mtlguy Posted September 12, 2004 Share Posted September 12, 2004 Ill try not to make this too long.. Me and my GF started dating a year and a half ago.. I meet her 2 years ago on new years and I knew she was perfect for me.. Everything was perfect and i loved her to pieces.. Sure we had little fights here and there but overall I couldnt ask for a better relationship.. After some time she started complaining how I didnt want to have sex enought and how I didnt do enough small sentimental acts or items for her.. I guess that was where my 2 faults lacked.. I was just too preoccupied and never thought it was that big of a deal until after a 15 month of going out she said she wasent happy and didnt think we should be together. This was a total shock to me so we talked about it and then she told me that since i didnt provide enough for her sentimentaly or sexually she eventually got turned off and started liking a guy from work (shes 19 hes 28)... she admited to kissing him but nothing more.. I was devistated and told her I would change for good and just wanted to be with her.. She said she needed a break so we didnt talk for a few days and then she agreed to give it another try even though her feelings where not completly back... So now its been 3 months of trying and I can tell things are not what they use to be.. She dosent put in the effort to see me anymore or show me the affection she use to... So yesterday I was pretty bumbed by the way things have been and talked to her about it.. She said I dont think things are getting better the way they are now..( still going out but her feelings arnt 100% there) so she said if things are going to get any better in the future we should break out for now... So I asked is the guy she started to like had anything to do with it and she said that its over with him and hes not what she wants. So basically we arnt going out anymore,, she says she still loves me but just dosent want to go out with me... I dont know what to do anymore,, nothing seems to make me happy anymore I just keep thinking about her and crying... Any suggestions on what to do to make myself feel better would be a great help since im such a reck! thanks T Link to post Share on other sites
Sad Gurl Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 Don't feel alone, I am actually going through the exact same thing. My boyfriend and I had been together for 5 years and all of a sudden, about a month ago, he cheated on me with a 29 year old and I am too, 19. I have asked him time and again why he did what he did and he just says that he doesn't know. He tells me that he loves me, but at this time, that he can't be with me. I don't understand it either. I am willing to give him another chance, but he tells me that he can't because he has his heart torn in between that other girl and I. At first, I too would just think about him and cry. I am still sad about it, but I have just learned to pray during my weak moments so that I could gain strength. He tells me that we could be friends for now and time will tell us if we should eventually get back together, but in my mind, I just think the worst will end up happening. I suggest you pray during your times of weakness and ask for strength, because this has been the only way I have been getting by. This time in your life feels horrible, and it may seem that there is noone else that could do the things the same way that she did them, but you'd be surprised to find out that someone else will come around later. I know that it hurts to love someone when they don't love you back. That is what is happening in my situation also. However, you are a little luckier than I am. She at least tried to work things out with you and is being honest about her feelings. In my case, he doesn't want to give it another chance (not even when it was not my fault). And also, I feel that he doesn't have feelings for me at all anymore, but he won't tell me. I have to think the worst and continue life without him. You, at least know the truth. She is telling you. With that, you should be able to move forward even though, I know, it hurts. I still communicate at times with my ex-boyfriend, but it hurts so much. At times, I call him and he doesn't respond to my phone calls. He doesn't answer them and he don't return them. But what makes me even more confused is that when we do talk, he tells me that he is my friend and that he will come by to see how I am doing and to call him for any reason. But, why say that whenever you aren't going to do it? Well, I hope that the pain begins to become a little less stressful for you. How recent has this occurred? Does she still talk to you? I am a little sorry for posting such a long message, but I felt that I could vent with a person that is going through the exact same thing with me. Maybe we could help each other... Link to post Share on other sites
Author mtlguy Posted September 21, 2004 Author Share Posted September 21, 2004 Well after writting this post last week we sorta god back together. things where amazing for a few days then near the end of last week things started to fall apart again and yesterday she broke it off again.... So I guess this time its official thats its over... Times goes by so slow and I cant seem to think about anything ealse but her.. I dont know what to do with myself anymore. Every song on the radio, every street , just everything reminds me of her and I cant get her out of my head.... So you guys have any suggestions to help me get threw the next few days, weeks, months! thanks for your help................................ Link to post Share on other sites
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