mm891 Posted September 12, 2004 Share Posted September 12, 2004 How should I deal with a wife I persuaded to go into swopping ( it took me 2 years ) to get out of the habit? Link to post Share on other sites
Honesty Posted September 12, 2004 Share Posted September 12, 2004 What is swopping? Link to post Share on other sites
Max Zoom Posted September 12, 2004 Share Posted September 12, 2004 Max is surprised at you Honesty. Are you sure you're from Sin City? Link to post Share on other sites
Honesty Posted September 12, 2004 Share Posted September 12, 2004 Originally posted by Max Zoom Max is surprised at you Honesty. Are you sure you're from Sin City? Honesty does live in Sin City, but unfortunately is not familiar with that term. Honesty now gets the idea that it might have to do something with gambling. Is Honesty right? Link to post Share on other sites
Max Zoom Posted September 12, 2004 Share Posted September 12, 2004 Honesty baby, Max is so delighted to meet you. He thinks if you were his girl he would never agree to engage in any "swopping" with another couple. Max would be too jealous and would want to keep you all too himself. Link to post Share on other sites
Honesty Posted September 12, 2004 Share Posted September 12, 2004 I guess Honesty was wrong and mm891 was really talking about swingers. Honesty is very delighted to meet you too Honesty is grateful to you for letting her in on what swopping is all about. Link to post Share on other sites
Greta Posted September 16, 2004 Share Posted September 16, 2004 Careful what you wish for -- you just might get it. That being said, depending on how frequently you and your wife were swapping it may indeed be a very hard habit to break. As long as your totally honest with her and tell her that your just not comfortable with that whole scene anymore & why, she should stop pursuing the swapping -- given that she has any respect for you & your marriage. I'm curious, what about the swapping has you spooked? Are you jealous, afraid she might like the other partner better, just having your own insecurities, or maybe she's the one now taking the lead? It's also important, if couples are going to participate in those kind of things, that you guys have 'just us' time -- a lot more, than your swapping time. You have a long road ahead of you, remember it took 2 years to talk her into it, it will take some time & adjusting to get out of that habit. Link to post Share on other sites
Barby Posted September 16, 2004 Share Posted September 16, 2004 I'm curious, what about the swapping has you spooked? Are you jealous, afraid she might like the other partner better, just having your own insecurities, or maybe she's the one now taking the lead? It's also important, if couples are going to participate in those kind of things, that you guys have 'just us' time -- a lot more, than your swapping time. Well said...I too am curious as to WHY since YOU were the one who wanted to do this (no doubt so you could sleep with other people w/out her being mad) now that SHE'S into it you no longer wish to do this??? Is it because you've had YOUR fun, your finished "sleeping with whoever you'd like" now that she's doing it you're uncomfortable and jealous??? You should have thought about all this BEFORE entering into this type of lifestyle. You have a long road ahead of you, remember it took 2 years to talk her into it, it will take some time & adjusting to get out of that habit. Were YOU doing it BEFORE she consented to engage as well? (I think you probably were that's why you tried to talk her into joining). If so well my point above will serve here too...if not please explain so we can help you better. Link to post Share on other sites
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