sock83 Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 hey all, sometimes i think i have all the ansewers and souloutions but as everyone does here i get confused as well. read about my situation in crash&burn post. i need some advice for a change. everything seemed to be going great then i call her last night and she's really distant again, yo yo syndrome, it's really not helping me but any ideas or advice on why people(ex's) are hot and then cold. mmmmmm thanks sock83 Link to post Share on other sites
prevch Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 ohh ohh I know I know! Well first of all most girls under the age of 25 are emotional rollercoasters. that's not to say they aren't good people I honestly think it is biological. People get confused. don't give up though!! Take some advice from my wise father "if you aim and shoot at nothing, that is exactly what you will hit, nothing" meaning if you give up then you are shotting for nothing. Take the good with the bad that is what this whole situation is about. It will take her time to realize just how good of a guy you are but trust me when she realizes it it will hit her like a ton of bricks. Link to post Share on other sites
backspn Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 Exactly prev....my ex...I mean my soon to be girl again has bad days and good days. When we talk she gets mad and its not cause she's mad at me or that she doesnt care about me.....it's just she's having a bad day and Im there. Simple. She takes it out on her friends and family and me. It doesnt make her a bad person...just young. You are SO right prev....I knew this would be a rollercoaster....my friends told me it would be but she IS worth it. We talked last night for almost 40 minutes and it was really good...we laughed and had a good time. But I also know she might not call tonight....and that doesnt mean ANYTHING but that she didnt call. Remember your goal Socks.....stay in the game and treat her right when she doesnt do the same to you. Im not pessimistic like some others in this community.....she WILL eventually realize how good you are to her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sock83 Posted September 13, 2004 Author Share Posted September 13, 2004 Thanks mate, look i think nothing is impossible it's just the time inbetween that seems impossible. What romantic thing are you planning also whats your situation, do they ever come back? Link to post Share on other sites
prevch Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 girls come back all the time. People break up and get back together every single day. Especially if it ended for no good reason. Here is a good example My cousin got dumped by his girlfriend for another guy. they were broken up for 6 months..guess what? Today they are married and have a happy home together. Just be you man. She fell in love with YOU!!!!! and she knows she loves you. I think you're golden man just keep you chin up. Link to post Share on other sites
backspn Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 My ex knows how well I treated her and I know she appreciates it and remembers it. We didnt end it on a bad note and we have kept in touch since...almost 6 months. We are still really good friends. I believe that once 2 people have shared a love so strong that it never dies, only hibernates. I think its easier to fall back in love with someone when the breakup was on good terms than falling in love with someone new. Alot of people will disagree but I believe it. Being confortable around someone is key. Link to post Share on other sites
prevch Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 I think so too Link to post Share on other sites
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