.00 just to cancell it. She really screw me over and played with my head. Three weeks ago she couldn't wait to see me and now she's with someone else. I hate her for this. The money is not the issue. It's her lying to me about her seeing other guys. Well enough about this. Please help me with some advice. I am really about to go crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
mighty bop Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 She definitley planned all that out. Don't cancel that ticket. Go make her life a living hell in the new place she lives. Then leave and never talk to her again. Chris Link to post Share on other sites
MJTig Posted September 16, 2004 Share Posted September 16, 2004 Both of you need to stop playing games and trying to psyche each other out... after 3 years you should be able to be honest with each other. Cut your losses... end the relationship, period. And don't look back. Link to post Share on other sites
FolderWife Posted September 16, 2004 Share Posted September 16, 2004 I like what bop said Go!!! Tell her that she owes you $300, and if she doesn't wire it to your account, you're coming out there as planned, and she and her little French model will have to sleep in the bed with you in the middle Oh yeah, I'd be really angry too and I'd still go Link to post Share on other sites
beautiful Posted September 23, 2004 Share Posted September 23, 2004 This is not about her but all about you. I feel that you have some serious issues and that needs to be resolved first so that you can become a healthier man that is ready to be in a healthy relationship. She was not your gf anymore because you wrote that you 2 broke up. The fact that you are allowing this girl to play you and that you snooping around tells me that you have issues! I could go on and on about this however I am making this short. This girl has zero respect for you and why should she? You can't respect yourself! She does not love you because you do not love yourself! Why? Because if you loved yourself and respected yourself you would not allow a girl or anyone else in your life to treat you poorly. I feel you have some serious inner work to do. After some time, once you completed this inner work, maybe , just maybe you ready for a healthy relationship. Remember we attract our mirror images. This girl is playing you and you only to eager to play along! Wishing her bad stuff is bad bad karma my friend. Forgive her and forgive yourself and move on. Good Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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