EagleChick13 Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 Hi Everyone, I just have a quick question what does it mean when a guy says he is bad at relationships??? Does he mean he is unfaithful or just plain stinks at it? Guys/Girls need advice on this please because I am about to make a decision that I don't want to get hunt from. Does anyone have past experience from that word "bad at relationships." Thax. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 There is no Universal Relationship Language in which every person means the same thing when they say something. The only way to know what he means is to ask him. He could mean he's always late or that he regularly murders spouses. The only person who knows what he meant is him. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted September 14, 2004 Share Posted September 14, 2004 what does it mean when a guy says he is bad at relationships? Perhaps it means that he is not planning to treat you well, and wants to give you fair notice first. Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted September 14, 2004 Share Posted September 14, 2004 I think it can mean that: - he has not been in a serious relationship before, or he was once dumped out of the blue, or he disappointed his previous partners without realizing it until it was too late....so now he is afraid he will mess things up. - as Solemate said, he is planning to treat you badly. - he always ended up being treated badly. - he is not really planning to treat you badly, but he always ended treating his previous partners badly because he is a selfish, unromantic, uncaring or [add any other adjectives here] person by nature. - he is a serial cheater. - he is jealous and possessive. Only guy who said that to me, turned out to be *really* bad at relationships. Among other things, he was extremely talented at crossing lines with female friends. Ask this guy what he meant.....try to find out something about his previous relationships. If he is quite young, he does not have a lot of experience and this would be his first real relationship, IMO there is no reason to worry. How old is he? Also, if it was some whiny immature ex-gf of his to give him the idea he was bad at relationships because he could not fulfill some very high expectation of her, I think that again you have nothing to worry about. Link to post Share on other sites
Wolvesbaned Posted September 15, 2004 Share Posted September 15, 2004 What does it mean when a guy says he is bad at relationships? It means don't take him seriously. Look at the bright side: at least he knows himself enough & probably experienced life a little to come to this conclusion & warn you ahead of time. Good luck & have fun! Link to post Share on other sites
snilljente Posted September 15, 2004 Share Posted September 15, 2004 I agree that it's likely his way or warning you that he hasn't been successful in the relationship arena, so you won't be surprised when he isn't successful with you.....and he's how old? Link to post Share on other sites
Author EagleChick13 Posted September 15, 2004 Author Share Posted September 15, 2004 Hi everyone, I have read your posts and they are excellant. His age is 21 and I have known a story about his ex g/f, she was a little jealous when he was starting to hang out with another of his female friend to much, but it was not me, another girl he has known for a few years and at the time they were not really getting along I never did ask about his relationships because it is really none of my buisness but now I am curious. But his last relationship lasted eight months long and he did seem romantic because he was asking me what could he do for his g/f and me being the female I gave him some ideas and he brought her a pair of diamond earings for Christmas and other wonderful things for her. Maybe she did brainwash him that he is bad at relationships, also when he and his ex g/f we're together we were never close, he kept to himself after they broke up is when we got close, however I have noticed somethings, he has a "slight dominating" problem when we talk, I like to get my point across so does he and what I mean by that he likes to give me an attitude all the time. I swear he only does that with me and no one else. Maybe again because he is afraid of being hurt. I don't know. And when some of you said he plans to treat you badly, your exactly right. The first sign is beginning to show, "dominance" or otherwise he is just doing that so no one can get close to him. I have no idea I will have to think about this. And I know he is young but something to him in the past happened and at such a young age he is pushing others away. Hmmmmmmmm Link to post Share on other sites
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