what to do

[otherwom]

Hello everyone

 

one more time i'm so confused!!!!

the past days i've been observing the man i'm in love

and can't stop observing several faces!!!

i don't know if it depends on the hour

or how he does it anyway

its like you talk to a different person every time

his face even changes

i don't know exactly what's going on in his life all the details the thing i've notice is that when the phone rings and its his wife he says a simple yes what do you want and after one second his close the phone without any answer or even a goodbye..

he has said to me that at home he doesn't speak at all

not even a hello

i believe that cause i ve heared it from her also

can't stop wondering thought how can he not speak to his family and speak with me all the time.. don't know

i've been told that he is unhappy there i've been even asked if i was satisfied by that..that was the one face

the other face another day told me that we don't even have a relationship

and don't be confused of what we are

in all these 10 years i ve never thought we were together

he was the one when i returned to him again that was sitting down saying he couldn't believe i was back after i broke up with him the last time..

how can i break up with someone when i m not in a relationship with him???

another of his faces told me he wants me so badly but its not easy to find time to be with me

my answer was if you want you make time

he said he tries but not with success

i now he is confused

and pretends all of his life

he is best at it

he has confenced that to me

i once told him that i'm not a foul i know that he pretends to me also i just don't know exactly witch of the faces are true and witch are fake

how can i be in love with such a person?

why do i feel sorry for him?

he has put himself into a life that doesn't make him happy and he breaths only when he is away from it

and as the years pass and children grow he sees its not easy anymore to leave as he could..

his words all that

i told him he is blind and he will explode eventually cause all that aren't enough for a person

will he listen eventually?

do i want him to listen??

pfffffff

i can't even stand myself anymore!!!!

[wisernow]

I know you've said that English isn't your first language and I applaud you for trying to tell your story here. Thing is, it's very hard to understand what your trying to get across. I have a suggestion though that may help you. Go to google translate, type in your language, translate to English, then copy and paste that into your thread. The translation might be a bit off, but I think more people will be better able to understand what you're trying to convey.

 

Hope that helps.

Edited March 31, 2013 by wisernow

[otherwom]

yes English isn't my first language you are correct about that

but i have a lower degree and know i'm having proficiency lessons..

when i say my English aren't good i mean i'm not aware of all the expressions

that you use

and my speak may seem more simple..

please explain me what you did not understand of what i've written so i could write it down again correct this time..

As for the google translate that you suggested believe me is no use and i can also prove it i can sit and write down in my language the same text make it in English afterwords and post it here so you could see the difference..

i 'm waiting for your answer cause really what matters to me is to find people to talk about all my thoughts because as you all propably know these things can't be told to any one

i'm do not care for answers that tells me only about my English..

that does not help my situation at all..

 

thank you again

[n1BB1t]

Hi there, perhaps I could try to understand your situation.

I guess your guy doesn't know what he want and wanted things to go on like like. Perhaps he is more concerned about how he feel.

 

Now I guess you must be confused as in he doesn't show he want to leave his family for you. And sometimes when he talk to his wife, he shows he doesn't really care things happened at home. And when he was with you, he knew you would always be there for him so he didn't care for you much.

 

After you left him, he was so worried that no more would care for him and was so used of you to be around him. Is that a relationship or he just need someone to take care of him only he himself knew the answer.

 

10 years is not a short period. I believe no matter how his relationship with his wife is, if there's children involve, he would want to be physically there for them and see them grow. In another words, he wouldn't ever leave his family for us. That's what happen to me and my ex mm once his baby is born he told me he can't leave his family anymore and want to stay by them see them grow. This make me make the decision to move on. I admit I do still love him but I also do believe there's no future for us.

 

How are you feeling now ?

[otherwom]

thank you really for answering me

it was never a subject to leave his family for me

or for him cause i didn't speak at all

i was only excepting all of his behaviour towards me and his life

i believe that he wont leave his family but not for the children

but because he is used to this situation

i dont have any children on my own and i do a lot of questions on how it is to be a parent so i could try to understand..

he doesn't seem the kind of father that wants to be around the children

he seems the kind of person that had to have children cause he was 3 years married and had to move the wedding one more step..

i know he is in to me and that my feelings are stronger than his

there are days that i'm strong enough to even say go to hell i want to live my life

and there are days that i search him and wait for him like crazy...

[otherwom]

i have written down the hole story in another thread called the story of my life i don't know if that will give you more answers to what you ask me

i ve left him for 4 years and now i'm back

and i m confused and for the reason i'm back to him

and about what is really going on

i want to be able to leave and never come back

and then i m thinking of giving it another try since i'm back again

the conclusion is that i want to be free of the feelings i have for him cause

its an oneway road

and i've walked that road over and over again all these years

but i have to put him out of the throne that i have put him all these years that's why i'm now observing everything and tell him everything i think

i think it ma help me understand his not the prince in my life

i don't expect from someone to tell me what to do

i just need so much

to speak about that cause i can't speak anywhere else

and my brain is about to explode from all the thoughts it has inside...